DEAR ABBY: I’m a lesbian and have been in a relationship with a woman for two months now. She never offers to pay for our dates, and she hasn’t planned or executed one, either.
We’re both very feminine, although she would be considered slightly more so than I am. I feel this is important because I’m somehow the more dominant one.
How can I address this concern without hurting her? I would like her to reciprocate somewhat. — DOMINANT IN CALIFORNIA