THANK YOU!!!! (How you helped me maintain proper etiquette)

dcbride86

Last week, I mentioned in a reply that my mom wanted to put "black tie optional" on my wedding invitations.  I didn't want to do it, but I could never really form a proper rebuttal to her - and her amazing lawyer skills kind of messed with my arguments.  BUT - all of your comments helped me organize my reasons better, and help HER see why we should not put that on there.

 

So I just wanted to say THANK YOU for helping me out!  You guys gave me several concrete, well-organized, reasons to explain to my mom, and she (somewhat reluctantly) agreed to take it off.

southernbelle0915

At your service!

Jen4948

We're happy to be of help!

dolewhipper

My step mom wanted me to do the same thing, as well as have the starting time be 30 min from the real, actual start time.

Whoops, sorrynotsorry the invites are already printed.

dcbride86

shannonmaya said:

My step mom wanted me to do the same thing, as well as have the starting time be 30 min from the real, actual start time.

Whoops, sorrynotsorry the invites are already printed.

I was thinking of putting the start time about 10 mins from the real start time (as in, our ceremony will be 20 minutes instead of 30) because our venue only has 2 small elevators, and we are worried it will take everyone longer than they think to get to the ceremony space.  Is that wrong?  I hadn't heard that doing that was against etiquette.

Thanks!

novella1186

ssautter said:

shannonmaya said:

My step mom wanted me to do the same thing, as well as have the starting time be 30 min from the real, actual start time.

Whoops, sorrynotsorry the invites are already printed.

I was thinking of putting the start time about 10 mins from the real start time (as in, our ceremony will be 20 minutes instead of 30) because our venue only has 2 small elevators, and we are worried it will take everyone longer than they think to get to the ceremony space.  Is that wrong?  I hadn't heard that doing that was against etiquette.

Thanks!

Yes, it's considered a no-no. Adults should be able to get somewhere on time. 

dcbride86

novella1186 said:

ssautter said:

shannonmaya said:

My step mom wanted me to do the same thing, as well as have the starting time be 30 min from the real, actual start time.

Whoops, sorrynotsorry the invites are already printed.

I was thinking of putting the start time about 10 mins from the real start time (as in, our ceremony will be 20 minutes instead of 30) because our venue only has 2 small elevators, and we are worried it will take everyone longer than they think to get to the ceremony space.  Is that wrong?  I hadn't heard that doing that was against etiquette.

Thanks!

Yes, it's considered a no-no. Adults should be able to get somewhere on time. 

Oh, okay, thanks!  I didn't know if I should factor in time since the elevators are a bit small, but now I'll either change the time or make the ceremony 30 mins instead of 20.  Thanks!

novella1186

ssautter said:

novella1186 said:

ssautter said:

shannonmaya said:

My step mom wanted me to do the same thing, as well as have the starting time be 30 min from the real, actual start time.

Whoops, sorrynotsorry the invites are already printed.

I was thinking of putting the start time about 10 mins from the real start time (as in, our ceremony will be 20 minutes instead of 30) because our venue only has 2 small elevators, and we are worried it will take everyone longer than they think to get to the ceremony space.  Is that wrong?  I hadn't heard that doing that was against etiquette.

Thanks!

Yes, it's considered a no-no. Adults should be able to get somewhere on time. 

Oh, okay, thanks!  I didn't know if I should factor in time since the elevators are a bit small, but now I'll either change the time or make the ceremony 30 mins instead of 20.  Thanks!

You could always warn people about the elevators by word of mouth if you think it will be a big deal, but always be honest about start times!  

dcbride86

novella1186 said:

ssautter said:

novella1186 said:

ssautter said:

shannonmaya said:

My step mom wanted me to do the same thing, as well as have the starting time be 30 min from the real, actual start time.

Whoops, sorrynotsorry the invites are already printed.

I was thinking of putting the start time about 10 mins from the real start time (as in, our ceremony will be 20 minutes instead of 30) because our venue only has 2 small elevators, and we are worried it will take everyone longer than they think to get to the ceremony space.  Is that wrong?  I hadn't heard that doing that was against etiquette.

Thanks!

Yes, it's considered a no-no. Adults should be able to get somewhere on time. 

Oh, okay, thanks!  I didn't know if I should factor in time since the elevators are a bit small, but now I'll either change the time or make the ceremony 30 mins instead of 20.  Thanks!

You could always warn people about the elevators by word of mouth if you think it will be a big deal, but always be honest about start times!  

Oh, that's a great idea!  Thanks!  Sometimes I feel like when I'm wedding planning common sense goes out the window sometimes haha.  Instead of looking for the obvious low-hanging fruit, I think of weird solutions, and need to remind myself that I'm NOT in law school anymore 

I'll just tell people about the small elevators and my parents and FILs to do the same.  Thank you!!

thisismynickname2

RE: Elevators

I got married on the 95th floor of a skyscraper, at a restaurant/lounge.  The paperwork for the wedding package actually says that wedding guests will be put to the front of the line for the elevators. I put that information on my wedding website, and thank goodness... when I arrived with my bridal party, the lines to get to the restaurant and lounge were the longest I'd ever seen.  

I rode up the elevator with a half-dozen of our guests, and I think just a couple people were late to the ceremony (but those were the types who would be late to anything).

So yes, spread the word about any venue considerations, and on your website (politely) is a good way to do that.  

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thisismynickname said:

RE: Elevators

I got married on the 95th floor of a skyscraper, at a restaurant/lounge.  The paperwork for the wedding package actually says that wedding guests will be put to the front of the line for the elevators. I put that information on my wedding website, and thank goodness... when I arrived with my bridal party, the lines to get to the restaurant and lounge were the longest I'd ever seen.  

I rode up the elevator with a half-dozen of our guests, and I think just a couple people were late to the ceremony (but those were the types who would be late to anything).

So yes, spread the word about any venue considerations, and on your website (politely) is a good way to do that.  

Signature Lounge?

thisismynickname2

adk19 said:

thisismynickname said:

RE: Elevators

I got married on the 95th floor of a skyscraper, at a restaurant/lounge.  The paperwork for the wedding package actually says that wedding guests will be put to the front of the line for the elevators. I put that information on my wedding website, and thank goodness... when I arrived with my bridal party, the lines to get to the restaurant and lounge were the longest I'd ever seen.  

I rode up the elevator with a half-dozen of our guests, and I think just a couple people were late to the ceremony (but those were the types who would be late to anything).

So yes, spread the word about any venue considerations, and on your website (politely) is a good way to do that.  

Signature Lounge?

Yup! If I remember correctly, ShesSoCold was married there too. 

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Nice!  Maybe I should consider it for myself.  It would allow me to keep my invite list low.  And it's totally my place.  I've celebrated numerous birthdays there, and it's where I recommend every tourist visit.

sophhabobopha

Yayy!