NWR: Thank you notes timeline

spockforprez

Having trouble locating non-wedding thank you note etiquette so I hoped to get some counsel here.

I am going to finish them tonight so I'm fine with whatever answer I get as it won't affect my actions, but, I did want to ask for gifts from a housewarming party, how long is too long for thank yous? 

Our party was August 9. I wrote out the cards the same day the guests left but only knew the addresses of about half, so set them aside until I could get my wedding guest list file from my work email. Big mistake. Needless to say I haven't got it done yet, but I did send the file to my home email earlier today (I need to work on uploading them to my wedding website anyway) and will finish addressing and stamping them.

So assuming they go out tomorrow and guests get them Friday or Saturday, that's 12-14 days from the party. Is that okay?

Viczaesar

That's fine.

lyndausvi

that is fine.

julieanne912

I think it's fine, and what are the alternatives? Not sending one at all?  I'd rather receive a thank you a bit late than no thank you at all.

spockforprez

julieanne912 said:

I think it's fine, and what are the alternatives? Not sending one at all?  I'd rather receive a thank you a bit late than no thank you at all.

Oh no, I'd send them anyway. I just wanted to know if I was already in ungrateful asshole territory yet, lol.

@lyndausvi @Viczaesar thanks!

huskypuppy14

No problem.

Viczaesar

dreadpirateroberts said:

julieanne912 said:

I think it's fine, and what are the alternatives? Not sending one at all?  I'd rather receive a thank you a bit late than no thank you at all.

Oh no, I'd send them anyway. I just wanted to know if I was already in ungrateful asshole territory yet, lol.

@lyndausvi @Viczaesar thanks!

My pleasure.  Love your screen name!

julieanne912

dreadpirateroberts said:

julieanne912 said:

I think it's fine, and what are the alternatives? Not sending one at all?  I'd rather receive a thank you a bit late than no thank you at all.

Oh no, I'd send them anyway. I just wanted to know if I was already in ungrateful asshole territory yet, lol.

@lyndausvi @Viczaesar thanks!

Oh no way, it's only been a couple weeks.  I got a thank you note 6 months later for a 3 year olds birthday party gift (mom wrote the note, obviously).  That was drifting into UAT.

spockforprez

scribe95 said:

Of course it's fine. I don't really understand your question. There is no alternative. You have to send them and you can't go back in time so....

Right - I knew the answer would either be I was fine or that I was late and a jerk, but I wanted to know where I stood. (Especially for future reference.) I'm sending them tonight regardless of whether someone answered, "Oh you have a month!" or whatever. Just couldn't find a good resource that wasn't for big events like weddings or babies.

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dreadpirateroberts said:

Of course it's fine. I don't really understand your question. There is no alternative. You have to send them and you can't go back in time so....

Right - I knew the answer would either be I was fine or that I was late and a jerk, but I wanted to know where I stood. (Especially for future reference.) I'm sending them tonight regardless of whether someone answered, "Oh you have a month!" or whatever. Just couldn't find a good resource that wasn't for big events like weddings or babies.

We didn't have a housewarming party, but a couple people sent us gifts when we first moved into our house.  I opened the box and left the gifts in the middle of the empty living room floor until FH saw them and I got the TY note written.  Then I got to put the gifts away and use them.  Until the note was written, I had a mess all over my floor.  It was encouragement to get the notes done.

spockforprez

adk19 said:

dreadpirateroberts said:

scribe95 said:

Of course it's fine. I don't really understand your question. There is no alternative. You have to send them and you can't go back in time so....

Right - I knew the answer would either be I was fine or that I was late and a jerk, but I wanted to know where I stood. (Especially for future reference.) I'm sending them tonight regardless of whether someone answered, "Oh you have a month!" or whatever. Just couldn't find a good resource that wasn't for big events like weddings or babies.

We didn't have a housewarming party, but a couple people sent us gifts when we first moved into our house.  I opened the box and left the gifts in the middle of the empty living room floor until FH saw them and I got the TY note written.  Then I got to put the gifts away and use them.  Until the note was written, I had a mess all over my floor.  It was encouragement to get the notes done.

Edit... can't tell if box...

Great idea! Love those self-motivating tricks (and need to apply more of them... especially for cleaning-- but maybe that's a topic for The Nest haha). I actually did write them all immediately but didn't have addresses ready and by the time I went back to work the following Tuesday it wasn't at the forefront of my mind. Been forgetting a lot of things lately! I need a Filofax like Katherine Heigl in 27 Dresses.