*You* can decline her. Don't expect anyone else to do the same.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,

My father received an inquiry from a woman claiming to be the “love child” of my late uncle. (We have verified her claim.) She wants to know more about the family and has requested to connect via social media, but a quick glance at her Facebook reveals a torrent of conservative posts and borderline-racist comments. Is it OK to gracefully decline but still provide health information and family linkages?

—Ancestry Question

charlotte989875

You can choose to connect with her (or not) and your family members can do the same. If you want to connect, but not on social media, give her your email address. It's not that hard. 

short+sassy

It's an individual decision with no wrong answer.  I'd probably send one PM or e-mail message.  Telling her a bit about myself, my uncle, and any family medical history she might find helpful.  Also, either throw in a hint or flat out say that our communication will be infrequent.  Or no further communication, if that is my preference.

ei34

mrsconn23 said:

Dear Prudence,

My father received an inquiry from a woman claiming to be the “love child” of my late uncle. (We have verified her claim.) She wants to know more about the family and has requested to connect via social media, but a quick glance at her Facebook reveals a torrent of conservative posts and borderline-racist comments. Is it OK to gracefully decline but still provide health information and family linkages?

—Ancestry Question

You answered your own question LW.  That’s exactly what I’d do.