I thought I was immune.

JCbride2015

My family hasn't been harassing us for babies, like at all.  My sister says she wants to be an auntie but that's it.  Nothing like the pressure some of you Knotties have described.

Today FMIL texted me to ask how work was going (my own parents didn't text me but she did--- I love her).  I told her I expect to be there pretty late because the associate who's supervising me on the most time-sensitive case is going on her honeymoon for two weeks, and she said she typically stays until 9.  FMIL's response: "lol better get pregnant soon! jk!"  I said "when it's time" I'm sure I'll be ready for maternity leave.  FMIL: "better sooner than later!  I want to be a Nonna!"

Sigh.  We do want kids.  But I'd rather not take maternity leave within my first year of work, jeesh.  Let me warm up my desk chair first, FMIL!

lurkergirl

JCbride2015 said:

My family hasn't been harassing us for babies, like at all.  My sister says she wants to be an auntie but that's it.  Nothing like the pressure some of you Knotties have described.

Today FMIL texted me to ask how work was going (my own parents didn't text me but she did--- I love her).  I told her I expect to be there pretty late because the associate who's supervising me on the most time-sensitive case is going on her honeymoon for two weeks, and she said she typically stays until 9.  FMIL's response: "lol better get pregnant soon! jk!"  I said "when it's time" I'm sure I'll be ready for maternity leave.  FMIL: "better sooner than later!  I want to be a Nonna!"

Sigh.  We do want kids.  But I'd rather not take maternity leave within my first year of work, jeesh.  Let me warm up my desk chair first, FMIL!

First of all, WOO HOOOOO!!!  So excited you got to start you brand new career today!!  Did you take a picture of yourself??  You'll want to remember this day when you're an AG or Supreme Court Justice


Regarding spawn:  My FSMIL is a really great woman, but she has already named my future children and talks about them as if they are a reality.  It will be so awkward if I have fertility issues...

JCbride2015

lurkergirl said:

JCbride2015 said:

My family hasn't been harassing us for babies, like at all.  My sister says she wants to be an auntie but that's it.  Nothing like the pressure some of you Knotties have described.

Today FMIL texted me to ask how work was going (my own parents didn't text me but she did--- I love her).  I told her I expect to be there pretty late because the associate who's supervising me on the most time-sensitive case is going on her honeymoon for two weeks, and she said she typically stays until 9.  FMIL's response: "lol better get pregnant soon! jk!"  I said "when it's time" I'm sure I'll be ready for maternity leave.  FMIL: "better sooner than later!  I want to be a Nonna!"

Sigh.  We do want kids.  But I'd rather not take maternity leave within my first year of work, jeesh.  Let me warm up my desk chair first, FMIL!

First of all, WOO HOOOOO!!!  So excited you got to start you brand new career today!!  Did you take a picture of yourself??  You'll want to remember this day when you're an AG or Supreme Court Justice


Regarding spawn:  My FSMIL is a really great woman, but she has already named my future children and talks about them as if they are a reality.  It will be so awkward if I have fertility issues...

THIS.  What if we can't have a baby right away when we want one?  Or at all?  Way to build up the pressure before we're even trying, jeez!  I get that she's excited, though.

And I totally took a selfie with my office window.  The view is sick.  FMIL asked for the picture, haha!  She said the same thing, I will want to remember.

She's really sweet.  I am very lucky to have such a great FMIL.

luckya23

OMG my family seems to be jumping aboard the crazy baby train this week too!

Unfortunately they took FI with them..... and I am so not remotely ready... and 33 :-P

 

Sugargirl1019

Well let's see this pic! @JCbride2015‌

lurkergirl

I know what you mean. Babies are exciting. People just need to remember boundaries sometimes

LadyMillil

Yay first day of work!

I hate when parents put pressure on you to have a baby because they want to be grandparents. It's super rude, insensitive and hurtful, especially if you have fertility issues or don't want kids.

I want to start a family NOW and DH is finally ready to have a baby, but timing is really off now because of work stuff. Every wedding I've been to the parents spend most of their toast talking about how it's time for grandkids. I told my parents I would be furious if they did that because they know I can't be pregnant now.

ShesSoCold

My MIL gives me the passive aggressive "woe is me I won't be a grandma" bullshit because she knows we don't want kids. The closest my mom ever got was a few months ago when she told me I need it have kids so we can gave dun with them. My brother and his wife are the over-protective obnoxious parents who fired my mom from her volunteer babysitting because they thought the baby cried too much with my mom.

lc07

I wanna see this selfie, too! 

Also, I got married in October 2011, my MIL couldn't come to the wedding due to health reasons (long story - we would have planned something close to her if we knew she would be ill. She was well enough to travel when we planned the wedding with no reason to think she might not be able to come and then something unexpected happened. And she's fine now). Anyway, I talked to her on the phone shortly after the wedding and she told me she wanted a us to have a baby. I told her she already has a grandchild - Kitty! She said she wants a "really baby!" (She's Greek) and she wanted one by April. Uh... I think it's fairly impossible for us to pop a kid out in 6 months..

hellosweetie1015

NO ONE IS IMMUNE.

Re: awesome view. Pics or it didn't happen. (CONGRATS!)

larrygaga

I never thought I wanted kids but I'm suddenly getting hardcore baby fever. I still want to wait several years, but like damn. 

That's all I have to contribute to this topic. My family members are rude assholes in other ways. 

JCbride2015

You guys mean you AREN'T sick of my face after AWing all those e-photos? :-P

First is the view from my window, second is my obligatory "remember this moment" selfie.  Seriously, that view.  Pinch me.

lc07

Awesome view! And you are so naturally beautiful; I love it. I somehow missed your E photo AW. I can't keep up with y'all. 

hellosweetie1015

DAT VIEW DOE.

So jealous.

holyguacamole79

Awesome view, @jcbride2015! I have fertility issues. MIL doesn't say anything about grandkids, thank God. My mom finally let up (especially now that my sister is pregnant). But it stings hard when people ask when we are gonna have kids. I really hope that you're able to conceive when you're ready.

JCbride2015

 

sarahbear31 said:

Awesome view, @jcbride2015! I have fertility issues. MIL doesn't say anything about grandkids, thank God. My mom finally let up (especially now that my sister is pregnant). But it stings hard when people ask when we are gonna have kids. I really hope that you're able to conceive when you're ready.

I'm so sorry you're going through that @sarahbear31.  Glad your MIL and mom are not pressuring you (anymore at least).

holyguacamole79

JCbride2015 said:

 

sarahbear31 said:

Awesome view, @jcbride2015! I have fertility issues. MIL doesn't say anything about grandkids, thank God. My mom finally let up (especially now that my sister is pregnant). But it stings hard when people ask when we are gonna have kids. I really hope that you're able to conceive when you're ready.

I'm so sorry you're going through that @sarahbear31.  Glad your MIL and mom are not pressuring you (anymore at least).

Thanks. I appreciate it. Meanwhile, I'm drinking a glass of Pinot Grigio to toast my sister and her husband.

lc07

sarahbear31 said:

JCbride2015 said:

 

sarahbear31 said:

Awesome view, @jcbride2015! I have fertility issues. MIL doesn't say anything about grandkids, thank God. My mom finally let up (especially now that my sister is pregnant). But it stings hard when people ask when we are gonna have kids. I really hope that you're able to conceive when you're ready.

I'm so sorry you're going through that @sarahbear31.  Glad your MIL and mom are not pressuring you (anymore at least).

Thanks. I appreciate it. Meanwhile, I'm drinking a glass of Pinot Grigio to toast my sister and her husband.

My sister and BIL had fertility issues. It was Hell for her. They have two children now. But I have a lot of empathy for people struggling with fertility since I have a better understanding of it now that my sister and her husband have gone through it. *hugs*

holyguacamole79

lc07 said:

sarahbear31 said:

JCbride2015 said:

 

sarahbear31 said:

Awesome view, @jcbride2015! I have fertility issues. MIL doesn't say anything about grandkids, thank God. My mom finally let up (especially now that my sister is pregnant). But it stings hard when people ask when we are gonna have kids. I really hope that you're able to conceive when you're ready.

I'm so sorry you're going through that @sarahbear31.  Glad your MIL and mom are not pressuring you (anymore at least).

Thanks. I appreciate it. Meanwhile, I'm drinking a glass of Pinot Grigio to toast my sister and her husband.

My sister and BIL had fertility issues. It was Hell for her. They have two children now. But I have a lot of empathy for people struggling with fertility since I have a better understanding of it now that my sister and her husband have gone through it. *hugs*

Thanks, love. I didn't mean to thread-jack. We shall see what God has planned for us.

jenna8984

That view is definitely amazing! I am not cut out for city living, but man I'd love to work in a city like that. Stupid accounting, I work in all these dumpy manufacturing plants lol. 

Luckily my mom & MIL haven't said anything about it because they know that I'm a traveler and I have a few more countries to hit up in the next 2 years before we start trying. This could be wrong, but I thought to be covered by FMLA you had to be employed by the company for 12 months. Or maybe that's just to get any paid leave. 

raissyrais

Congrats on that new job JC and glad to know you had a great first day! I saw in another that you might be going to Asia, that's fabulous. Babies: @sarahbear31 Sorry about that! it's always such a tricky subject because you never really know what the outcome of this could be. But MILs are all like that I guess. I was showing my FMIL a photo of my little nephew the other day, and even though we have already told her that we are never having children, you could see the yearning in her eyes. She's too much of a classy woman though to say anything about it. However, I did tell FI that if I get accidentally pregnant I would like to keep the baby. And who knows like some people say my clock might start ticking? Or FI's for that matter! However I'm glad we can be on the same page all the time about that.

anjemon

That is a gorgeous view! Sometimes I really wished I worked in the city in a big fancy building. 

Your immunity breaking makes me worried! I feel like I'm currently immune because both my sisters are pregnant. But of course FMIL doesn't have any grandchildren yet so it's probably just a matter of time.

blabla89

CaitTDid23 said:

DAT VIEW DOE.

So jealous.

This. Oh and your face is cute, too.

I thought I'd get a break from FILs hounding us about babies since FSIL just popped out two of them...but no...

I've warned FI that if it continues I am probably going to snap.

Maggie0829

I fucking hate parents who put pressure on their children to have kids.  It is not their god damn choice!  She can want to be a Nonna all she wants but just like many things in life it is not up to her when or if that ever comes to fruition.

And then with how many people in this world have fertility issues, putting undo pressure on people is not only unnecessary but it is completely inconsiderate.

I just don't understand how someone else's reproductive timing is anyone's business or concern besides that of the SO and their doctor.

pinkcow13

I see my work building in the first selfie!! I love the view

FMIL always talks about wanting grandchildren to the point where it is annoying and uncomfortable. I've mentioned how she tells us that we need to "get rid of the cats" once we have kids. And she gave a speech at our engagement party where she said she was "ready" for us to start having kids. It's our damn engagement party. Can we get married first?! Seriously?! 

amelisha

I no longer give serious answers on this one. Jokes only. Not telling ANYONE how I really feel because I don't want their opinions. I like "I'd really like to enjoy more time with flat abs," "that's [his sister]'s job," and "we really like having money and time."

I really recommend this approach. It is no one's business, not even a MIL's, and I do not enjoy getting into serious conversations regarding our choices.

hellosweetie1015

Luckily the only real kid talk is my mother deciding her grandma name ("Ging Ging" for those interested) and my baby sister. The night we got engaged, I called my mom and told Sis to go check her phone, indicating that I had twisted an ankle/cut a finger off/fell down and broke my crown. After a few seconds, she screams, "I'M GONNA BE AN AUNT!!!" and I can hear her get increasingly louder as she comes back down the stairs. She is FAR more excited about having a little niece to corrupt than she is about .... well, frankly, just about anything else.

My FMIL is incredible about it though. FI's ex-FI had some issues, and I think as a result she is not only very careful to put absolutely zero pressure on us, but she's quick with the "In their time, there's no rush" kind of remarks when other people say something about it. Of course, she and FFIL actually really really great in a lot of ways so. 

theartistformerlyknownas

pinkcow13 said:

I see my work building in the first selfie!! I love the view

FMIL always talks about wanting grandchildren to the point where it is annoying and uncomfortable. I've mentioned how she tells us that we need to "get rid of the cats" once we have kids. And she gave a speech at our engagement party where she said she was "ready" for us to start having kids. It's our damn engagement party. Can we get married first?! Seriously?! 

That calls for tin can telephones.

Fran1985

The best answer I've heard to "when are you having babies" is my is my friend who deadpans "1 year after people stop asking us. so I guess the clock just reset"

theartistformerlyknownas

Fran1985 said:

The best answer I've heard to "when are you having babies" is my is my friend who deadpans "1 year after people stop asking us. so I guess the clock just reset"

Heh I've told people "every time someone asks me we push it back another month."

KatieinBkln

JCbride2015 said:

You guys mean you AREN'T sick of my face after AWing all those e-photos? :-P

First is the view from my window, second is my obligatory "remember this moment" selfie.  Seriously, that view.  Pinch me.

Hey, welcome to the nabe! Glad you're getting settled into the new gig!

I have been immune to baby talk so far as well. Given that I'm like 3 months behind you in this whole wedding process, I'm sure it's a-comin'...