I'm over the funeral photo shoots.

Jen4948

I have to admit that I wouldn't want my picture taken at a funeral, whether at the actual burial, memorial services, or reception afterwards. 

There have been other times earlier in my life when I didn't like being in family photos, and sometimes I still don't. And I could write a book as long as all of Leo Tolstoy's complete works about my mother's unwillingness to accept any boundaries from me (including hand-me down gifts). 

But I will not accept "you're not real family" from an in-law because my (hypothetical) marriage certificate makes that argument prima facie bullshit.

flantastic

kerbohl said:

banana468 said:

kerbohl said:

MIL does this to my husband.  He hates getting clothes, doesn't need any clothes, and she gives him non-functional clothes.  And she won't take no for an answer.  He's just taken to leaving  them in his closet and never wearing them, except when he goes over to visit.

Sounds like your H really cares for his mom when he'll wear the clothing he hates in her presence just to make her happy.   There's something endearing in it. 

Yeah, he's a sweetie, but then because she sees him wearing it she thinks he wants more ... but he's also done it where he would go over on days after he was working around the house and was wearing his old clothes, and she took that as a sign that he was in desperate need of good clothes.  Poor guy can't win.

Yeah, I started with the "pull the thing out when MIL is here to be nice" strategy and realized it was just reinforcing her idea that that's the sort of thing I liked. So many things just go straight to the donations now and I don't worry about it.