Irrational wedding fears and he's lucky he's not sleeping on the couch

mrsmagicgeek

Ok, so I have this irrational fear that my teeth are going to fall out before the wedding.  Not necessarily all of them, mainly the front ones.  I am aware that this is irrational, but I'm still not going to risk it by biting into anything tough... at least, not for the next 8 days (holy cow, 8 days!)

Anyway, last night we had corn on the cob for supper.  My daughter has braces, so we have one of those tools that helps get the corn off the cob (also handy for canning).  I borrowed her tool and scraped the corn off my ear.  FI watched me, and raised an eyebrow at me.  I explained what was going on, and he just said "OK" in that way that actually means something like "I think that's nuts, but I know better than to say anything with 8 days to go because it would mean badness for me."  I put a little butter and salt on my corn, and took a bite.  It tasted really weird.  I told FI that, and he says, "Well, the butter is rancid."

EXCUSE ME?

So, there is a new rule in our house:  If you know something in the house has gone off, throw it out.  If you see someone about to eat something you know isn't right, say something!

By the way, I think the teeth-falling-out thing is left over from dreams I had when I was pregnant.  It's apparently not uncommon to have very vivid dreams that your teeth are falling out (I don't remember what it's supposed to mean), and these were so vivid that I used to wake up and make sure all my teeth were still there.  But yeah, I still know it's irrational!

Maggie0829

Wow, butter can go rancid?  I guess it doesn't last long enough in my house for that to happen.

And about your teeth, Hilary Duff broke one of her teeth the day (or was it the night before) her wedding, rushed to the dentist, got it fixed, and still made her wedding on time.

beethery

I read somewhere that teeth-falling-out dreams mean that you feel like you're talking too much.

I used to have them in combination with clothes-going-missing dreams. And tattoos-falling-off dreams.

I'm glad I don't really remember dreams very often because when i do they're obviously crazy.

JCbride2015

Hahahahah.  Fi would totally do that about the butter.  He's the only one in our house who uses the milk, and he'll leave bad milk in the fridge for days until I notice it.  Yuck.

My two front teeth actually are going to eventually fall out because of damage from my braces, so I'll one-up you on that one.  I need to get implants before the wedding and I keep putting it off because $$$$$, but I really don't want to look like a jack-o-lantern on my wedding day.  It could be worse!

But AAAHHHH 8 days!  So exciting!

PineapplePopsicles

Maggie0829 said:

Wow, butter can go rancid?  I guess it doesn't last long enough in my house for that to happen.

And about your teeth, Hilary Duff broke one of her teeth the day (or was it the night before) her wedding, rushed to the dentist, got it fixed, and still made her wedding on time.

truth.

emmaaa

I had a dream couple of months ago that all of my teeth fell out. If @beethery is right, I need to try to not talk all of the damn time!

And I'm with @Maggie0829, butter doesn't last long in our house.

mysticl

I used to have teeth falling out dreams all the time. My enamel didn't form right so I've ended up with a lot of dental work. Losing my teeth is a big fear….also my mom had to have all of her teeth removed and the reason is genetic, so valid fear.

wandajune6

You're thinking teeth, I keep thinking fingernails.

The butter move was horrible. It sounds like what my teen stepson does. I poured milk on a bowl of cereal the other day in front of him he mentions that the milk has gone sour as I'm about to eat my first bite. I may have raised my voice.

mrsmagicgeek

Butter usually doesn't last that long here either, but we seem to hit it in waves.  I haven't been eating it because I've been trying to take off some weight, and apparently no one else has used it in awhile either.  FI buys this special organic butter from cows that are massaged and sung to at night or something like that, so the bulk of it lives in the fridge, but whatever is in the dish sits out.

He ate it, too, so he really didn't think it was a big deal, but the Pennsylvania Dutch in him doesn't let him throw anything out unless it's crawling away.  I don't have that problem :P

The thing of it was, this was after he sent his mother over to the house while he wasn't home.  He was working.  I was, too, but I work at home!  His mom lives in another country and is in the US visiting relatives, and she wanted to pick something up.  However, FI doesn't want her at our wedding (or anyone else, it's just going to be the two of us and my daughter) so she has no idea when we're getting married.  I got to spend two hours bean-dipping, so he'd already used up any good FI points he'd earned recently :P

And yeah, 8 days.  My brain is not on work!

Maggie0829

foundmymagicgeek said:

Butter usually doesn't last that long here either, but we seem to hit it in waves.  I haven't been eating it because I've been trying to take off some weight, and apparently no one else has used it in awhile either.  FI buys this special organic butter from cows that are massaged and sung to at night or something like that, so the bulk of it lives in the fridge, but whatever is in the dish sits out.

Hahahaha!!!!

climbingsingle

I've read that dreaming about your teeth falling out means you're holding something in that you want to say. 

lurkergirl

True story-FI dreamed that his tooth fell out, and I said, "It's okay," and pulled out my own tooth and put it in his mouth.

beethery

lurkergirl said:

True story-FI dreamed that his tooth fell out, and I said, "It's okay," and pulled out my own tooth and put it in his mouth.

That is so fucking gnarly.

lurkergirl

beethery said:

lurkergirl said:

True story-FI dreamed that his tooth fell out, and I said, "It's okay," and pulled out my own tooth and put it in his mouth.

That is so fucking gnarly.

Hahahahaha!  That was basically his reaction as he told me about it!

ohannabelle

I'd always heard that teeth falling out dreams were a fear of aging, or fears about "falling apart." The second makes more sense to me. Of course, with all dream symbolism, it would mean something different to each person. Someone who's had a lot of dental issues, vs someone who's turning forty, vs someone who's losing their job.....the same symbol could mean many different things. 

ac411020

I broke my bottom 2 front teeth exactly one week before my wedding. Luckily, my dentist was able to fit me and fixed them with 3 days to go! So totally not an irrational fear in my book.

pinkcow13

lurkergirl said:

True story-FI dreamed that his tooth fell out, and I said, "It's okay," and pulled out my own tooth and put it in his mouth.

Holy crap I totally misinterpreted this - I thought you meant that FI TOLD you he dreamed that his tooth fell out, and so in real life you pulled out your tooth (I assumed denture) and put it in his mouth. I was like 

I dream about my tooth or teeth falling out and it freaks me out. I think I heard that someone is going to die when you dream about teeth falling out. At least that's what my mom tells me, but she also tells me I'm going to go broke if I leave my bag on the floor. So there's that.

JennyColada

lurkergirl said:

True story-FI dreamed that his tooth fell out, and I said, "It's okay," and pulled out my own tooth and put it in his mouth.

I mean, I guess that's kind of romantic in a weird and creepy Silence of the Lambs kind of way.

lurkergirl

Y'all are cracking me up! @Pinkcow13, that would be horrifying! Perfect picture to capture the feeling, haha!

missdelilah

I have the teeth falling out dream all the time.  I was told that it was about fear of loss of control, or something.  I hope they go away.  I find them really horrible.

If it makes you feel any better, I'm six months out and I'm already having bloody wedding nightmares.  I'd say, "screw the whole thing and do it next week" if it weren't winter in Sydney (and an usually bad one) and my dress hasn't come in yet it.

pinkshorts27

WAIT, I'm not the only one who dreams of their teeth falling out?! OMG my life is so much better now. I have those dreams all the time and wake up sweating. 

mrsmagicgeek

pinkshorts27 said:

WAIT, I'm not the only one who dreams of their teeth falling out?! OMG my life is so much better now. I have those dreams all the time and wake up sweating. 

Lol nope, you're not the only one! They really are freaky. Loss of control makes sense, since I am freaking out. Not about being married to FI, but about the actual ceremony. I just want everything to go well, and for there to be one picture I don't hate. Just one. That's not a lot to ask, right?? Plus I'm feeling guilty about not telling his mom our plans. We're having supper with her Friday night and not telling her is going to be tough. Fi's choice, though. She would insist on going if she knew, and that's not what we want. Blech!

TK is going nuts, sorry if this posts a zillion times!

missdelilah

I think the point is that a ton of us sympathize with you and have been through similar things.  It's totally normal to stress about the wedding day, and the wedding itself.  It's certainly complicated by the fact that you're keeping it a secret from you FMIL.  I'm sure that has a lot to do with it.  Does she know that you guys are getting married without her, and just not when?  I'm a little unclear, but NMB, I know.  Perhaps you two having that conversation with her would ease some of the stress.

*I have absolutely no training in psychology or psychiatry.  Hopefully someone who does can weigh in.

huskypuppy14

pinkcow13 said:

lurkergirl said:

True story-FI dreamed that his tooth fell out, and I said, "It's okay," and pulled out my own tooth and put it in his mouth.

Holy crap I totally misinterpreted this - I thought you meant that FI TOLD you he dreamed that his tooth fell out, and so in real life you pulled out your tooth (I assumed denture) and put it in his mouth. I was like 

I dream about my tooth or teeth falling out and it freaks me out. I think I heard that someone is going to die when you dream about teeth falling out. At least that's what my mom tells me, but she also tells me I'm going to go broke if I leave my bag on the floor. So there's that.

I thought that too!

mrsmagicgeek

Oh yeah, she knows we're engaged and that the three of us are going to run off somewhere and get married privately - she just doesn't like it. I know we can't tell her and that it's his mom and his choice, and that makes it easier to swallow. It would have been easier if her visit back to the US wasnt at the same time!

missdelilah

I can completely see why it would be easier if she didn't happen to be in the country.  So you guys are just going to duck out for the day?  Should be fun either way.  And most mothers probably wouldn't be overly keen on the idea of missing their child's wedding, but it's your (in the multiple) choice.