To whom do I address this invitation?

PeachyKeenMOB · December 2015

Hi everyone. This is my first post, but I have been lurking and reading since my daughter got engaged last December. Thanks to all of you, we will have a well-hosted, etiquette-approved wedding and reception! No cash bar, significant others invited by name, and dates of the wedding party seated at the head table.

I do have a question. The DJ is a relative of the groom's family. We are paying him for his services. However, if we weren't using him, he would have been invited with his wife. She is still invited. Do we now send the invitation to just his wife? Or do we address it to both of them? We are doing meal selection for each guest if that makes a difference. (We are doing vendor meals, and will be asking each of them for their meal choice.) Obviously, he will not be sitting with his wife at a guest table. So I am not sure what is proper etiquette in this situation.

Thank you in advance.

lyndausvi · December 2015

I would send it addressed to both of them. Let him choose is meal on the RSVP.

holyguacamole79 · December 2015

PeachyKeenMOB said:

Hi everyone. This is my first post, but I have been lurking and reading since my daughter got engaged last December. Thanks to all of you, we will have a well-hosted, etiquette-approved wedding and reception! No cash bar, significant others invited by name, and dates of the wedding party seated at the head table.

I do have a question. The DJ is a relative of the groom's family. We are paying him for his services. However, if we weren't using him, he would have been invited with his wife. She is still invited. Do we now send the invitation to just his wife? Or do we address it to both of them? We are doing meal selection for each guest if that makes a difference. (We are doing vendor meals, and will be asking each of them for their meal choice.) Obviously, he will not be sitting with his wife at a guest table. So I am not sure what is proper etiquette in this situation.

Thank you in advance.

I almost had a scenario like this. We had hired a friend of mine to DJ. We had every intention of inviting his wife to the wedding as well (turns out her baby was due 2 days before our wedding, so he understandably had to turn down the contract). We would have addressed the invite to both of them.

Glad to hear you & your daughter are getting valuable advice!