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Including Brothers

I have three brothers and my fiance has two. Our wedding's on a tight budget and our wedding party consists of 4 groomsmen (best an included) and 4 bridesmaids (maid of honor included)

Fitting in an extra 5 guys on the stage to stand next to my fiance isn't really a feasible option.

I want to include my brothers but I need more ideas on honors or tasks to bestow on ppl. 

One of my bros is in film school so he's doing the videography.

I need one to run the ipod music. 

And then I run out of ideas. We don't have programs to hand out and the readings are being done by parents. What other jobs or honors can i give out?

Re: Including Brothers

  • We have 4 ushers.  Even without programs, the ushers help to seat the mother of the bride, mother of the groom, and grandmas to their seats prior to the wedding starting.  They also help make sure that everyone's lined up and ready to go outside of the church.  That might be good?

  • PeavyPeavy member
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    edited January 2012
    Just have them escort the family members down the aisle to their seats.  Videography and DJ-ing aren't really honors - they're jobs.  While your brother who is in film school might actually enjoy filming, I think you should find somebody else to man the ipod so your brothers can enjoy the day, too, as your honored (non-working) guests.
  • I agree with having them as ushers.  Have you already talked to your parents about reading.  For one, being the FOB/MOB/FOG/MOG is already a honor without reading.  Two, they may want to just sit back and absorb everything instead of having a task.  We asked my FFIL to co- officiate since he used to be a minister but can't technically marry us since he isn't any more and he declined because he wanted to just watch.  Also, if you are doing a unity candle/sand they could do that.
  • I agree with PPs about jobs not being honors. Maybe you could get special boutineers for all of the brothers (either matching the groomsmen or different) to kind of visually distinguish your siblings. That, along with front row seats, would be a nice honor without the extra baggage. Sorry, but guests don't need someone to instruct them on signing a guest book and nobody likes that job.
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  • TiffannieFTiffannieF member
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    edited January 2012
    Retread doesn't agree with the hole usher thing although I don't see the big deal about them. But I will agree with her on this. You are trying too hard to include them. Don't. They are boys, I'm not sure if they even care that much. Maybe just make sure you get a dance with them. Take a picture with them and later on give them one as a "gift".
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  • edited January 2012
    Hey Ladies,
    Let me clarify a bit so you understand where I'm coming from. It sounds like you think my brothers won't enjoy doing stuff at the wedding and would rather just sit there and watch. 

    I assure you my brothers enjoy taking a more participatory role in events. When they are just sitting and watching events, they get bored.They enjoy feeling like they helped to get things done

    I would obviously not give anyone the task of serving punch. That's just silly. Everyone is perfectly capable of getting punch themselves. 

    While I appreciate some of you might have thousands upon thousands of dollars to blow on a subpar videographer or mediocre dj's, I would like if you would at least pretend to be kind to those of us who don't.

  • Ya I didn't have thousands of dollars either. We gave you the advice you asked for. It was our advice, if you do not wish to use it then don't. Don't take it personal. We only give advice based on our personal experiences. If you don't want them as GMs then I don't know what to say other than use them as ushers.
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