Dear Prudence,
My former best friend slept with my husband. To save our marriage, we cut off all ties with her and her family. Reconciliation with my husband has been painful but rewarding. Recently, my husband and I received legal notifications that she had established two very generous college funds for our young daughters. We (especially I) want nothing to do with her or her guilt money; her behavior feels so manipulative. But by refusing the college funds, I’m worried I’m being a bad mother, making my girls’ college careers less certain. Would it be petty to turn down her money?