So FI and I are really great friends with another couple, we've known each other for years (we all met at work). I had been planning on asking her to be my MOH, and FI was planning on asking him to be a groomsman.
Well yesterday they broke up. FI and I will remain friends with both of them, as well love them both, but we are sad that things didn't work out between them, but obviously we want both of them to be happy, whether that means they are together or not. Anyways, I had been planning on asking her yesterday, but of course decided it would be a very bad time.
Obviously I am going to wait a little bit to talk to her, and FI will wait to talk to him. I am just not sure how long is a good amount of time to wait to ask her. A month? Two months? The wedding is about a year away, so I know there's no rush. But the bigger question/problem is, we aren't sure how amicable their breakup was, so I'm not sure how comfortable either of them would be if they were both in the wedding party. Obviously we want to put their feelings first, but we would be sad if one of them or both of them wasn't in the wedding party or didn't come to the wedding at all.
So long story not so short, how appropriate would it be to talk to them separately (and should it be FI and I together, or just me and her, and FI and him?) and find out how comfortable they would be knowing the other person would be in the wedding party too? Of course we will probably wait at the very least a month or so to discuss this, but probably longer.