Dear Prudence,
For my entire adult life, I’ve identified as a lesbian. But a few months ago, I met a guy at an LGBTQ volunteer event. I mentioned I was a lesbian, and he told me he was queer. We immediately hit it off, and we’ve been hanging out regularly ever since. We’re both very shy—I rarely open up to people the way I have with him, and he’s said the same. I have lots of gay male friends, but this feels different. I’ve thought about it a lot, for a while now, and I’ve come to realize I have romantic feelings for him.
I have no idea what to do. There hasn’t been some broader realization that I’m attracted to men—just him. Is there some easy way to broach any of this with him? Should I just sit on these feelings and be sad about them until they pass?
—LGBTQWTF