Restless in wedding world

loro929

I have about 9 months to go and have most of the major things already booked / planned / etc.

We have our venue, sent out STDs, booked photo/vid, music, flowers, I bought my dress, selected and even purchased BM dresses (they were being discontinued so we needed to snatch them up).

FI and I thought to take a break until around December/January-ish and then start ironing out the smaller-details but I am starting to feel restless - like I should be doing something but I don't really know what to do. 

Did anyone else experience a lull in the planning?

What did you do to stave off the restlessness?

lurkergirl

Well, I'm getting married in May, and I think you have more done than me.  So go ahead and take that break!

We're getting in to holiday season...I don't know about you, but for me the next 3 months will have no lulls or restlessness.

Sugargirl1019

There was about 4 months that I did absolutely nothing. I had a 14 month engagement. Probably about 8-4 months before was when I had nothing to do. It's okay!

ETA: during this time, we were moving and DH and was graduating so we had a lot of other things to put our focus on. I read books and went shopping, clothes shopping, a lot.

loro929

We are having a 2-year engagment. There was about 6 months in the beginning where we just enjoyed being engaged  no planning, no looking up venues, really nothing. Then we booked the venue and waited a few more months, then took care of all of the bigger vendors. 

I just finished purchasing the BM dresses, mostly because there was one we all fell in love with and Nordstroms was discontinuing the style (grrr at least there was a 60% off sale ). Now, its just the waiting game... 

*twiddles thumbs and obssessively knots*

littlemushroom

We had a 10 month engagement and we did nothing from mid February through mid May, except maybe looked at pictures of cake. During that time, I planned and threw my BFF's baby shower, she had her baby, had family get together for Easter, had b party for good friends, my good friends got married, etc.

All I remember is that we were busy every weekend for over 2 months. And my mom had to threaten us to get our registry done so my MOHs could send out my shower invites. Once I got in a groove of not doing wedding things, it was hard to get back into it.

climbingsingle

I got a lot of stuff done early, so from like April -June, I really didn't have too much to do. You know what actually helped me a ton? The checklist on The Knot app. I referred to that thing like every day to keep myself on track. 

jenna8984

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I got a lot of stuff done early, so from like April -June, I really didn't have too much to do. You know what actually helped me a ton? The checklist on The Knot app. I referred to that thing like every day to keep myself on track. 

Same here, I just kept checking that checklist and being like well shit, I'm caught up a month in advance. I definitely had a good 4 months where I did nothing. We joked that if we had known that, we would have booked/ planned it for much sooner.

My friend just booked hers 7 months out and everyone is all over her about it being so quick and I'm like no way, girl, plenty of time!!

peachy13

I'm halfway through a 2 year engagement and have done all that I can do at this moment (booked venue and all vendors, got my dress, STDs ordered... I even bought some of the pieces of my DIY centerpieces so that I can get going on those early...). 

I think it's obvious that my biggest fear is running around stressed out a few weeks before the wedding! It sounds like you're like me, OP. My advice is to just enjoy a little break, and get going again after the holidays. That's pretty much where I'm at now. One little project I do that is somewhat time-consuming but fun is to listen to different Pandora radio stations and get good ideas for my wedding playlist. 

loro929

peachy13 said:

I'm halfway through a 2 year engagement and have done all that I can do at this moment (booked venue and all vendors, got my dress, STDs ordered... I even bought some of the pieces of my DIY centerpieces so that I can get going on those early...). 

I think it's obvious that my biggest fear is running around stressed out a few weeks before the wedding! It sounds like you're like me, OP. My advice is to just enjoy a little break, and get going again after the holidays. That's pretty much where I'm at now. One little project I do that is somewhat time-consuming but fun is to listen to different Pandora radio stations and get good ideas for my wedding playlist. 

I was totally lurking on (I think it was @larrygaga 's) processional / recessional thread the other day for ideas. Thanks for the tip. We have to submit to the band a list of songs we want and don't want. Seems like a good way to pass some time, with a nice glass of wine of course!

ETA: Most of the content, I clicked submit before writing by accident :S Oops.

simcal18

loro929 said:

I have about 9 months to go and have most of the major things already booked / planned / etc.

We have our venue, sent out STDs, booked photo/vid, music, flowers, I bought my dress, selected and even purchased BM dresses (they were being discontinued so we needed to snatch them up).

FI and I thought to take a break until around December/January-ish and then start ironing out the smaller-details but I am starting to feel restless - like I should be doing something but I don't really know what to do. 

Did anyone else experience a lull in the planning?

What did you do to stave off the restlessness?

Nope.  I have no idea what you are experiencing.  I cannot relate at all:

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1041917/the-mid-planning-lull

:-)

Since making that post, I've worked on nailing down my last two major vendors (florist and officiant), and trying to get a better grip on what style I'm going for so that I can start figuring out what DIY projects, if any, I'm going to do.  Other than that, I'm looking forward to the upcoming holidays, my upcoming niece/nephew, and trying to relax before the things significantly pick up speed some time in the early spring of next year .  .  . 

loro929

@bostonbride2015 How did I miss that post?! We are like planning twins - are you an August bride also?

Our wedding is pretty far from where we live, so we don't have to many DIY projects (the logistics would be too much to consider the costs in shipping things, etc). This could be another reason why I am really feeling "lull-y" I suppose. After writing this thread though, I started thinking about what to get my BMs for their gifts. I am big into making lists and checking things off. So, I figured that way, if I have a guideline of what I want to get for them I can take sweet sweet advantage of all pre- and post-holiday sales!!

simcal18

loro929 said:

@bostonbride2015 How did I miss that post?! We are like planning twins - are you an August bride also?

Our wedding is pretty far from where we live, so we don't have to many DIY projects (the logistics would be too much to consider the costs in shipping things, etc). This could be another reason why I am really feeling "lull-y" I suppose. After writing this thread though, I started thinking about what to get my BMs for their gifts. I am big into making lists and checking things off. So, I figured that way, if I have a guideline of what I want to get for them I can take sweet sweet advantage of all pre- and post-holiday sales!!

@loro929, I'm July 18, so close.  We got engaged in February, so it's feeling like forever at this point, but everyone keeps telling me the next 9 months will go by super fast--hopefully that's the case!

I'm big on lists too, so I'm focused on those to try to keep myself organized.  I feel like the worst part of having a long engagement if you're a plan-in-advance type of person is that you have too much time and start second guessing your decisions.  This week I'm second-guessing the venue--is it too small, too non-traditional, not well managed enough, etc. etc.?  For quick engagements, there's less time to torture yourself with those kinds of thoughts.