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What do you do if your entire wedding consists of antiparty people?

SO....... Kind of long winded question

My fiance and I have come to the conclusion that absolutely no one (including ourselves) are "dancers."  No one enjoys getting out on the dance floor whatsoever. So having a traditional wedding where you have a DJ or a band and the entire reception basically is run by the entertainment/dancing is just not for us. Also, my fiance doesn't drink. No problems with alcohol or other people drinking, but its just not for him. Our wedding guest list is about 75, we are guessing it will end up being between 50-60 people. So not a huge wedding.

We are loving having a loooooonnnnggg engagement, not looking to rush into anything but I am loving the planning and taking my time. We are getting married in October of 2016, on Cape Cod. We have a few ideas- renting out a neat restaurant (I'm a chef) or a really nice big luxury home for a long weekend. We've thought of just having a real laid back weekend, having a good low key band play and just have a laid back, backyard party type feel.

But I'm afraid with it being so informal, that it will take away the "wedding" feeling. I still want to have that special day feeling. Haha maybe I'm just thinking way too into this. I'm way too worried about everyone invited having a great time that I don't even KNOW what I want. So i'm looking for some suggestions, reccomendations, advice, etc.   Anything is more than welcome and will help alot. Thanks so much.

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Re: What do you do if your entire wedding consists of antiparty people?

  • Ahh thank you! I have been feeling like what I'm thinking just doesn't make sense. There are just so many family clashes and culture clashes in our social and family circles that we are having a hard time figuring out what to do so that everyone is happy. I'm REALLY happy that we have so much time to plan thats for sure. I am really knew to this site/resource but god am I happy I've found it.

    All my wedding talk doesn't seem so crazy anymore!

    As for hosting properly, I'll definitely have to figure that all out. Oh this is going to be a fun challenge to take on.
  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    edited October 2014
    We had our reception in a hotel suite in Vegas. It had a view of the strip, and it held 43 people quite comfortably. (We rented some extra seating and cocktail tables.)

    We wanted a party atmosphere for the same reason - some of us are dancers, but it wasn't enough of a crowd for all-out "wedding" dancing, if that makes sense. Plus, H is really uncomfortable in that situation.

    So. We hooked up the iPod, and most people mingled, stuffed their faces, took pictures in front of the strip view, etc. A few people danced, especially to slow songs and things like "The Twist", but it was really more of a big party. We even had some board games, and several people sat at the big table and played once the food was cleared. Others played poker.

    A lot of guests told us they'd had a great time and loved that it was sort of different from a "typical" reception. I mean, they could have been telling a little white lie, but a lot of people were laughing and chatting all night. I could tell people were enjoying themselves, which was a huge relief, because I'm one of those people who panics whenever I host a party.

    Oh, and yes, it still felt like a wedding reception. H and I didn't change our clothes, and our MOH and BM kept their formals on all night too. We went to the hotel suite immediately after the wedding (no gap, FTW!), so everyone was still pumped from seeing us get married.

    The party wound down around 9:00 or so. Most people were from the east, so it was midnight according to their bodies. The rest of us decided to head out to the Strip since I wasn't ready to take off my dress just yet. I paid good money for it. I'd have worn it all week if I could have. :)
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