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    I don't think that's a very good plan. What if it rains, etc? Also, those guests are going to want to be able to watch the ceremony too. They're giving up time (at the very least) to be able to spend your wedding day with you. It seems very inconsiderate to make them sit outdoors.

    I think you need to find a larger ceremony space, or plan to move the entire ceremony outside so everyone will be able to see and participate equally.


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    edited August 2010
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    twilight.rosetwilight.rose member
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    edited August 2010
    I still disagree with forcing some people to sit outside, particularly if they're traveling up to five hours. I don't think a relaxed atmosphere has anything to do with it. I would be appalled if I attended any wedding to find that there wasn't adequate seating in the venue for everyone to sit. However, if you really have no other options, I guess that's what you will have to do.

    You're right, it is rude, no matter the circumstances, to invite people only to the reception, so props for not doing that.
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    You could end up with some really angry guests upset about being stuck outside, or some may opt to to attend at all, for that reason alone.  Or are you waiting til the day of your ceremony to inform your guests of the seating situation?

    Put yourself into 100 of your guests shoes: you pay for two new outfits (married couple), find a sitter for the kids, book a hotel so you do not have another 5 hour drive home, spend money on food while traveling on the road, arrive at the wedding only to be told - the church is full, you can only listen to the ceremony!


    Either cut your guest list or find a bigger church, or be prepared to spend your reception smoothing over ALOT of hurt feelings.

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    Whaaaa?

    Seriously? You're going to make 100 people sit OUTSIDE in the weather whether it be hot or cold and you really think that is OK?

    Find a new church, or invite 100 less people, either way sticking half or your GUESTS outside where they get the "luxury" of hearing your wedding after driving 3-5 hours to SEE it is unacceptable and beyond rude.
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    You need a new venue or a smaller guest list.  What you've proposed is not a viable solution.
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    If I were a guest at your wedding who was seated outside I would just leave. That is incredibly rude.


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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:1bfd7196-a462-40c2-bdbc-94253cbcc4d7">Church too small</a>:
    [QUOTE]Our ceremony will be held in a very small, rustic church which holds 100 people.  200 people will be coming, so we're going to put white chairs and speakers outside of the church so those who aren't able to fit in the church will at least be able to hear what's happening.  Anyone else had this problem?  Were people ok with it??
    Posted by aheimer[/QUOTE]

    No, no, no! OMG that is an AWFUL idea. You need to find a bigger church. Did you already send STD's/ invites?
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    Ditto PPs: either the church is too small or the guest list is too big.  You'll have to find a bigger church or cut your guest list so that everyone invited fits inside.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:373ad3a3-3919-4975-b33d-595d5d30e07d">Re: Church too small</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Church too small : No, no, no! OMG that is an AWFUL idea. You need to find a bigger church. Did you already send STD's/ invites?
    Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]
    Her wedding appears to be in 3 1/2 weeks from her profile. *sigh*
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    Then she needs to find a new venue now. You can not do this, its beyond rude.
    Who wants to sit outside (where you can even see the B&G during a wedding ceremony?
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    I agree completely with roxy. I honestly think I would leave (even if I had a ten-hour round trip) if I arrived at a wedding and discovered I would have to sit outside.

    Also, OP, couldn't it turn into something of a free-for-all with people attempting to get seats inside the church? I think it would be mass chaos for your guests, even with ushers.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:003fab37-9d02-4c4f-ba6e-de8ae3d38075">Re: Church too small</a>:
    [QUOTE]I agree completely with roxy. I honestly think I would leave (even if I had a ten-hour round trip) if I arrived at a wedding and discovered I would have to sit outside. Also, OP, <strong>couldn't it turn into something of a free-for-all with people attempting to get seats inside the church? I think it would be mass chaos for your guests, even with ushers.</strong>
    Posted by twilight.rose[/QUOTE]

    This. And honestly, instead of sitting outside, I'd cram myself in the building (providing I didn't leave).
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    nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    edited August 2010
    Oh op, how mature.
    So what are you going to do? This can not turn out well.

    P.S. I quoted you so uh, everyone can still see your original post.
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    Probably just going to call the wedding off. 

    I'm not too concerned that you quoted me, it will all work out wonderfully.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:a3da30d9-cfa6-40c2-b98c-4a261a880803">Re: x</a>:
    [QUOTE]Probably just going to call the wedding off.  I'm not too concerned that you quoted me, it will all work out wonderfully.
    Posted by aheimer[/QUOTE]

    You're going to call the wedding off?
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    Nice catch on the quote roxy.

    OP:  Even though you've apparently taken your ball and headed home, I'm going to give my opinion for the sake of other lurkers who might have the same question.

    This is a dreadful idea, and so very rude to your guests.  Should you follow through with this plan, I promise you that people will talk about your wedding for a long, long time.  Unfortunately, the talk will not be pretty.

    Please, rethink this.  Inviting twice the guests as your "very small rustic church" will hold was an awful idea from the get-go.  Find a way to fix this. and I don't mean half the guest list sitting outside.

    Do you honestly think that the people outside will be sitting quiety listening to your ceremony?  Oh noooooooooooo.  Noooooooooo they won't.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    tldhtldh member
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    I'm pretty sure if I pulled something like this my mom would have my butt in a sling and relatives would be bitching about this til the day I died.  Actually, it would probably be the first thing brought up in the eulogy.

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    Belle2BeBelle2Be member
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    edited August 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:7d618782-c139-4d3c-ab96-2464858080f4">Re: x</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm pretty sure if I pulled something like this my mom would have my butt in a sling and relatives would be bitching about this til the day I died.  Actually, it would probably be the first thing brought up in the eulogy.
    Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

    Actually, they probably wouldn't show up to your funeral for fear of being made to sit outside where they could have the *good fortune* of hearing said eulogy.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:1bfd7196-a462-40c2-bdbc-94253cbcc4d7">x</a>:
    [QUOTE]done
    Posted by aheimer[/QUOTE]
    As are your guests as soon as they show up and find their host refused to find them proper seating. Bye bye peace in the family, bye bye gifts, bye bye money for plates for people who refused to attend the reception.
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    tldhtldh member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:6c9c86c2-c6d4-416f-affb-0d7deb4cc4c2">Re: x</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: x : Actually, they probably wouldn't show up to your funeral for fear of being made to sit outside where they could have the *good fortune* of hearing said eulogy.
    Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]

    ha ha ha ha<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

    I'll be sure to die so the funeral is in either blistering heat or the middle of the worst cold snap of the year just to make it really memorable for the ones brave enough to show up.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:6c9c86c2-c6d4-416f-affb-0d7deb4cc4c2">Re: x</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: x : Actually, they probably wouldn't show up to your funeral for fear of being made to sit outside where they could have the *good fortune* of hearing said eulogy.
    Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]

    hahahahahahahahahaha.  ::stops to catch breath::

    hahahahahahahahahahahaha
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    You know, I deleted my post because I talked to our Priest and he had a great solution because he has faced the same issue in the past. 

    It kills me that brides come to this website for support and ideas, and in turn get ridiculed as though we are all in junior high again.  I haven't dreamed of my wedding my entire life, have chosen not to put life on hold to plan this one day, and am doing what I can with the resources I have to put together a day that my fiance and I will remember forever.   

    I'll pray that you all think about what you're writing when responding to people's posts, and wish you all the best in your big day.
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    tldhtldh member
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    OP, people gave you good advice and you chose to delete your post.  When somebody posts something that borders on the ridiculous you can expect people to joke around with eachother - especially since you DD'd and are presumably not here anymore.
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    I really want to know what the Priest's solution was....
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_church-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:5285922d-ec79-4308-9ce7-d3dc25dab6d3Post:a0ed16e2-9235-46dd-a0db-fd17e0ba988c">Re: x</a>:
    [QUOTE]You know, I deleted my post because I talked to our Priest and he had a great solution because he has faced the same issue in the past.  It kills me that brides come to this website for support and ideas, and in turn get ridiculed as though we are all in junior high again.  I haven't dreamed of my wedding my entire life, have chosen not to put life on hold to plan this one day, and am doing what I can with the resources I have to put together a day that my fiance and I will remember forever.    I'll pray that you all think about what you're writing when responding to people's posts, and wish you all the best in your big day.
    Posted by aheimer[/QUOTE]
    So what was said Priest's advice? Let me guess, your guests don't matter because it is *Your* day?
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    Was THAT the priests idea?

    And you know what? If you dreamed of this day your whole life, you should've dreamed up a bigger church. You would think you would have planned that out.

    I'm sorry, but you have to realize its stupid to invite more people than an area can hold.
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    roxy:  she said that she hadn't dreamed of this day her whole life.

    OP:  What was the priest's solution?
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    edited August 2010
    OP, please come back and tell us what the priest suggested. Remember others might have this problem. For all your lecturing, you didn't really give advice. tisk tisk.

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