I have never really gotten along with my older and only sister. She says she wishes I was never born. So anyway, I get engaged, she is my MOH. She couldn't take one hour out of her busy life to come dress shopping for my gown with me. I was disappointed. Then She doesn't like the bridesmaid dress color I pick out (yellow) because it doesn't look good on her. I change my whole color theme for her.
OK, so flash forward to 2 weeks ago. She tells my mom that if one of her friends isn't invited to my wedding that she is not in it, my 2 nephews are not in it, and that my mom will no longer be allowed to see her grandchildren who she watches 2x a week while my sister works. I am upset but we are having a numbers problem so she cannot invite another friend. Her best friend, and her in laws are already invited.....
yesterday, i get a call from my mom crying again that my sister has made the same threat again about taking the grand-kids away from my mom if she isn't back in the wedding. Mind you, this has all been through my poor mom since my sister hasn't called me.
So I spoke with my sister last night for the first time and she said that she has to be in the wedding, if not my nephews aren't but that she was going to tell them nasty things about me so they think I kicked them out. I tell her I would prefer her not to be in as she is the one who quit in the first place and I don't need this drama.
So I am very upset and don't even want to have a wedding at this point. We talked about eloping last night since the stress she has caused me and is zapping all the fun out of the process. I called my mom this morning and told her that I didn't want to go through with the wedding if my sister was in it because she caused so much stress and is a lose cannon and who knows what she would pull the day off.
Then I get a call from my mom that my sister just called her told her she is not in the wedding, my nephews aren't, they aren't attending, and not to invite her inlaws or the friends of the family that she is close with. But my mom is still allowed to watch the grand kids.
I was her MOH and did everything she asked and didn't make a stink about anything. I feel bad for my mom too who she has caused so much pain to...
I am just so clueless and upset and don't know what to do... help!!!!!!