Okay, so a bit about what's going on. Originally, I was planning on having the ceremony in the Universalist Unitarian church by the venue, but the parking lot they rent they can't guarantee until a few days before the wedding...and I didn't want to deal with the stress of finding out a few days in advance that there's no where for my 150 guests to park. So instead, my fiance suggested we do the ceremony in his church. He isn't religious either, but he went to the church as a kid and is still considered a member...and since we're on a budget, it's a better option then having it at the reception site, as they would charge us an additional $750. The church is only $150, plus the donation to the officiant.
I get the paperwork to fill out today, and as I'm reading the fine print, and I read: "Our church views the wedding ceremony as a sacred covenant to be conducted with the dignity and refinement of a worship service. Bizarre innovations or novelties should not be requested. The wedding ceremony is a service of worship, and music appropriate for worship should be used. Secular and popular music can be more appropriately used at the wedding reception."
So, I need some help. I'm what you would call an offbeat bride. I wanted to have some fun during the ceremony. Nothing CRAZY (at least in my mind), but I have video game music played by a string quartet that I was going to play - it "sounds" formal to appease my older relatives, but my nerdy friends would recognize it. Obviously it sounds like this would be a no go. I was also going to write my own vows, and have them be relaxed, funny and sentimental, but they would probably frown on that too. I had some other little ideas, but from the wording of their form, they would probably consider them inappropriate for the worship service that is supposed to be my ceremony.
What I need are suggestions... should I be on the hunt for another ceremony location? Is there a way to have a "religious" ceremony and not feel totally uncomfortable? Are there any worship songs that aren't so...worshipy? Thanks everyone!