I have planned A's party for the first Sunday in December at a local children's museum. I'm inviting our families, friends and his class at school.
I made a $100 deposit to secure the date 3 weeks ago. I found out on Sunday at A's basketball game from my brother in law that he and his parents will be in Gainesville for his graduation from his remote MBA program that day. I had no idea, and I cannot change the party. Not only is that deposit non-refundable, but because we have a party every weekend after that until the end of the year. I apologized to my brother in law and he was totally fine with it either way. I also apologized to my MIL when she texted me about it last night and said that they should do what works for them and if they can't make it, I plan to do something at our house with family the night of his actual birthday.
This morning when I was dropping L off, my FIL asks me to change the party because it's unfair to A that both his uncle and his grandparents won't be there. Apparently, Jason and I, his brother, his other grandparents, great grandparents, his friends and all his classmates are simply not enough for him. I immediately cut him off and said, "I cannot change the party. I'm sorry. Do whatever you need to do."
I'm not sure if I'm asking for advice or validation here or just whining. I feel like they find it necessary to attend every event in the kid's life and I find that crazy. It's to the point where I don't tell them about things the kids are doing (like sports) because they will show up to EVERY.SINGLE.GAME.AND.PRACTICE.
So would you do if you were me? Indulge this or consider it nonsense and move on?