I just got engaged a couple days ago, and while my FI and I have picked a date, we are currently keeping it on the DL. We have decided that it's best for us to have the ceremony and "reception" separately. We know that this is less of a traditional reception and more of a marriage celebration.
Because my father is a minister (and has been at the same church my entire life) there are a lot of people who will be expecting invites despite the fact that I don't know them all that well. I am a fairly shy person, and I have never wanted a big wedding, while my FI loves a good party. So to make everyone happy, we have decided to have a semi-destination wedding with just family (about 50 people since we have large families) and then the "reception" a couple days later.
Ideally, we would have the "reception" a couple weeks later, but because his family and best man are coming from halfway across the country it would be better on them to have it closer to the wedding.
Our current plan is to film the wedding and then show it at the ceremony at the beginning of the party. It will be pretty short, and everyone still gets to see us exchange vows. We probably won't do the traditional reception things like a first dance and bouquet toss because a) it's not technically a reception and b) we obviously aren't much for tradition.
My big question here is: What do you call this reception thing, and do you send Save the Dates for it or just invites?