Are bridesmaids required to participate in the planning of & attend the shower?
I asked my fiance's sister & 2 daughters (one just graduated high school and the other is entering high school in the fall) to be bridesmaids in my wedding back in January. They accepted, and I was even told the older daughter (my future niece) "expected" to be asked.
After I learned the 3 of them failed to RSVP for the shower (never mind offer to help in the planning in any way), I contacted them today to ask that they please let my Maid of Honor know if they were coming or not. I was told by the eldest daughter that she and her sister would not be coming, but she "thinks" her mother will be there. And P.s. - she "loves the dress."
Should I be as hurt and offended as I feel right now?
I have 5 bridesmaids and at least 2 of them will not be at my shower because they have a softball game.
I have bent over backwards to pick affordable dresses that could be ordered online because they will be buying 3, & so as to not disrupt their busy schedules & I offered them choices so they could select something they might hopefully be able to wear again. (I was informed they would not be available until after Aug 8 to shop for dresses for a September wedding) I have tried to be thoughtful and considerate in every way. In addition, my maid of honor contacted them in advance and offered several dates for the bridal shower, and went with the date that they said was most convenient for them. If they couldn't make it, but at least helped in the planning, I could get past this, but I am really hurt and angry.
Am I crazy?
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