AWish: Well, this is pretty good!

beethery

So FI and I were discussing wedding stuff yesterday. Mostly catering options. I've talked about the compromise we've agreed on in other posts, so I'm not going to rehash it here. Because:

FI is making a conscious effort to get through his anxiety in the year leading up to the wedding. 

By the time invitations need to go out, if he thinks he can handle it, WE WILL BE ABLE TO INVITE EVERYONE TO THE CEREMONY AS WELL AS THE RECEPTION!!!!

I am so fucking excited at this being a possibility. He and I both would love for everyone to be able to attend the ceremony, but the anxiety is a big problem for him. I'm really happy that he's going to work on it and at least TRY to make it happen for the ceremony. This is such a huge relief.

holyguacamole79

That's awesome!

lyndausvi

That is great  to hear.  

sarawifenow

Yay!!!

cupcait927

Yay!!

blabla89

Awesome!

slothiegal

Eeeeee!  YAY!!!!  Keep us updated!!!

birdybride2014

YAYYYY! I bet you are so happy!!

beethery

It is going to be a huge huge huge relief if he gets this worked out. We're still hinging on the 'if' because he's got a ways to go, but damn that would be so great.

AprilH81

Out of curiosity, what is he doing to "work on it".  Is he trying medication?  Therapy?  I'm not trying to be snarky, just curious.

beethery

He's going to give therapy a shot. We're both focusing on getting in shape as well, and some of his anxiety is due to him being self conscious about his body image. He dealt with a lot of shit growing up about his weight, and apparently that was a factor in his anxiety issues.

Hopefully him talking it out with a pro gets him into a better place with this.

photokitty

WooHoo!

slothiegal

beethery said: He's going to give therapy a shot. We're both focusing on getting in shape as well, and some of his anxiety is due to him being self conscious about his body image. He dealt with a lot of shit growing up about his weight, and apparently that was a factor in his anxiety issues.
Hopefully him talking it out with a pro gets him into a better place with this.


As your friendly neighborhood slothie with a major anxiety disorder who has done just about EVERYTHING over the past 20 years to deal with it, let me just say (and I'm sure you both already know this, I just want to stress it): do not give up after just one or two sessions of therapy.  I hated therapy, but a large part of it was that I would go to one session, get frustrated or freaked out, and give up.  It's a journey, and he needs to be committed to it.  If he eventually decides to go the medication route, the same advice applies.  It took me years to get the right cocktail of drugs, and it's still a work in process with tweaks being made.

I know it sounds like super common sense, but at my lowest points, I've lost focus of the fact that it's an ongoing process, and I've have had to be reminded it.

TOO MUCH REAL TALK TIME FOR A GIF:

beethery

Thank you Slothie I will pass that on.

He doesn't have any anxiety issues unless he has to stand up in front of a group/crowd/etc. Thankfully this isn't a daily thing he has to deal with, so he lucked out.

slothiegal

beethery said:

Thank you Slothie I will pass that on.

He doesn't have any anxiety issues unless he has to stand up in front of a group/crowd/etc. Thankfully this isn't a daily thing he has to deal with, so he lucked out.

Ahh gotcha!

Also, I somehow misread that and thought it said "unless he has to stand up in front of gunpowder" and I was like, "well that's a strangely specific situation" and then wanted to know what crazy pyrotechnics were going down at your wedding.

beethery

Personally, if I had to hang out in front of gunpowder, depending on who the other bystanders were, I might have anxiety too.

abbyj700

Going to echo PP's - hanging out in front of gun powder would give me quite a bit of angst. :-)

Congrats OP! Happy to hear you're both approaching this in such a healthy way and some progress is being made!