Permission to have a pity party.

ElcaB

I feel so low right now and I just want to cry. 

Friday night/Saturday morning I woke up from severe abdominal pain. FI took me to the ER and I got admitted to the hospital. They thought it was appendicitis, but scans indicated it wasn't. Because of my escalated white cell count, they concluded I must have a virus of some sort. After a few days of morphine, they discharged me with some prescriptions for Tylenol & an anti-nausea and stomach acid medicine. I feel a lot better, but not great. I'm so discouraged. I wish I knew what exactly happened, and above all I really want to just feel better. 

On top of that, my bachelorette party is this weekend and I'm really worried I won't be able to enjoy myself because I feel crummy. I'm also worried about having another severe pain episode --- I'll be in a cabin for the weekend with my BMs and am not sure what we'll do if something happens. 

I also had my first dress fitting yesterday & didn't feel like it was a great experience. The seamstress started pinning my dress for a French bustle, which is totally not my style. She didn't even ask me if it was what I wanted, so I explained to her I'd like something a little more traditional. She ended up pinning a nine-point bustle, which surprised me. I know the more points a bustle has, the more secure it is, but nine points!? I just don't feel right about the whole experience. 

I'm totally exhausted from my hospital episode and I just want to cry, period. Right now the wedding seems really overwhelming and I just feel like I don't have anything left to give. This isn't ideal at the one-month mark. There is way too much to do. On top of that, the house is a total mess and I just have no energy to clean it (that was supposed to be the weekend's project, but obviously the whole hospital thing got in the way). FI cleaned up some to help, but it's just something I need to do myself because I'm very particular about it. 

I feel so down

TL;DR: I went to the hospital for a mystery "virus" and still feel semi-crummy, I didn't like my first fitting, and I have too much to do one month from the wedding and have zero strength or motivation to do it. 

jenna8984

Aaaaw! I wish I knew how to pppy gif for you but I'm gif-challenged. That really sucks, that is always the worst whn they can't give a conclusive "this is what caused it". Because like you said- is it going to come back at any time? I really hope you feel bette and that it was a weird fluke that never happens again. I'm sure your girls will understand if you just lay low in the cabin and relax this weekend and not go all party mode. There must be a hospital semi-nearby if you really need it. And you know you can depend on your girls to get you there if need be so don't be worried!

I felt the same way about my bustle. I didn't really know what I wanted so I was just like whatever, do it. But I still felt like it could have been better for the money.

theartistformerlyknownas

((hugs)) You can do this.

Forget about the bustle. I was pretty excited about my 6-point bustle but I realized looking at pictures that my sister didn't even do it right. I think she missed at least 2, maybe 3 buttons. So THAT'S why everyone kept stepping on my dress, it wasn't just that I had taken my shoes off! Still, zero fucks given. Didn't make the party less awesome. Not worth your stress.

You're allowed to have a messy house. Let it ride. It's not hurting anybody. Give yourself some time to relax and recover so you can enjoy your party. 

blabla89

I want to give you ALL the hugs right now. That stinks but it'll be okay. I'm sure everything will be great over your bach weekend. Just in case, can you ask your doctor what you should do if you start having pain again?

JCbride2015

I'm so sorry to hear all of that.  The pain episode sounds really scary, and it's super frustrating not to know exactly what caused it.  I'm sure if it happens again at your bach, your friends will take it seriously and get you to a doctor-- but maybe you'll feel totally better by then!

You probably need rest right now more than you need a clean house.  Let Fi do the best he can and leave the details for when you're feeling better.

I don't know anything about bustles but Lolo seems to have it covered.  Really, it will all be fine.

pinkcow13

Awww sweetie I'm so sorry to hear this. Hopefully you just had a virus or temporary bug that will be cleared up by your party. And like PP's stated, I'm your friends will be able to get you to the doctor or hospital if need be.

I know nothing about bustles, but Lolo covered it. And it's okay for your house to be messy right now. You're sick, and you need to rest and take care of yourself so that you can feel better. I hope you feel better real soon. I'm sending you some hugs:

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sarawifenow

You definitely have permission to have a pity party! Sending healing vibes to you! I'm sure you will have a blast this weekend and that your dress will be gorgeous.

RebeccaFlower

Oh man sorry you're dealing with so much. 

All bustles look weird, I'm sorry. H stepping on mine and broke it within five minutes of entering our reception. I would ask for a back up arm loop, anyway. 

I would talk to whoever is throwing your bachelorette and talk about making scaling things down. Also, have the nearest hospitals info written down/in your phone and all your records, just in case. I don't know if this is in your finances, but since 'you're' changing the plans, maybe have a travelling spa come in? 

Cleaning... screw it haha. No, I get it... set an alarm for 20 minutes, do whatever you can, then rest for 45 or whatever works for you. You'll get stuff done without going overboard,  plus if you're 5 like me, the countdown makes me go faster=getting more done.

NYCMercedes

Take all the time you need for yourself to feel better. We all have off times. It's ok. I hope you start feeling better soon.

raissyrais

Elca, cut yourself some slack you deserve all the rest right now. Don't worry about tidying and I'm sure you will get to a bustle agreement. Either way am sure on your wedding day it won't matter so much! I hope that you won't have another painful episode since you seem to be so much better anyways! Relax and let your FI take care of you and I'm positive your bachelorette party will be a blast! Sending you interwebs hugs.

climbingsingle

I'm sorry! Have some hugs, please. 

Inkdancer

My bustle had 15 points. 9 is a-okay.

I hope you feel better soon, dear!

holyguacamole79

I had a somewhat similar episode last summer. I was in Seattle for 3 weeks for work and went to the ER twice. They ended up sending me home early. It turned out I had a severe case of IBS and it was manifested by stress. Take care of yourself. And be sure to have someone come with you to the seamstress to show her how to do your bustle on your wedding day. Hugs!

ElcaB

missax said:

A few years ago I went to the hospital because I was having severe abdominal pain. They thought it was appendicitis but the CT scan showed it wasn't and the doctors had no clue what was wrong. It turned out to be appendagitis. None of the doctors had ever heard of appendagitis before and had to go do research on it while I was admitted. The only reason it was diagnosed was because the CT scan technician had seen it once before. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epiploic_appendagitis

That is crazy. I'm glad you got diagnosed. My symptoms sound kind of similar, but my symptoms also sound like 1,000 other things, too. Maybe I will mention this when I go to the doctor for a follow-up.