My finace is a fire fighter and he suggested we use his department Chaplain to officiate our wedding. He is a pastor in the community and has known my fiance for 10 plus years. I agreed even though I'm an Atheist and he's an agnostic becuase fiance told me his Chaplain understood our belifs and that whatever we wanted for a ceremony was fine with him. Now we have met with him and I expressed that I wanted a ceremony without God involved and the Pastor's reply to me was that my family would be offended if I had a Secular ceremony. I also said how awkward I would feel having a prayer at OUR WEDDING ceremony since we wouldn't be participating and he told me no one will call me a hypocrite and not to worry. My fiance isn't a Christian, but it doesn't bother him if there is some included. Fiance is indifferent about whether there is or isn't Religion involved and I'm not. I feel nervous to have to agree to something I don't believe in for the most important part of my day. Now the wedding is about 40 days away and I don't feel confident. I want my Fiance to be happy, but then I'm not happy. The Chaplain is a friend of ours and I don't want to let him down either.
Do I just let it go or do I stand up for myself more? I don't want this to cause issues between me and my Fiance, but it is causing issues for me within myself. I appreciate your advice and points of view.