Dress fitting vent

blabla89

A couple weeks ago I had a dress fitting appointment and left my dress with the seamstress. Making it fit is more complicated than I had expected, but she had a plan for how to do it. I neglected to write down what all needed to be done, and that bugs me because I like to have everything written down, so I called to ask her to remind me.

Instead of answering my question, the seamstress told me to stop worrying because it's going to give me bad karma, and she doesn't want me bringing negative energy into her house. And then she went on this rant about how I don't trust her, and she's done dresses 10 times more complicated than mine and...umm, what? At my last appointment I smiled and nodded and said yes to everything she wanted to do, so I'm not sure what that's about. If you believe in karma and energy and whatnot, that's cool but all I wanted was an answer to my question. And then she concluded by saying that she's not going to touch my dress until our appointment next month, and then we'll "start over" on what needs to be done. I was under the impression that she was going to do most of the work before our appointment next month, and I was really looking forward to seeing it actually fit me. I know I still have plenty of time before my wedding, but it's a looong drive out to her place and I'm annoyed that I cleared a whole Saturday and drove all the way out there for nothing. I thought everything was good with my dress but now I'm starting to worry about it.

thisismynickname2

Um.... she doesn't sound very professional.  Is this your only option?  Given that outburst, I'd want to take my dress back and find someone else.  

lovegood90

Um, no. Someone you are paying in exchange for a professional service does not get to refuse to answer questions and have something in writing just because of some BS "karma" or whatever.

I'd call her, tell her you're sending her an e-mail outlining what you want confirmed in writing that will be done by X date, and if she refuses then I would probably go somewhere else. I would not let a professional that I'm paying fuck with me like that!

novella1186

I would definitely be looking for another seamstress if I were you. That's not only unprofessional of her, I find it extremely rude and unacceptable to talk to a paying client that way. 

southernbelle0915

Is English her second language? While I find it unprofessional, maybe she just has trouble communicating and instead of being like "I will take care of everything, don't worry." she's like "stop being negative, I fix this for you." Maybe her message is getting lost in translation.

I mean, either way, I'd find a new seamstress since the scope of work isn't actually getting done. Above, I was just talking about her communication skills.

blabla89

She's actually one of the best reviewed seamstresses in the area and has tons of happy clients, and she's been really nice at the last two appointments, so this was completely unexpected. I was so flabbergasted that I just needed to vent.

I still trust her to do the alterations well and in time for my wedding (when she said to come back in mid-December, I had a feeling it was too good to be true) but if she doesn't have it together at our next appointment I will be taking the dress back with me and getting it altered somewhere else.

Bubblegum5586

This is so weird. She's almost punishing you by making you wait longer and starting over? If you have another option I would go there instead. 

larrygaga

I would go somewhere else just for the fact that she wants to start over and make you wait another month. If it was just the comment, I would have thought she was just having a bad day.