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dia de Prudie

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We got insane storms last night- two tomato plants, the eggplant and the sunflowers were all knocked to the ground.  I'm about to head out and see what I can salvage.  We didn't lose power though, and the rain broke the humidity, so I'll take it.  Hope everyone is doing well!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    ei34 said:
    We got insane storms last night- two tomato plants, the eggplant and the sunflowers were all knocked to the ground.  I'm about to head out and see what I can salvage.  We didn't lose power though, and the rain broke the humidity, so I'll take it.  Hope everyone is doing well!
    We lost power for 10 seconds - enough that I thought DH did something funky with the dimmer switch in our bathroom while I was washing my face.  I came downstairs to see that the dishwasher didn't run and the clocks were blinking.  

    It's a stressful week at work.   We have a lot going on and it's good but anytime we experience delays its frustrating when I can't give clients updates on completion dates.  It feels like failing business 101 and every customer ever doesn't want to know that something is late.   They also want to know when the delay ends  and their products are ready to ship.    

    We are trying to get a house for our vacation and I'm crossing my fingers that the realtor I found yesterday will get us one of our choices.  


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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    good luck with the vacation house @banana468
    glad no major damage from the storms.

    if you were going on a first date tomorrow, just for drinks, someone who you hit it off with on match com - but nothing too too flirtatious yet, what would you wear?
    A - play it safe
    B - show the girls (keep in mind, they’re not even a year old, and I’m really not used to showing off any cleavage)
    C - mix of both?  I don’t have a pic of me in it, but it came in my venus order. I was thinking this one on the way to work....

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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    CharmedPam said:
    good luck with the vacation house @banana468
    glad no major damage from the storms.

    if you were going on a first date tomorrow, just for drinks, someone who you hit it off with on match com - but nothing too too flirtatious yet, what would you wear?
    A - play it safe
    B - show the girls (keep in mind, they’re not even a year old, and I’m really not used to showing off any cleavage)
    C - mix of both?  I don’t have a pic of me in it, but it came in my venus order. I was thinking this one on the way to work....

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    I vote C- it’s different but also a little sexy but not too much. But I’d go with whatever you’re most comfortable in, because if you’re not comfortable you might be fidgeting or thinking about how it looks and that’s no fun on a date!
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    I thought C was a dress but now I see it is a tank top. If it was a dress I'd say No but I feel differently about it as a top. 

    What kind of pictures do you have on your Match profile? I feel like I'd go somewhere in line with that, if that makes sense. I don't think you can go wrong if any of them so what makes you feel best? 
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    Good luck with the vacation house @banana468
    I'd try on all three and go with whichever you feel most comfortable in.  I actually like all three in the pictures but if it were me I'd have to see which one looks nicest @CharmedPam
    Lol @missJeanLouise yeah the all day, every day feeding is pretty obnoxious
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    @CharmedPam, option c...A little peek-a-boob, but not the full on platter.  Hee. 

    I hope you find the right vacation house @banana468

    It's Thursday.  Meh.  Trying to decide whether or not we're taking the boat out this weekend.  I'm just not sure I have the energy for FIL. 

    Looking at Prudie now. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Storms here too but it did nothing for the humidity; seriously 92% humidity is just cruel. More wrapping things up at work and waiting out the days. 

    Thankfully there will be Prudie to keep me from getting too bored today! 
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    Potty training update
    - yesterday {day 2} was better than anticipated.
    3 sprinkles {she tried to hold it but failed} then shortly after full bladder release.
    2 floor poops - didn't catch as she didn't do what she had done before {use to be squat, now it's crawling?} Keeping eye on that 
    1 accident but immediately told M
    Another full bladder release!

    Post bath she did poop her night diaper, but this morning it seemed as if she peed once over night.

    Day 3, nothing yet.

    I feel mildly hopeful. Mid-late next week we are trying shorts, only because she needs shorts at daycare {she goes back Aug 4th}
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    kvruns said:
    I thought C was a dress but now I see it is a tank top. If it was a dress I'd say No but I feel differently about it as a top. 

    What kind of pictures do you have on your Match profile? I feel like I'd go somewhere in line with that, if that makes sense. I don't think you can go wrong if any of them so what makes you feel best? 
    That’s actually very good advise.  But most of them are bulky sweaters because they were taken fall/winter. So A is most in line with my profile but I think I may go C too. With jeans.  We’ll see.  I have a TON of options, I have done nothing but buy clothes during quarantine

    @missJeanLouise, how you fee about feeding your family is how I feel about finding food options for myself!  “What?  I have to find another meal to make?” I can’t imagine finding food (again) for people who don’t share my tastebuds. 

    @MissKittyDanger   Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimmming...

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    I vote for C, assuming you like how it looks on you. If not, B. 

    I'm annoyed because I'm getting roped into some stuff at work that is not my job. It used to be my job, but I passed it off when I moved to my current role. Except the back fill sucks and the higher ups need it right and need it right.this.second. At least it's short term and high visibility. 

    I'm excited because I'm taking vacation, so my weekend starts in about two hours. We were thinking of going to the lake or tubing, but my toe is still injured and I'm worried about getting it infected. So we're going to go look at furniture and stuff. If it weren't for the global pandemic, I would love to go hang out in a brewery. 
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    @ei34, good luck with the plant salvaging.

    @banana468, good luck with the vacation house rental.

    @CharmedPam, I concur with trying them all on and going with the one you feel the most confident in.  Though I personally like B or C better for a date.  I don't think B would be too cleavagy.  Exciting!

    I took short morning break for breakfast and was excited to see all the Prudies, because I forgot it was Prudie day, lol.  Plus that also means it is Thurs., so the weekend is in sight.

    We collected a deposit for Unit #3 yesterday!  Ran into a snag with her current landlord doing the reference checks.  He actually gave her a pretty terrible reference, as far as claiming she caused a lot of damage to the unit.  But, long story short, we have good reasons to believe...outside of what this particular tenant has told us...that he keeps his places in poor condition.  We called her previous landlady who gave her a glowing review and even asked us to tell her she said "hi", lol.  We're doing a little extra due diligence but, so far so good!  I'm hoping to have it wrapped up in 1-2 days.

    The good and bad is she's through the Section 8 program.  Love the program once a tenant in my property is squared away on it and S8 tenants tend to stay long-term, another plus.  But it's a longer process (4-6 weeks) to bring them on board, which means I won't start collecting rent until probably Sept. 1st., at the earliest.
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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    @CharmedPam I like C because it's a little different!
    @MissKittyDanger good luck with potty training!
    @MNNEBride enjoy house hunting and hope H is feeling better

    I'm generally stressed about what to do with babe's daycare.  It's a Montessori school and in our neighborhood - both things we love and do not want to give up.  We will not be sending him back in August, but dont' want to give up a spot.  He'll move to a different room around 1 year (December) so if i'm wfh til then (we don't know yet) I want to get on the waiting list for that room and keep him home.  Not sure what work is doing post Labor day though. If we have to pay to keep a spot i just want to pay for the right room (they're different prices).  Just a lot of unknowns.  I know SO many others are dealing with this too :(

    I'm worried about my mom going back to work at school bc IA is really shitting the bed on COVID response.  She has tons of pre-existing conditions so it's extra dangerous.  And selfishly we will not want to see her or my dad until conditions significantly improve if she's seeing hundreds of students per day.  It sucks.  

    My MIL is babysitting today and I peaced out of the house to go to the empty office bc she's been annoying TF out of me.  It's so nice.  She was an hour late and has also been railing on Chicago area teachers who are complaining/concerned about going back to school as normal.  Essentially bitching they should "suck it up and just do their jobs".  I don't have the patience to deal with her shit today.  

    Working in the office is amazing.  Temp checks at the door, masks required everywhere but your own workstation or office, and there's only 3 ppl on my whole floor here.  
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    @Casadena, speaking of temperature checks.  I've been to Harrah's Casino twice since they've reopened.

    I think they only have one entrance/exit at the present time.  I noticed the first time I went that they had added a "metal detector" to enter.  Or at least that's what I thought it was.

    It's not a metal dectector.  It's a big sensor that checks people's temperatures as they walk through it!  GTFO, lol.  Sometimes technology is just amazing.

    I discovered that's what it was the second time I went because, for some reason, it hadn't picked up my temperature as I walked through.  So the security guard asked me to hold on a moment so she could use one of those handheld temperature sensors.

    FWIW, I feel really safe there.  The measures are beyond reproach.  Everyone has to wear a mask.  There are signs everywhere about that, along with reminders to maintain social distancing.  Machines are turned off and chairs removed from them, so you can't even sit closer than 6' to someone else.  They have hand sanitizer stations everywhere.  There's a team of employees who spend all day walking around the casino, on a route, wiping down machines with disinfectant.
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    short+sassy said:
    @Casadena, speaking of temperature checks.  I've been to Harrah's Casino twice since they've reopened.

    I think they only have one entrance/exit at the present time.  I noticed the first time I went that they had added a "metal detector" to enter.  Or at least that's what I thought it was.

    It's not a metal dectector.  It's a big sensor that checks people's temperatures as they walk through it!  GTFO, lol.  Sometimes technology is just amazing.

    I discovered that's what it was the second time I went because, for some reason, it hadn't picked up my temperature as I walked through.  So the security guard asked me to hold on a moment so she could use one of those handheld temperature sensors.

    FWIW, I feel really safe there.  The measures are beyond reproach.  Everyone has to wear a mask.  There are signs everywhere about that, along with reminders to maintain social distancing.  Machines are turned off and chairs removed from them, so you can't even sit closer than 6' to someone else.  They have hand sanitizer stations everywhere.  There's a team of employees who spend all day walking around the casino, on a route, wiping down machines with disinfectant.
    that sounds very similar to our system!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Afternoon question to the lovely WW group: 

    DH and I had planned to go to MIL and FIL's house tonight after dinner.   Kiddos were going to roast s'mores in the driveway and my aunt and uncle were invited.   We could be outside, stay decently distant and MIL and FIL are in our invited bubble and they have had a meal with my aunt and uncle. 

    I have talked to my aunt and uncle from my porch to their car but have not seen them in person.   I love them dearly and we have not engaged in more than phone calls.

    FIL called and said that my aunt is also bringing my cousin and her BF.   I love my cousin and her BF.   They are great.   However they aren't in our bubble.   The boyfriend lives in a different county in a quiet area but works in a grocery store and therefore is possibly engaging in the community more.  

    FIL told us that all of them would be there today.

    My aunt never mentioned that my cousin would be there.

    Am I over reacting to think that there's a new "etiquette" related to covid that if you're bringing more people to a person's home even if outside that you clear it with not just the hosts but with the other adults that you know will be there?  
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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    @banana468 I absolutely think if you are inviting more people, even if outside, you need to be up front and clear about it.  

    You are not overreacting and I would be annoyed and probably not go.
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    banana468 said:
    Afternoon question to the lovely WW group: 

    DH and I had planned to go to MIL and FIL's house tonight after dinner.   Kiddos were going to roast s'mores in the driveway and my aunt and uncle were invited.   We could be outside, stay decently distant and MIL and FIL are in our invited bubble and they have had a meal with my aunt and uncle. 

    I have talked to my aunt and uncle from my porch to their car but have not seen them in person.   I love them dearly and we have not engaged in more than phone calls.

    FIL called and said that my aunt is also bringing my cousin and her BF.   I love my cousin and her BF.   They are great.   However they aren't in our bubble.   The boyfriend lives in a different county in a quiet area but works in a grocery store and therefore is possibly engaging in the community more.  

    FIL told us that all of them would be there today.

    My aunt never mentioned that my cousin would be there.

    Am I over reacting to think that there's a new "etiquette" related to covid that if you're bringing more people to a person's home even if outside that you clear it with not just the hosts but with the other adults that you know will be there?  
    banana468 said:
    Afternoon question to the lovely WW group: 

    DH and I had planned to go to MIL and FIL's house tonight after dinner.   Kiddos were going to roast s'mores in the driveway and my aunt and uncle were invited.   We could be outside, stay decently distant and MIL and FIL are in our invited bubble and they have had a meal with my aunt and uncle. 

    I have talked to my aunt and uncle from my porch to their car but have not seen them in person.   I love them dearly and we have not engaged in more than phone calls.

    FIL called and said that my aunt is also bringing my cousin and her BF.   I love my cousin and her BF.   They are great.   However they aren't in our bubble.   The boyfriend lives in a different county in a quiet area but works in a grocery store and therefore is possibly engaging in the community more.  

    FIL told us that all of them would be there today.

    My aunt never mentioned that my cousin would be there.

    Am I over reacting to think that there's a new "etiquette" related to covid that if you're bringing more people to a person's home even if outside that you clear it with not just the hosts but with the other adults that you know will be there?  

    I think the obligation is for your aunt to ask the hosts and the hosts to inform you. Which it sounds like she did. And then if you’re not okay with it but the host us, you decline. 
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    Casadena said:
    @banana468 I absolutely think if you are inviting more people, even if outside, you need to be up front and clear about it.  

    You are not overreacting and I would be annoyed and probably not go.
    I agree; I think you clear it with the hosts in enough time for the host to let everyone else know. I think it’s curtesy though to let another adults know if the group is small enough. 

    I’d be really annoyed. We make our decisions about where we go based on the information we get ahead of time, if people are changing (and/or don’t let people know they are changing or about their behavior) it’s hard to make those decisions and in those cases we decline. It’s sucks but my risk tolerance is different than others but I rely on people to be upfront about what they’re doing. 
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    That sounds really great @short+sassy, that Harrah’s is going through all that.  

    And yeah, @banana468, glad you heard this news before going.  For me, it would change things too.

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    OK, so the idea that my aunt should call me too is not the point but FIL should be asking and not telling DH.

    We're tracking the storms due to roll through and it's sticky and may use that as an answer about why DH is going to go help his dad with some manual labor but maybe we won't head over.  I'm asking him to address that with his dad because I think we're trying to take this more seriously than they are. 
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    banana468 said:
    OK, so the idea that my aunt should call me too is not the point but FIL should be asking and not telling DH.

    We're tracking the storms due to roll through and it's sticky and may use that as an answer about why DH is going to go help his dad with some manual labor but maybe we won't head over.  I'm asking him to address that with his dad because I think we're trying to take this more seriously than they are. 
    I might have read your initial post wrong; so FIL didn’t invite cousin/BF but aunt is just bringing them along as well? In that case then yes I would think your FIL should check in with you and see if that’s okay rather than just telling you someone added guests to the invite and assumed you’d be okay with that. 
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    charlotte989875 said:
    banana468 said:
    OK, so the idea that my aunt should call me too is not the point but FIL should be asking and not telling DH.

    We're tracking the storms due to roll through and it's sticky and may use that as an answer about why DH is going to go help his dad with some manual labor but maybe we won't head over.  I'm asking him to address that with his dad because I think we're trying to take this more seriously than they are. 
    I might have read your initial post wrong; so FIL didn’t invite cousin/BF but aunt is just bringing them along as well? In that case then yes I would think your FIL should check in with you and see if that’s okay rather than just telling you someone added guests to the invite and assumed you’d be okay with that. 
    I think my aunt invited my cousin and her bf along.

    BTW, cousin and her bf are not my aunt's kids.   So we're talking a lot of separate circles here.  

    DH and I are going to figure it out. 
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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Yeah I’d just say “we aren’t comfortable visiting with that big a group, let’s do this another time.”  Not much to explain.
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    STARMOON44 said:
    Yeah I’d just say “we aren’t comfortable visiting with that big a group, let’s do this another time.”  Not much to explain.
    That's what DH said to his dad.

    It is easier said than done when you have to say it to your parents regarding family members.  Luckily they all understood.

    I don't "care" if my aunt and cousin don't understand but it's a whole lot easier if they do than to have to hang up on her. 
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