Bonus Prudie: RUN away!!

mrsconn23

I recently got engaged to my wonderful fiancé. Immediately after announcing the engagement to our families, my future SIL sat me down for a serious chat. She says she is currently saving up for breast implants and doesn’t want us to marry until she gets them done. She told me she wants to have one family wedding album where she looks perfect and will be heartbroken if I got married against her wishes. The trouble is, my fiancé says we should hold off the wedding for this reason, too. He knows his sister will cause so much trouble and doesn’t want to deal with the family drama. He thinks since we live together there is no hurry for marriage, anyway. I know how much he detests conflict and it’s true we are pretty much living as a married couple, but I feel like this is so wrong to postpone the wedding. He says the other option is to pay for his sister’s breast implant ourselves! Am I crazy for marrying into this family?

charlotte989875

CharmedPam

Say what?

VarunaTT

In answer to LW's question:

banana468

GTFO. 

Nope.   Nope.  Nope. 

I'd be pretty clear, "You are honestly thinking that the only two options here are to wait or postpone the wedding until her implants are done?"    

If some quality conversation isn't telling the FI that this is beyond the absurd then you need to run for the hills but first give him the ring back and tell him that if his sister's tits are that important to him then he can sell the ring and pay for them himself. 

downtondiva

NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE.

Also, NOPE.

OliveOilsMom

I remember this one!  I wish Prudie updated with old LWs, like some other advise columnist do.  I would love to know what happened here!

CharmedPam

ok, as someone who hated (and I still kinda do, I chose to small) her chest I kinda get FSIL’s view on this.  In my head I’d say “damn, I wanted to fit a dress better for all those pictures and memories that will be had, but I won’t get the surgery in time”.  But I’d never voice it!  I’d never ask for a postponement.  But I’m feeling the feels at least. 

banana468

CharmedPam said:

ok, as someone who hated (and I still kinda do, I chose to small) her chest I kinda get FSIL’s view on this.  In my head I’d say “damn, I wanted to fit a dress better for all those pictures and memories that will be had, but I won’t get the surgery in time”.  But I’d never voice it!  I’d never ask for a postponement.  But I’m feeling the feels at least. 

I am SUPER small chested and my breast bone goes in and my ribs stick out.   I'm thin now but when I was younger and thinner I was self conscious about it.   It looked like I had two sets of small breasts!  

BUT, if you want to look more filled out in dresses you can have cups sewn in, wear a padded bra or find other ways to fill them in for a DRESS.

VarunaTT

I think I'm really more stuck on the FI saying they could just pay for SIL implants.  Like, WTF on that!!  This isn't a medical necessity.  If they were flush with cash and just wanted to, I guess that's fine too, but it seems a fairly weird option to put on the table to me.

mrsconn23

VarunaTT said:

I think I'm really more stuck on the FI saying they could just pay for SIL implants.  Like, WTF on that!!  This isn't a medical necessity.  If they were flush with cash and just wanted to, I guess that's fine too, but it seems a fairly weird option to put on the table to me.

IKR?!  If he's willing to pony up for something this, trivial (Yes, I know that people plastic surgery for all reasons and it can help them with the self-esteem and whatnot.  It's still an elective surgery),what else is he going to offer to fork over cash for? 

CharmedPam

But also you’d have to say “my brother bought me my boobs”. Do you want to have to live with that, FSIL?