Whoo come party with us! .... Actually don't.

peachy13

Yesterday, a girl I went to HS with sent out a huge invitation on facebook to a bunch of other HS people for a party at her house on Thanksgiving eve. I was actually really excited because this girl is pretty cool and really fun. The little nerd in me was honored I made the guest list, and I couldn't wait to go. I wasn't really friends with her back in high school but she was friends with my FI and now our circles have kind of intertwined. The guest list for the party is awesome and stacked with people I really want to see and catch up with. And, I'm missing our ten year HS reunion coming up because of a wedding I'm attending, so I feel like this is the next best thing.

All day yesterday people were commenting on the FB event page about how excited they were and posting throwback pics from high school, and in a matter of hours there was already 50 people confirmed attending.

Then this morning, the host cancels the event without any information, and I have to admit I was like:

RebeccaFlower

Lame. That's so weird to put it up and cancel right after. Maybe she realized she can't handle that many people?

sarawifenow

That sucks. Anyway you could reach out to the people you want to see and get together on your own?

bethsmiles

Boo! Maybe she didn't realize how many people would be able to come?

esstee33

bethsmiles said:

Boo! Maybe she didn't realize how many people would be able to come?

That's my bet. If it's going on 10 years since they graduated, she may have anticipated that lots of people she was inviting would either not be interested or not be able to come. 50 people is a ton of people to host! 

Shitty situation all around, OP.  

ElcaB

Weird. I'd suggest meeting up at a bar instead!

novella1186

ElcaB said:

Weird. I'd suggest meeting up at a bar instead!

This is what I was gonna say too! Make your own facebook event, invite everyone, and just say to meet at X bar at X time. 

lacqueredlover

Yeah definitely do a bar!  Every year on Thanksgiving Eve, like 50 of us from high school just go to a bar in my home town and it's always really fun!

peachy13

I'm definitely thinking that the guest list amount was too many for her to host, but what's odd is that the event setting is "invite by host only" so she invited everyone.

Tisk tisk on etiquette!

cupcait927

I also suggest the bar meet up. My 10 year high school reunion is the Saturday after Thanksgiving, but they're also doing a bar crawl on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving. This way people have two opportunities to catch up - one more formal and the other more come and go as you please.

short+sassy

My HS did a really casual 5-year reunion that was basically one of my classmates getting her organizing groove on and set up a night at a local bar for everyone one in our class to meet at.

I agree with the other PPs.  Since there is obviously a want by many of the people on her list to do something, throw out your own invite to the group that since the party was cancelled, how about everyone meet at Bar XYZ at (insert time).

peachy13

peachy13 said:

Yesterday, a girl I went to HS with sent out a huge invitation on facebook to a bunch of other HS people for a party at her house on Thanksgiving eve. I was actually really excited because this girl is pretty cool and really fun. The little nerd in me was honored I made the guest list, and I couldn't wait to go. I wasn't really friends with her back in high school but she was friends with my FI and now our circles have kind of intertwined. The guest list for the party is awesome and stacked with people I really want to see and catch up with. And, I'm missing our ten year HS reunion coming up because of a wedding I'm attending, so I feel like this is the next best thing.

All day yesterday people were commenting on the FB event page about how excited they were and posting throwback pics from high school, and in a matter of hours there was already 50 people confirmed attending.

Then this morning, the host cancels the event without any information, and I have to admit I was like:

So I have an interesting update on this "party" which was supposed to take place tomorrow night, and then was abruptly canceled by the host for no reason.

A pretty good friend of the host, who is also friends with my FI and me, got word that the host canceled her party because she felt that too many people were invited... which is stupid because everyone on the guest list was invited by her through the event's Facebook page. If you can't host that many people, don't invite them to your party. Same as a wedding, right? 

And then this same friend told me that the party is still on, and said that the host is just spreading the news via word of mouth so that "random people don't show up." But my FI and I are still invited. So basically, she invited let's say 100 people originally through FB, canceled that invitation, and now only wants to invite to a select 50 or so people of the original number. I seriously hope the "random people" who don't get the new invite find out and are offended by this. Not like I'll really be missed when I don't go to the "new and improved with selective guests party" tomorrow night, but I'll be pretty happy drinking some wine at home and knowing that I would never do that to people.

theartistformerlyknownas

peachy13 said:

peachy13 said:

Yesterday, a girl I went to HS with sent out a huge invitation on facebook to a bunch of other HS people for a party at her house on Thanksgiving eve. I was actually really excited because this girl is pretty cool and really fun. The little nerd in me was honored I made the guest list, and I couldn't wait to go. I wasn't really friends with her back in high school but she was friends with my FI and now our circles have kind of intertwined. The guest list for the party is awesome and stacked with people I really want to see and catch up with. And, I'm missing our ten year HS reunion coming up because of a wedding I'm attending, so I feel like this is the next best thing.

All day yesterday people were commenting on the FB event page about how excited they were and posting throwback pics from high school, and in a matter of hours there was already 50 people confirmed attending.

Then this morning, the host cancels the event without any information, and I have to admit I was like:

So I have an interesting update on this "party" which was supposed to take place tomorrow night, and then was abruptly canceled by the host for no reason.

A pretty good friend of the host, who is also friends with my FI and me, got word that the host canceled her party because she felt that too many people were invited... which is stupid because everyone on the guest list was invited by her through the event's Facebook page. If you can't host that many people, don't invite them to your party. Same as a wedding, right? 

And then this same friend told me that the party is still on, and said that the host is just spreading the news via word of mouth so that "random people don't show up." But my FI and I are still invited. So basically, she invited let's say 100 people originally through FB, canceled that invitation, and now only wants to invite to a select 50 or so people of the original number. I seriously hope the "random people" who don't get the new invite find out and are offended by this. Not like I'll really be missed when I don't go to the "new and improved with selective guests party" tomorrow night, but I'll be pretty happy drinking some wine at home and knowing that I would never do that to people.

Ew.

I have a friend like this though... she invites the whole damn world to birthday parties she throws for herself, and if anyone calls her out/teases her about it ("uh holy damn, you invited 82 people to your birthday party? are you a celebrity now?") she just laughs and says "oh, not everyone will come, it's ok!" Fuck that, if I invited you, I want you there and hope you can come. I plan on everyone coming.