Looking for a little feedback on a situation I encountered this past weekend. I was invited to a bachelorette party for the fiancé of my fiancé's cousin and was less than thrilled with how things panned out. I am trying to stay calm and not create animosity with his family but we are both upset with the situation and I'm unsure of how to handle it at this point. The MOH (sister of the bride) contacted everyone about a party bus to take us to several wineries and then a hotel stay after. Being that the bachelor party is the same evening, I figured I should be the one to go home and take care of our animals and let my fiancé enjoy himself with his family. I promptly text the sister that I'd accompany them on the bus and spend the day with them but would not be staying overnight and sent in my money. Cut to two days before the event, I receive a text informing me that I'm no longer able to ride the bus due to an overbooking and several people changing their minds. I am encouraged to drive myself an hour + to the wineries and then follow the bus while we winery hop. I inform the MOH that this situation puts me in a pickle since I won't be able to drink (I am a major lightweight) and safely drive me and my future sister in law safely to which she informs me that it's my decision whether or not I care to drink and that we were asked not to ride the bus since we're not spending the night. She agrees to give us all but $5 of our money, the $5 being to accommodate the bride and whatever beverages she might want throughout the day(which more than upsets my fiancé). I understand that I am not going for the sole purpose of drinking and that I'm going for the benefit of the bride but the bride has never been friendly or warm towards me in the past and I don't particularly like the idea of driving so far only to feel uncomfortable and unwanted. I text the MOH and bride to let them know I won't be attending the winery portion but will drive an hour to join them at dinner instead. MOH again has snotty reply but the bride seems to understand and gives me the time and location for dinner. My future sister in law and I drive out to dinner and end up waiting over an hour for them to show up. We angrily decide to order and are nearly finished eating when the bachelorette party shows us and passes right by us without even noticing our presence. They don't text/call or even attempt to look for us, simply order their food and continue socializing amongst themselves. As we're paying our tab, a cousin spots us and comes over to chat. After realizing that the bride has yet to greet us, the cousin goes to fetch her. The bride is friendly but after 5 minutes states that her food has arrived and that we should come say goodbye before we leave. She doesn't thank us for coming or invite us to join them, just walks away to her dinner. Obviously irate, we leave. How am I supposed to handle this? To top everything off, I'm out $30 for a bus I wasn't allowed to ride and had agreed to attend a bridal shower for her the upcoming weekend. Am I being petty? Should I be brushing this off and chalking it up to poor planning? Appreciate your input, just don't see how things went so wrong.