It's Monday (again)

ei34

Hi everyone!  How was your weekend?  Mine was nice...the beach was beautiful and we grilled for dinner both nights because the weather was so nice. 
WWWWD- my oldest's car parade party is this coming Saturday- I have goodie bag stuff for the kids driving by, that I'll toss into cars wearing a mask as they pass.  Should I have something for the adults? (Aka food...wrapped pieces of 6' hero, slices of cake, baggies of brownies...although as I'm typing it I'm thinking no.)  Feels strange not feeding people coming by.  Has anyone attended a car parade been "hosted" in any way?
Hope you're all well

MNNEBride

@ei34 - We were involved in a car parade a couple of weeks ago and weren't hosted in any way.  I really wouldn't have expected anything.

charlotte989875

Thats cute @ei34; I wouldn’t expect anything but I doubt any parent would disappointed with some chocolate or those mini wines bottles. 

Weekend was good, the weather was beautiful so we were outside a lot. My in-laws dropped off a bunch of food Friday night and then  parents dropped off a ton more on Saturday. I think it’s their way of dealing with the situation but it makes cooking so much easier! 

Super exhausted today. Insomnia woke me up but then the dog was sick and I was worried he was going to puke because his stomach was SO LOUD. I’m hoping to sneak in a nap lunch today. 

short+sassy

@ei34, grilling at the beach sounds awesome!  I'm jealous, lol.  I haven't been part of a car parade, but I can't imagine any of the participants expect anything.  It's really nice you have goodie bags for the kids and I'd think parents would be just as happy with that and think it's a nice surprise.  You don't need to feel weird about not having anything for the adults.  My guess is there are a lot of people nowadays who wouldn't want to eat food out of someone else's kitchen anyway.

Unfortunately, Sat. was a really bad day for me (sigh).  My streak of tenants paying their rent ended.  I found out on Fri. that the ones who have already been skating on thin ice because of excessive noise complaints, also don't have May's rent.  Any of it.  Supposedly because the breadwinner has lost her job.  She didn't tell me when, but I assume it was at least two weeks ago.  But then admitted she hasn't even filed for unemployment!!!  Because she "didn't know where to go or how to do it".  Riiigghhhtt.  So I spoon fed her the website and which button to click on to apply.  Not that I knew that info off the top of my head.  But found it in a 20-second Google search.  Just like she could have, smh.  A really fishy story, to say the least.

Then, Sat. morning, I find out that although the loud music has been a lot better.  The constant foot traffic and random people at the property all the time has not stopped at all.  Despite the "Stay At Home" city ordinance!  In fact, their behavior has gotten even worse.  I guess they forget to take out their trash cans, so they've been throwing their trash in the yards.  In the NEIGHBOR'S yard!!!!  And using the other tenant's trash can.  Either they or their guests have also been blocking my neighbor's driveway.  Which is completely insane because there is tons of on-street parking.  That is someone who is literally too lazy to walk an extra 4-10'.

I ended up spending a few hours on Sat. writing up two different official notices to be posted on their door.  But then I also took the time to send an e-mail that went into more explanation and what I need from them to correct the negative actions affecting other neighbors.  I also told her in the e-mail that, while I gave them a Pay or Quit notice that is two weeks long instead of the normal 5 days in order to protect myself, that I can be more flexible than that if they give me a plan and we can also put the plan in writing.  I had already offered to do that in our text conversation, but all she said was she doesn't have any money and isn't working.  Yet apparently hasn't lifted a finger to help herself either.  Like filing for UE.  And that was really the main purpose of the Pay or Quit notice.  Putting a fire under her to stop sitting around and do something to help herself.

And her response back was just that I can pick up the rent today at 10AM.  I'm getting ready to leave and go do that.  Hopefully it's true.  But even if it is, in a way, that is also concerning.  Because one minute they have nothing and then, when I start asking a few basic questions to try and work out a plan with them, now they have it.  I've had this bad feeling in my gut for a long time that there is something sketchy going on in that house and I'm missing a big piece of the picture.      

MyNameIsNot

It was a good weekend here. The weather was really nice and we got a ton done outside. We bought one of those fire tables and set up on the deck. I am obsessed with the dragon glass. We have the real fire pit down in the yard, this is just a pretty thing for up on the deck. MIL ended up coming over with my niece on Saturday. It was so nice to have contact with other humans for the first time in months. MIL being MIL had to make a rude comment about my body and put a damper on my mood, but it was otherwise ok. 

I haven't been part of any parades, @ei34, but we've seen some drive by birthdays and stuff. I haven't seen anyone giving candy or food to the cars, just honking and waving. I would think sharing food would defeat the purpose of social distancing to be touching the wrapper and then the recipient touches. Do they then have to go home and wipe down all the candy wrappers? Am I missing something? 

missJeanLouise

Our weekend was good, I think, all my days are blending together. I am just living in shipping hell and can't get  anything locally (don't want to go exploring to find the things I need). It is all stuff for sewing or other silly things so I can't be too upset or impatient.

DH got a wild hair up his butt and decided to order DS a new bed. I noticed DS starting to climb the side of his crib and told DH that we would have to think about putting him in a bed eventually, maybe sooner than later. But I didn't mean this week, lol. DH said he is already getting nervous about it and might be regretting his choice.

@ei34 I wouldn't worry about anything for the adults

banana468

short+sassy said:

@ei34, grilling at the beach sounds awesome!  I'm jealous, lol.  I haven't been part of a car parade, but I can't imagine any of the participants expect anything.  It's really nice you have goodie bags for the kids and I'd think parents would be just as happy with that and think it's a nice surprise.  You don't need to feel weird about not having anything for the adults.  My guess is there are a lot of people nowadays who wouldn't want to eat food out of someone else's kitchen anyway.

Unfortunately, Sat. was a really bad day for me (sigh).  My streak of tenants paying their rent ended.  I found out on Fri. that the ones who have already been skating on thin ice because of excessive noise complaints, also don't have May's rent.  Any of it.  Supposedly because the breadwinner has lost her job.  She didn't tell me when, but I assume it was at least two weeks ago.  But then admitted she hasn't even filed for unemployment!!!  Because she "didn't know where to go or how to do it".  Riiigghhhtt.  So I spoon fed her the website and which button to click on to apply.  Not that I knew that info off the top of my head.  But found it in a 20-second Google search.  Just like she could have, smh.  A really fishy story, to say the least.

Then, Sat. morning, I find out that although the loud music has been a lot better.  The constant foot traffic and random people at the property all the time has not stopped at all.  Despite the "Stay At Home" city ordinance!  In fact, their behavior has gotten even worse.  I guess they forget to take out their trash cans, so they've been throwing their trash in the yards.  In the NEIGHBOR'S yard!!!!  And using the other tenant's trash can.  Either they or their guests have also been blocking my neighbor's driveway.  Which is completely insane because there is tons of on-street parking.  That is someone who is literally too lazy to walk an extra 4-10'.

I ended up spending a few hours on Sat. writing up two different official notices to be posted on their door.  But then I also took the time to send an e-mail that went into more explanation and what I need from them to correct the negative actions affecting other neighbors.  I also told her in the e-mail that, while I gave them a Pay or Quit notice that is two weeks long instead of the normal 5 days in order to protect myself, that I can be more flexible than that if they give me a plan and we can also put the plan in writing.  I had already offered to do that in our text conversation, but all she said was she doesn't have any money and isn't working.  Yet apparently hasn't lifted a finger to help herself either.  Like filing for UE.  And that was really the main purpose of the Pay or Quit notice.  Putting a fire under her to stop sitting around and do something to help herself.

And her response back was just that I can pick up the rent today at 10AM.  I'm getting ready to leave and go do that.  Hopefully it's true.  But even if it is, in a way, that is also concerning.  Because one minute they have nothing and then, when I start asking a few basic questions to try and work out a plan with them, now they have it.  I've had this bad feeling in my gut for a long time that there is something sketchy going on in that house and I'm missing a big piece of the picture.      

Someone who doesn't have money and can suddenly get it clearly makes me think that they are engaging in something not legal in order to pay the bills.  


The weekend was OK.   DH took a gamble and invited his mom over for a socially distanced visit with the kids.   FIL showed up and started to stir up shit politically and ultimately decided to take off.   He said something like, "I think in a few years when we evaluate this we'll learn that all of this shut down was unnecessary."  My response was, "We'll have to agree to disagree."  I commented, "I'm thankful that some of these positions allowed my husband to work from home so he wasn't one of the 35 documented cases," and FIL's response was, "Do they know if the people got the virus at work? "  Dude - way to miss the point.  

I realized after he and MIL commented about a video shared by a family member who commented what they go through in the funeral business (in a hot zone) that we watched the same video and had two polar opposite views.  

I have to remind myself that they need to process this in their way.   And this is their own trauma of sorts.   

But don't fuck with me at my house.   You can keep your opinions and you know mine.   Don't start a conversation with me if you know how it's going to go and the answer is that you get petulant and stomp your feet and leave when you don't get the desired result.   I'm going to protect my family and I'm out of fucks to give with your political views. 

kvruns

@ei34 I saw pix of a parade on FB where they gave goodie bags to kids and slices of cake on a plate but that would be messy and annoying to me in a car. I think if you wanted to do a little something you could but wouldn't feel obligated

@short+sassy did you get your money (its 10am your time now I think). Are you allowed to evict people right now? I thought some areas had bans on it but wasn't sure if it was everywhere. 

levioosa

@short+sassy do you think they’re dealing? 

Weekend was pretty good. Had some great BCBC. We ended up staying up until 5 am on Saturday night again just having a good time. Who even are we? 

We started the new Netflix show Too Hot to Handle and it is hilariously bad. But we’re invested now. 

Yesterday my dad texted, asking to come over to pick up tools. We were not thrilled, especially since we had tried calling him the day before without a response. Then all of a sudden he wanted to just drop by and pick up stuff that was all the way in the back of the garage and under the house. So that was not super great. We did end up spending like an hour talking to my parents from a distance. I think they were a little disappointed we didn’t invite them in, but I wasn’t going to risk it. It was nice to see them, but the timing could have been a lot better. 

Otherwise, SSDD. The march towards the weekend begins again. Trying to come to terms with the fact that we’ve had tacos for a week and a half straight so tomorrow we’ll be having spaghetti instead of Mexican food lol. 

Jen4948

It was very busy. I had a major role in Saturday morning online services for my synagogue, and even though I told my parents about it and they expressed interest, they missed it. At least it wasn't my bat mitzvah.

I am also in charge of producing an online production of As You Like It for a theatrical company I belong to, and several members are meddling and giving me pushback. I finally had to tell one of them, who has been in charge of producing other plays for this company, that the decisions I and the company head had made are final, and that when she was in charge she could make the decisions.

And I have an online yoga instructor who unfortunately lost much of her livelihood. She taught live classes up until the quarantine, and is desperate for new business, so she keeps emailing me about it.

Now back to work...serving all those clients in desperate need of PPP loans.

Jen4948

short+sassy said:

@ei34, grilling at the beach sounds awesome!  I'm jealous, lol.  I haven't been part of a car parade, but I can't imagine any of the participants expect anything.  It's really nice you have goodie bags for the kids and I'd think parents would be just as happy with that and think it's a nice surprise.  You don't need to feel weird about not having anything for the adults.  My guess is there are a lot of people nowadays who wouldn't want to eat food out of someone else's kitchen anyway.

Unfortunately, Sat. was a really bad day for me (sigh).  My streak of tenants paying their rent ended.  I found out on Fri. that the ones who have already been skating on thin ice because of excessive noise complaints, also don't have May's rent.  Any of it.  Supposedly because the breadwinner has lost her job.  She didn't tell me when, but I assume it was at least two weeks ago.  But then admitted she hasn't even filed for unemployment!!!  Because she "didn't know where to go or how to do it".  Riiigghhhtt.  So I spoon fed her the website and which button to click on to apply.  Not that I knew that info off the top of my head.  But found it in a 20-second Google search.  Just like she could have, smh.  A really fishy story, to say the least.

Then, Sat. morning, I find out that although the loud music has been a lot better.  The constant foot traffic and random people at the property all the time has not stopped at all.  Despite the "Stay At Home" city ordinance!  In fact, their behavior has gotten even worse.  I guess they forget to take out their trash cans, so they've been throwing their trash in the yards.  In the NEIGHBOR'S yard!!!!  And using the other tenant's trash can.  Either they or their guests have also been blocking my neighbor's driveway.  Which is completely insane because there is tons of on-street parking.  That is someone who is literally too lazy to walk an extra 4-10'.

I ended up spending a few hours on Sat. writing up two different official notices to be posted on their door.  But then I also took the time to send an e-mail that went into more explanation and what I need from them to correct the negative actions affecting other neighbors.  I also told her in the e-mail that, while I gave them a Pay or Quit notice that is two weeks long instead of the normal 5 days in order to protect myself, that I can be more flexible than that if they give me a plan and we can also put the plan in writing.  I had already offered to do that in our text conversation, but all she said was she doesn't have any money and isn't working.  Yet apparently hasn't lifted a finger to help herself either.  Like filing for UE.  And that was really the main purpose of the Pay or Quit notice.  Putting a fire under her to stop sitting around and do something to help herself.

And her response back was just that I can pick up the rent today at 10AM.  I'm getting ready to leave and go do that.  Hopefully it's true.  But even if it is, in a way, that is also concerning.  Because one minute they have nothing and then, when I start asking a few basic questions to try and work out a plan with them, now they have it.  I've had this bad feeling in my gut for a long time that there is something sketchy going on in that house and I'm missing a big piece of the picture.      

I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Are you able to evict her if it turns out she doesn't have the rent?

ILoveBeachMusic

I need to stay off FB more. I hadn't been on much for the past few weeks but this weekend was on way too much. People anger me with their dismissal of precautions. I shouldn't be surprised but anti-vaxers are all about we can't get herd immunity if we socially distance WTF! I have unfollowed several people in the last few days because I just can't deal with them.

The weekend was nice. Saturday I lazed around on our porch reading a book. I even napped a bit. Yesterday the weather was a lot nicer than expected. We talked with our neighbor (socially distancing) who lost their grandson earlier this year. His daughter, of course, is still struggling but is getting better. He says she likes getting cards addressed to her, her H and the baby. She's afraid people will forget him. I am debating about sending her a card for Mother's Day. I'm sure there are appropriate cards out there. 

I went for a long walk outside this morning - again a gorgeous day. That is suppose to change tonight with rain and cooler temps arriving. 

@short+sassy sorry you are going through all that at this time especially.

Jen4948

One of my Facebook connections keeps spewing bullshit about how she's being judged for not wearing a mask because, liberty and freedom. I told her that I am going to keep wearing masks and gloves in public because I have people to protect, including myself, none of whom have to die for her, and if she doesn't want to be judged, then she should do the same. Several people agreed with me, but some congratulated her for putting out "truth." 

banana468

Jen4948 said:

One of my Facebook connections keeps spewing bullshit about how she's being judged for not wearing a mask because, liberty and freedom. I told her that I am going to keep wearing masks and gloves in public because I have people to protect, including myself, none of whom have to die for her, and if she doesn't want to be judged, then she should do the same. Several people agreed with me, but some congratulated her for putting out "truth." 

Honest question: where are you wearing gloves? I'm on the fence about wearing them on those super infrequent times I've left if I can get into my home and wash my hands upon arrival and Lysol every doorknob.   I know there's some issue that in places like grocery shopping wearing gloves can still spread the virus because there are multiple points of contact. 

Jen4948

banana468 said:

Jen4948 said:

One of my Facebook connections keeps spewing bullshit about how she's being judged for not wearing a mask because, liberty and freedom. I told her that I am going to keep wearing masks and gloves in public because I have people to protect, including myself, none of whom have to die for her, and if she doesn't want to be judged, then she should do the same. Several people agreed with me, but some congratulated her for putting out "truth." 

Honest question: where are you wearing gloves? I'm on the fence about wearing them on those super infrequent times I've left if I can get into my home and wash my hands upon arrival and Lysol every doorknob.   I know there's some issue that in places like grocery shopping wearing gloves can still spread the virus because there are multiple points of contact. 

I wore them yesterday when I went grocery shopping. If someone doesn't want to wear masks and gloves inside their own home, that's their issue, but as far as I'm concerned, when you're in public, you owe everyone else the courtesy of appropriate protective measures.

banana468

Jen4948 said:

banana468 said:

Jen4948 said:

One of my Facebook connections keeps spewing bullshit about how she's being judged for not wearing a mask because, liberty and freedom. I told her that I am going to keep wearing masks and gloves in public because I have people to protect, including myself, none of whom have to die for her, and if she doesn't want to be judged, then she should do the same. Several people agreed with me, but some congratulated her for putting out "truth." 

Honest question: where are you wearing gloves? I'm on the fence about wearing them on those super infrequent times I've left if I can get into my home and wash my hands upon arrival and Lysol every doorknob.   I know there's some issue that in places like grocery shopping wearing gloves can still spread the virus because there are multiple points of contact. 

I wore them yesterday when I went grocery shopping. If someone doesn't want to wear masks and gloves inside their own home, that's their issue, but as far as I'm concerned, when you're in public, you owe everyone else the courtesy of appropriate protective measures.

I totally agree about the masks.

The concern I have w/ glove wearing is that there are too many points of contact throughout a grocery store so that the wearing of them prevents anything other than spreading the virus to you.   If you wear gloves and touch grapes and then a bag and then your shopping cart and then a box of Cheerios and then a container of pine nuts you aren't preventing the spread of anything within the store unless you're grabbing those items with Lysol wipes.   There's too much potential for the virus to already be on multiple surfaces throughout the store and therefore the use of gloves doesn't prevent spreading the virus to anyone other than yourself.   

It would be like watching your doctor wear gloves to examine you and then wear the same gloves to examine someone else.  @levioosa can you help clarify this?  

I am not attempting to create an argument.   I honestly would love some clarification on this to ensure I'm not contributing to the spread.

levioosa

Jen4948 said:

banana468 said:

Jen4948 said:

One of my Facebook connections keeps spewing bullshit about how she's being judged for not wearing a mask because, liberty and freedom. I told her that I am going to keep wearing masks and gloves in public because I have people to protect, including myself, none of whom have to die for her, and if she doesn't want to be judged, then she should do the same. Several people agreed with me, but some congratulated her for putting out "truth." 

Honest question: where are you wearing gloves? I'm on the fence about wearing them on those super infrequent times I've left if I can get into my home and wash my hands upon arrival and Lysol every doorknob.   I know there's some issue that in places like grocery shopping wearing gloves can still spread the virus because there are multiple points of contact. 

I wore them yesterday when I went grocery shopping. If someone doesn't want to wear masks and gloves inside their own home, that's their issue, but as far as I'm concerned, when you're in public, you owe everyone else the courtesy of appropriate protective measures.

The issue with gloves is people are making them more dangerous than if they had just practiced good hand hygiene. Gloves don’t magically ward off bacteria and viruses. So it’s cool if you wear them, but then if you’re touching everything, then touching your phone, your keys, your face, your car, etc, you’re actually increasing your risk. So unless you literally only touch the shopping cart and the items, then you change them before reaching for your card, then change them again after using the pin pad, you’re not doing yourself much good. Better to just use hand sanitizer at the store and then wash your hands at home when you first walk through the door. 

banana468

levioosa said:

Jen4948 said:

banana468 said:

Jen4948 said:

One of my Facebook connections keeps spewing bullshit about how she's being judged for not wearing a mask because, liberty and freedom. I told her that I am going to keep wearing masks and gloves in public because I have people to protect, including myself, none of whom have to die for her, and if she doesn't want to be judged, then she should do the same. Several people agreed with me, but some congratulated her for putting out "truth." 

Honest question: where are you wearing gloves? I'm on the fence about wearing them on those super infrequent times I've left if I can get into my home and wash my hands upon arrival and Lysol every doorknob.   I know there's some issue that in places like grocery shopping wearing gloves can still spread the virus because there are multiple points of contact. 

I wore them yesterday when I went grocery shopping. If someone doesn't want to wear masks and gloves inside their own home, that's their issue, but as far as I'm concerned, when you're in public, you owe everyone else the courtesy of appropriate protective measures.

The issue with gloves is people are making them more dangerous than if they had just practiced good hand hygiene. Gloves don’t magically ward off bacteria and viruses. So it’s cool if you wear them, but then if you’re touching everything, then touching your phone, your keys, your face, your car, etc, you’re actually increasing your risk. So unless you literally only touch the shopping cart and the items, then you change them before reaching for your card, then change them again after using the pin pad, you’re not doing yourself much good. Better to just use hand sanitizer at the store and then wash your hands at home when you first walk through the door. 

That's the way I understood it.   And gloves *can* be great depending on the situation - but they are really not helping to prevent the spread unless you have multiple pairs that you're changing all the time. 

I see no value wearing gloves inside my home unless I was dealing with something potentially contaminated that I would touch and then the gloves could come off.   However we aren't really going anywhere (DH makes the grocery trips wearing a mask and goes alone - has gone 1x every 2-3 weeks since 3/16).   I also routinely disinfect the surfaces of my home, wipe down the groceries that arrive and wipe down the doorknobs, etc.   That seems to do more doesn't it if hands are sanitized and carts are wiped down when entering a grocery store? 

Jen4948

I wash my hands and disinfect my surfaces as much as I can. I do have multiple pairs of gloves, and I wear different ones whenever I leave my apartment (which is only for essential errands like grocery shopping).

CharmedPam

Thanks for that explanation, @levioosa.  I haven’t been in a grocery store in awhile and hope to avoid them if I can!
@ei34 how awesome for that parade.  Is it bad that when I hear people “wearing masks” I automatically picture them in Halloween masks.  Like jason or Micheal Myers... but I don’t think that’s what you meant right...? Lol
@short+sassy so annoying!  I’d like to know if you got the $ too.  Last Wednesday someone had dumped their garbage on my own lawn!  Busted out of the bag because it didn't hold it all.  Maybe the garbage men didn't take it and it was a neighbor of mine but it was on MY lawn!

For anyone who was getting gel/no chips before all of this, I found an amazing replacement.  It’s a one coat product (no bottom/top layer) and no harmful chemicals in it.  Also uses a led light.  I applied my gel on Friday and it looks perfect still.  I may even continue this if I get better at it.  If you’re serious about a diy gel set I say gelmoments for sure.  I dont sell it and this is a friend of a friend of mine who held the party, but I can give you a link if anyone is supplier-less. 

My admin contacted me and said it would be announced next week about our back to work time time and she said don’t expect anything anytime soon!

ei34

Ouch @short+sassy what a headache! 
Thanks everyone...it's kind of an intimate car parade- just my parents, siblings, and a couple of cousins with similarly-aged kids...decided not to open it up to my daughter's classmates.
I always wear a mask when I do my weekly trip to the store...I don't always wear gloves. Hand sanitize when I'm back in the car and scrub hands once home. 

banana468

Jen4948 said:

I wash my hands and disinfect my surfaces as much as I can. I do have multiple pairs of gloves, and I wear different ones whenever I leave my apartment (which is only for essential errands like grocery shopping).

I think that's great.   I just hope that you understand that there are major differences between the wearing of gloves and the wearing of masks.   If I'm shopping in public and not wearing gloves it isn't because I am not trying to do my best.   It's because I know that it's going to be nearly impossible for me to stop the spread due to the nature of how much touching happens in grocery stores.   This is a good video that demonstrates the issue with cross contamination:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dXU6VjjLFsw 

VarunaTT

Medicated Varuna is in a much better place.  I don't even care if its partially psychosomatic, I'm enjoying not having a racing heart beat, the fact that I'm actually smiling today, not spiraling around things, and just feeling more normal.  I am sleeping better, but I'm waking up around 3-4am and after that I tend to sleep rather fitfully for the next few hours.  I also have some hella night sweats, but I'm hoping that gets back to normal as my body adjusts to this.

This weekend, I was able to relax and that's really what I did.  But right now I am sick of cooking!  Definitely in a rut of ordering take out and need to stop.  Ordered Mother's Day gifts for our moms.  Watched Sonic the Hedgehog, which was really cute.  Also finished Laundromat on Netflix.  With Meryl Streep, Gary Oldman, Antonia Banderas as the main stars, and a cast of supporting characters you'll definitely recognize the actors...and a story that seem rife with drama...it was terrible.  It's like it couldn't decide what type of movie it wanted to be, and the comedy mostly fell flat.  Then Meryl launches into this massive speech at the end that like...ma'am, you are rich as hell and I don't need to be lectured by you on this matter.  IDK, it left a bad taste in my mouth, I was not impressed.

SSDD at work.  My attorney was kind of nicely trying to throw me under the bus.  I kind of nicely threw him back, by pointing out that the email was only to him and I have no way of knowing anything if he doesn't forward said email to me.  OH and I found out...my employer DID get reported...5 TIMES! for having us at work!!  Which is why he made us come back full time last week, rather than this week. B/c he's a petulant fucking child apparently.  IDK what's going to happen.  There's a lot of stuff going down at this place right now.  I'm basically chilling, doing my job as long as my checks are paid or the place goes down in flames and I can collect unemployment for awhile. 

Jen4948

banana468 said:

Jen4948 said:

I wash my hands and disinfect my surfaces as much as I can. I do have multiple pairs of gloves, and I wear different ones whenever I leave my apartment (which is only for essential errands like grocery shopping).

I think that's great.   I just hope that you understand that there are major differences between the wearing of gloves and the wearing of masks.   If I'm shopping in public and not wearing gloves it isn't because I am not trying to do my best.   It's because I know that it's going to be nearly impossible for me to stop the spread due to the nature of how much touching happens in grocery stores.   This is a good video that demonstrates the issue with cross contamination:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dXU6VjjLFsw 

Yes, I am aware, which is why I wear both in public. Your assumption that I was not aware or did not understand was not accurate.

CharmedPam

So wait @VarunaTT, you went back to work earlier than expected as payback?!?  Yeah sounds like a shitshow for real

VarunaTT

CharmedPam said:

So wait @VarunaTT, you went back to work earlier than expected as payback?!?  Yeah sounds like a shitshow for real

Yep!  the state opened today, we went back to work fulltime last week.

Honestly, it's bizarre.  The thing is, if he wouldn't be such a paraonid, petulant child, this could be a great place to work, with a lot of senior staff that stayed around and didn't leave and made them loads of money.  **shrug** 

short+sassy

Thanks everyone for support!  Sorry to leave you waiting on answers, lol.  Since I was leaving the house anyway, I did the grocery shopping I neglected over the weekend.  I was able to pick up all the rent (phew)!!

As far as I know, the courts are opening up on May 18th and I could have evicted then, so I had set the date on her Pay or Quit to May 17th.  Though it's also possible they won't and will wait longer before they open.  Which was also a big worry for me, so I'm extra glad it is a moot point for now.  Plus, if that is the first day to file for evictions, I'm sure it will be a madhouse.  Landlords and property managers will be lined up before the courts open, like it's Black Friday and Best Buy is selling $10 50-inch tvs, lol.

There are longer eviction protections for tenants who are under a housing program, like Section 8.  There are also longer eviction protections for tenants who are renting a house where the mortgage is under a Fannie Mae or Freddie Mac loan (something like that).  But neither one of those conditions apply to these tenants or this property.  In addition, those eviction protections are only for non-payment of rent.

@levioosa, I don't think they're dealing because, although they have a lot of guests, they're guests who stay and hang out.  Usually dealing is also lots of foot traffic, but no one stays for more than a few minutes.

I also found out more juicy details from the tenants who live in the other unit.  One of the tenants in the problem unit is a young, adult daughter of one of the other ones.  Apparently she moved out this weekend!  Interesting it is right after I posted a Cure or Quit notice.  Maybe I'm just being prejudiced because of her age, but I suspect a lot of the reason this house has seemed to be a "party house" is because of her.  So I'm crossing my fingers this solves the nuisance and noise problems.

The tenant in the other unit also saw I'd posted the Pay or Quit notice.  Granted, it's just her word from what she's noticed.  But she told me she can't believe they haven't paid their rent.  She said they brought home a nice looking dining room table last week and are always going out shopping and bringing home bags of stuff.  She also said the guy who is living there...not on the lease (sigh), but I know who he is...leaves every morning and comes back in the early evening.  Just like someone who has a regular job.   

banana468

Not sure how many Dave Matthews Band fans there are here  - but they just announced on Facebook that their 2020 tour is postponed until 2021.

They open in CT and we have tickets for the first night of the tour that was scheduled to be the 16th.  That should be peak in our county where the casino is and I'm doubtful that concerts would even be on by then.   I'm honestly relieved that we're not facing a weird game of roulette and now we just look to next year with hope.   

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Jen4948 said:

banana468 said:

Jen4948 said:

I wash my hands and disinfect my surfaces as much as I can. I do have multiple pairs of gloves, and I wear different ones whenever I leave my apartment (which is only for essential errands like grocery shopping).

I think that's great.   I just hope that you understand that there are major differences between the wearing of gloves and the wearing of masks.   If I'm shopping in public and not wearing gloves it isn't because I am not trying to do my best.   It's because I know that it's going to be nearly impossible for me to stop the spread due to the nature of how much touching happens in grocery stores.   This is a good video that demonstrates the issue with cross contamination:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dXU6VjjLFsw 

Yes, I am aware, which is why I wear both in public. Your assumption that I was not aware or did not understand was not accurate.

OK that's great.   You commented that "if you don't want to be judged you should do the same".   It appears to be unanimous that mask wearing is essential for public health when social distancing in public is not possible however wearing gloves seems to be disputed as a good method.   And I'm glad you are able to wear gloves in a manner that would not spread.   However please consider a little less judgement against those who are wearing masks but not gloves in public given the evidence about how well the wearing of gloves works when multiple surfaces are going to be touched.

short+sassy

banana468 said:

Not sure how many Dave Matthews Band fans there are here  - but they just announced on Facebook that their 2020 tour is postponed until 2021.

They open in CT and we have tickets for the first night of the tour that was scheduled to be the 16th.  That should be peak in our county where the casino is and I'm doubtful that concerts would even be on by then.   I'm honestly relieved that we're not facing a weird game of roulette and now we just look to next year with hope.   

Sweet!  Do your tickets just automatically transfer to a similar date next year?

He is one of the headliners at the New Orleans Jazz Fest almost every year.  Originally that event was postponed to October.  But now they've completely cancelled it for 2020 (sniff, sniff).

banana468

short+sassy said:

banana468 said:

Not sure how many Dave Matthews Band fans there are here  - but they just announced on Facebook that their 2020 tour is postponed until 2021.

They open in CT and we have tickets for the first night of the tour that was scheduled to be the 16th.  That should be peak in our county where the casino is and I'm doubtful that concerts would even be on by then.   I'm honestly relieved that we're not facing a weird game of roulette and now we just look to next year with hope.   

Sweet!  Do your tickets just automatically transfer to a similar date next year?

He is one of the headliners at the New Orleans Jazz Fest almost every year.  Originally that event was postponed to October.  But now they've completely cancelled it for 2020 (sniff, sniff).

They do!  I'm optimistic I can still try to upgrade my tickets to the pit for next year and the ones I purchased are still good.   They hadn't even been mailed yet because I bought directly from DMB and they aren't released until usually a few weeks before the event.

My guess is that they can't look at each tour date and decide if it's on so they scrapped the entire thing.   It's a bummer but I'm glad that DH and I don't have to figure out what we'd be doing.   If there was any kind of social behavior I anticipate engaging in during next month I think it's going to be all outdoor related and at the marina (which still does not allow it yet).   So time will tell.