My boyfriend's mother and I always got along great. Until now.
My fiance works for his parents now and we would hang out with them quite often. We even vacation with them.
My boyfriend proposed to me on our annual vacation and ever since we said we wanted a destination wedding, his mother has become a nightmare!
My father is not around and my mother cannot afford to pitch in anything for our wedding. My family really doesnt have any money and his family does. So, thinking this would save them the aggravation of paying for everything, we decided we would just have a small destination wedding and pay for it ourselves, anyone that came would also pay for themsleves. His mother flipped! She says that we are selfish and didn't consider that it would be hard for his handicapped sister to go to a beach wedding. And she also says she refuses to fly because she "doesn't fly". Her not flying is complete crap becasue they have been on a ton of family vacations that they flew to. She says that those were once in a lifetime trips. Well what do you think a wedding is! He is the youngest and first to get married, I would think that would qualify as a once in a lifetime thing? But anyway, back to his sister. I suppose we should have thought this through a bit more but his sister does not have a problem getting around. Yes, she is in a wheelchair, but that does not stop her from going camping, going to Vegas and the Grand Canyon, the list goes on. She is always going somewhere and doing something.
Two days after returning from our annual vacation with his parents, she immediatelly wanted to start wedding planning. I guess she didn't think we were serious about the destinaition wedding. She flipped again! Started talking about my mom and my sister, called me trash and even went so far as to google me and find the address to the house I grew up in and made terrible comments about what a dump it was and how embarrassed she would be to live there! Mind you, she grew up the same way I did! she didnt't come into money until she married my future father in law!
She drinks every night and drunk texts nasty things to their family about me and my family! And she sees nothing wrong with it because she doesn't say it directly to me.
So, we decided that we would do what she wants and get married here. It is the complete opposite of what we want but I guess it is worth it to stop the drama. he emailed his parents, brother and sister to tell them that we found a few places that we would get married here and none of them respond to the email. he sends another email asking why noone responded and his sister send back an email about how she lost the little bit of respect she had for him (they have never liked eachother so I don't know why she is even making a big deal about our wedding, they constantly fight. She just likes to be involved in any drama she can get into). So now what? Do we continue planning awedding here that they arent acknowledging or do we do what we originally planned and elope alone now?
And also, his sister had no problem with our destination wedding until their mother got her all wound up telling her that we dont care if she goes and that we wanted to do this just so she couldn't go! Which is completely ridiculous...