"No one cares about your wedding as much as you do."

KatieinBkln

We always say that, right? It's a good way to keep perspective. Very healthy.

However: when I was home for Christmas I found out that almost everyone I know is more interested in my wedding planning than I am. I'm in a weird bizarro-world. My FILs are so excited, y'all. So many questions (very few of which I have answers to). A few well-meaning suggestions that I will happily ignore, but mostly just...an insane amount of interest. Luckily, they mentioned that there's a big golf event in the area starting the week after my wedding, so that helps me get on the ball re: hotel blocks, so it's probably a good thing that someone is paying attention!

Has anyone else experienced this phenomenon? I think it's hilarious, and kind of adorable (if a little stress-inducing to realize all the stuff I have happily ignored up to now that actually does need to be done!).

Inkdancer

My mom bought and did all kinds of stuff for our wedding because she wanted it done more than I did. (Including favors and centerpiece stuff). It was kind of weird.

maeday2

Preach. I am so with you on this. We have all the major stuff done, but I'd given myself a planning reprieve through the holidays. I thought I'd hit the ground running come January 5. 

All the questions had me stressed over Christmas. I eventually asked my mom to shush it up until January about wedding planning. I need to get my ass in gear. 

I am spending New Years with FI's family so I need to compose my shit. I can tell my mom to hush, but his is a different story. She's too nice. 

climbingsingle

Yup. My mom and MIL were wedding obsessed. H and I did the planning ourselves, but they asked 900 questions every day. 

novella1186

lol I think that's weird and hilarious too. We met up with one of FI's best friends who's also one of my BMs, and she brought along a friend I had never met before that FI isn't very fond of. The two of them were like "Let's talk about your wedding! Tell me all about it, I want to hear every detail!" I mean they were ALL over it, which really caught me off guard. 

I was just like meh. I really didn't feel like discussing it or having that be the focus of the night. I''m honestly really sick of wedding stuff right now lol. But whatever. My cousin and FI's sister are also super excited. And it's really great to have their support. But again, it catches me offguard cuz in my head I'm thinking "isn't it super boring to hear all about someone else's wedding?" Hell, even I think the details of my own wedding are boring as hell. 

princessofgenovia

So many questions about the wedding from other people. And I'm the worst bride ever. I wasn't ever the little girl who dreamed of a big fancy wedding. Honestly, I'd be happy with a trip to Vegas or down to the court house. FI on the other hand was the little boy who dreamed of his wedding. So I'm on board with the big to-do wedding, and I'm excited and we're doing things we both want to do, but everyone excepts me to pull out my big binder of wedding ideas and I'm like "I'm really excited about cake...and I kind of want a purple dress" and that's about all I can add.

sarawifenow

I had a lot of people want to talk about my wedding when I was planning it. Honestly, I think it is just a change from the normal conversation that usually happens. People like a change of topic and weddings are exciting.

lacqueredlover

Yep my sis in law and my future in laws are obsessed with our wedding haha.  It's pretty funny because I"m super laid back about it (and 10 months out have everything that can be done this far in advance finished.)

climbingsingle

Oh! And then be prepared to be constantly harassed about when all the pictures are going to be available. And then be prepared to here, "Why didn't he take this picture? And why didn't he take a picture of this? And why is so and so not in any pictures?" 

doeydo

Oh yes.  We have a small family, so when my sister got married in the Summer it was a big thing.  Everyone was excited and asking her questions and stuff during her engagement, to which she would usually respond "Our colours are blue and yellow.  I don't know what we're going to do about x yet, the wedding is still six months away!" kind of thing.

mrsk616

My FMIL and his aunt are all about wedding. luckily they have laid off some on the annoying questions. his mom has a big mouth so we cant say much to her because we know somehow it will get back to his baby momma and we dont need that drama.

larrygaga

FMIL just wants control of everything and my own mother just loves helping in any way she can. She is happy as a clam doing the boring things (like blocking hotel rooms and researching favors)

mrsk616

larrygaga said:

FMIL just wants control of everything and my own mother just loves helping in any way she can. She is happy as a clam doing the boring things (like blocking hotel rooms and researching favors)

kinda how my situation is. my mom is fine with helping with crafts if need be, his mom not so much she wants us to go to this hall that is a shit hole or this shit hole or that one. 

Liatris2010

My MOH was a bit like that. She was very concerned that we were waiting too long to order dresses (I had everyone pick their own, so it wasn't an issue), that everyone at least wear the same color shoes, and that we weren't having a rehearsal. I think she just wanted everything to be picture-perfect for me. It was sweet.

holyguacamole79

@maeday2 - I LOVE your sig pic!

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I haven't experienced this yet.  Although when my parents visited this past July, my mom asked a lot of questions I didn't have the answers to yet.  I think she was getting annoyed I wasn't answering and I finally told her that the wedding was more than a year out and we have a planner who is scheduling tasks for us as they need to be done- and until that task comes up in my to-do list, I'm not going to worry about it.

I think she understood at that point.

amelisha

One of my best friends is way, way more into my wedding than I am, but I'm hoping she's going to get engaged soon and then she won't care about what i'm (not) doing anymore. I think that "no one cares as much as you do" only works if the bride actually does care, lol, and I definitely don't.

csuave

Not so much with wedding but with having a shower.  MOH wanted to throw a shower.  I tried to steer her into a luncheon with just our small circle because I didn't want a shower but didn't mind quality time with the girls as a substitute.  That backfired as she sent out invitations for a shower to a larger circle of people (all invited to the wedding, thank goodness).  It boggles my mind that MOH was more interested in a shower than I was.

Cookie Pusher

Well, it would have been hard for anyone to care about my wedding any less than I did for the first... year and a half of my engagement. We booked our vendors about a year after the engagement, but when you still have a year-and-a-half to go... well... yea, not that many fucks were given.