Dear Prudence,
My husband of five years (we met in college) is a Halloween enthusiast. He likes elaborate costumes and we’re always either going to multiple parties or hosting a big one ourselves. Normally I love playing along, but his costume idea for this year has me a bit concerned: He wants to go as the character Joan from Mad Men. Over the years he’s done a drag costume only one other time, an intentionally goofy cheerleader thing. This time he wants to be realistic and he’s got nice features, so he could probably pull it off. I’ve got no other reason to think he’s expressing a gay or gender-confused side, so I can’t put my finger on why this bothers me but it does. Maybe part of it is that I know actress Christina Hendricks is his biggest celebrity crush, which just makes it stranger. What should I do?