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Well, I made bad decisions last night, but I'll live.  I've got to start eating again though.  I don't understand how my stomach can be all I'M STARVING and also DON'T PUT FOOD IN ME.

My best friend's (T) dad is in the hospital with covid.  I'm trying to be supportive from far away, but I can't go to T, he can't come here, and there's nothing to do except wait.  But y'all, if my BFF of 21 years loses his father to covid, I'm truly gonna need to burn some shit down.  Someone was criticizing those of us with "covid fatigue" and I was like, Look, I don't have covid fatigue b/c my fear of getting covid is gone.  I have covid fatigue of doing my goddamn job for humanity while fully half of us DON'T.  

So anyway, otherwise, SSDD.
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  • ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    T&Ps for your friend's Dad, @VarunaTT.

    A friend of ours just lost a family member to Covid. I don't know what it is going to take for some people to get with the program. An acquaintance of mine was diagnosed too. She was a non- covid person, wanted to take hydrochloroquine as a preventative and a huge Trump supporter - believing it would all be over if he won! I just can't.  

    Headed off to PT in a little bit. This afternoon will be a little more decorating and working on Italian homework. Nothing too exciting.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    Holy shit.  

    There's a man who basically all on his own, b/c of what he does, has been tracking reported infections/deaths in MO.  He conned his way into a business phone call with our governor, who was just re-elected.

    "Someone on the call, who I will not mention by name or title, wheeled their cojones up to their keyboard in a wheelbarrow and asked “why are you refusing to mandate masks?”, to which the Governor replied by saying the following, which I am quite confident on picking this up:

    “I’ve said from day one since we’ve dealt with this pandemic that I didn’t think it was the state government’s job to do that. The other thing that’s right behind the door is a vaccine. I don’t believe a governor should mandate a vaccine without input from the public, and that’s the first step down that road”.

    No, I absolutely did not make that part up."
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I've asked DH to nicely lay out the scientific facts for his parents on this.   YES we are testing more and YES that will lead to an increase in cases.   However the positive rate is high and this is a matter of SCIENCE.  As an engineer and super geek I am hopeful that if he conveys this in a non political way and instead in the way that is backed by data they will continue to respect it. 


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  • MNNEBrideMNNEBride member
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    I have covid fatigue BUT that doesn't mean I'm not still wearing a mask in public and we're getting together with family for the holidays.  Yes, I wish things would get back to "normal" and I hurt for those who have lost family members.  I was talking to someone last night and we were discussing the good things that have also come out of this for us.  We've saved money because we're not going out as much, we've gotten some projects done at home and we don't take for granted being able to meet with friends and family.  
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    Wow.  Fuck the MO governor.  That's insane.  Our governor is currently quarantined because his security detail has tested positive.   

    The kiddo has COVID.  He's doing OK.  We've been in contact with him since he works with DH (yes, DH is quarantined) to make sure he's doing what he needs to do and to help him monitor his symptoms.  They seem to be mild.  We have two nurses we know that have been super helpful and made everyone feel better. 

    Finding testing is a damn racket. DH is going to head over to the testing site by our house.  He was hoping to find a rapid testing site, but no dice.  He has no symptoms and his exposure was a week ago.  He needs a negative test to go back to work. 

    FIL knows.  I have no idea if he plans to get tested.  DH mentioned it to him, but he didn't commit.  He's also a week past exposure and doesn't have symptoms, however due to his age and conditions...testing would be a good idea. 

    Anyway, other than all of that...SSDD.  
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    VarunaTT said:
    Well, I made bad decisions last night, but I'll live.  I've got to start eating again though.  I don't understand how my stomach can be all I'M STARVING and also DON'T PUT FOOD IN ME.

    My best friend's (T) dad is in the hospital with covid.  I'm trying to be supportive from far away, but I can't go to T, he can't come here, and there's nothing to do except wait.  But y'all, if my BFF of 21 years loses his father to covid, I'm truly gonna need to burn some shit down.  Someone was criticizing those of us with "covid fatigue" and I was like, Look, I don't have covid fatigue b/c my fear of getting covid is gone.  I have covid fatigue of doing my goddamn job for humanity while fully half of us DON'T.  

    So anyway, otherwise, SSDD.
    I hope both you and your friend's father feel better soon!
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    mrsconn23 said:
    Wow.  Fuck the MO governor.  That's insane.  Our governor is currently quarantined because his security detail has tested positive.   

    The kiddo has COVID.  He's doing OK.  We've been in contact with him since he works with DH (yes, DH is quarantined) to make sure he's doing what he needs to do and to help him monitor his symptoms.  They seem to be mild.  We have two nurses we know that have been super helpful and made everyone feel better. 

    Finding testing is a damn racket. DH is going to head over to the testing site by our house.  He was hoping to find a rapid testing site, but no dice.  He has no symptoms and his exposure was a week ago.  He needs a negative test to go back to work. 

    FIL knows.  I have no idea if he plans to get tested.  DH mentioned it to him, but he didn't commit.  He's also a week past exposure and doesn't have symptoms, however due to his age and conditions...testing would be a good idea. 

    Anyway, other than all of that...SSDD.  
    Best wishes for your son's full recovery!
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  • kerbohlkerbohl member
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    @VarunaTT I hope your friend's dad makes it out okay!  It is just so scary, which makes it frustrating for people that still think it's a hoax.  My brother had a facebook post which makes me pretty sure he thinks it's overblown.  I'm just not going to engage.

    On the plus side, after living in our basement for almost a week, hubby found out that the person displaying Covid symptoms that he was exposed to did not have it, so he's in the clear.  That was a relief!

    I get the Covid fatigue, but at the same time, I'm still just trucking along.  I'm trying to look on the positive and see that going through this will make me have more patience and be more grateful for things like family togetherness and shopping without a mask.  I was fortunately in that it was fairly easy to isolate since I already WFH, but not seeing family has been tough, and with Christmas I sense it is going to be significantly tougher.  But, I'm still going to reduce contact, because that's what needs to be done.  

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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I can definitely try to understand that this feels like something we've been doing so long so why are we still deviating from our normal lives? 

    The reason is that it's still out there!! 


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  • ei34ei34 member
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    T&P to your friend’s father @VarunaTT and I hope kiddo feels okay @mrsconn23

    Add me to the Covid fatigue-but-still-taking-it-seriously crew.  


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  • ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    Hope the kiddo gets well quickly @mrsconn23! Just found out a good friend and my kids' godmother tested positive. She is a home health care nurse. FX'd for her.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    mrsconn23 said:
    I have 2020 fatigue.  This whole year has been one wild ride and I'd like to get off.  LOL 
    New Year's is gonna be one heckuva celebration.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Jen4948 said:
    mrsconn23 said:
    I have 2020 fatigue.  This whole year has been one wild ride and I'd like to get off.  LOL 
    New Year's is gonna be one heckuva celebration.
    NO!  It will be a quiet, intimate event with only those in their covid pods.  No heckuva anything!!! 
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    banana468 said:
    Jen4948 said:
    mrsconn23 said:
    I have 2020 fatigue.  This whole year has been one wild ride and I'd like to get off.  LOL 
    New Year's is gonna be one heckuva celebration.
    NO!  It will be a quiet, intimate event with only those in their covid pods.  No heckuva anything!!! 
    One heckuva celebration of me, the baby, and H alone in our house; probably at 8pm. 
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    @VarunaTT, I hope your friend's dad is okay.  I'm sorry your governor is awful, smh.  I don't even get the basic premise.  Most states mandate that people can't smoke inside public places, right?  And most businesses require we have to wear shoes to enter their establishment, right?  All of this is in the spirit of public health.  Soooo, why are masks different and an impingement of our "freedom"?

    That's okay, Mississippi, I'm not talking about you.  That's why I phrased it "most states".  The ashtrays in your casino bathroom stalls are charming//s.

    Now I'm remembering a long ago Brittany Spears "scandal", where she was filmed walking into a gas station bathroom barefoot, lol.

    @mrsconn23, That's scary news about your son!  I'm so glad to hear it seems like a mild case and hope it stays that way.

    There has been big news in New Orleans and Louisiana, one of them with national ramifications.  The congressman for my district, Cedric Richmond (D), was re-elected in the Nov. election.  He has served in Congress since 2010.  But he is vacating his Congressional seat in Jan. because...drumroll...he will be joining the Biden administration in a top, senior level advisor position.  FWIW, I really like Rep. Richmond and I'm not the only one.  He wins his Congressional seat by a landslide, almost every term its up.  He has a reputation for being very responsive to his constituents.

    The rest of my NOLA news is not so great, but not unexpected.  After holding steady for months, we've upticked in COVID stats from Orange to Red.  The mayor also announced yesterday that Mardi Gras parades for the 2021 season are being cancelled.  I agree that they certainly should be.  You should see these parades, it's strangers smashed together like sardines, hundreds/thousands at a time...and that's only talking about one street block.  But it still just feels so sad.

    The last time parades were cancelled was 41 years ago, due to a police strike going on.  The time before that was a couple years during WWII.  I think MG is in early Feb. next year.  Sure, we'll probably technically have a vaccine by then.  But that's way too soon for most people  to have taken it.

    With that said, don't think it's just NOLA that has MG parades.  None of the other parishes have cancelled theirs yet but, unless there is some unicorn improvement, I'm sure they will as it gets closer.  And if they don't, the governor will do it for them.  He has been a hard-ass during the pandemic and I say that with admiration and respect!

    Now that I have the big picture news out of the way.  Let's talk about me, lol.  I'm almost through underwriting on my loans and was given the green light to order the appraisals, which I did.  Yeah!  Or more like, they sent me the links to pay for the appraisals and I spoke to the person in charge of my underwriting with "Eeek, I'm just a little nervous to pay this quite yet because I'm a little worried about XYZ."  His response was along the lines of, "No, that's all fine!  And with what you've told us and given us so far, I don't see any problems."  ((continuing to cross my fingers on that, but I'm feeling even more confident))

    And for the biggest surprise of all!  Do you all remember the tenant I mentioned who unexpectedly moved out and the fridge was missing with the front door unlocked, when we went to go look at the place?  We found the fridge today, LMAO.  This is what happened.  My tenant NJ knew she wouldn't have time to clean the refrigerator.  So she paid my other tenants (it's a duplex, they live next door) to clean the fridge for her.  But I guess instead of just cleaning it in the unit it was in, they brought it next door with them to clean in their own house.  I am completely elated!  That's a huge expense I was expecting to have and now I don't.  Though I'm not totally scot-free.  My H said the oven in that vacant unit has gotten to a bad point and it's time for it to be replaced.  Nothing damage or cleanliness related.  It was already on its last legs the last time this unit was vacant.  But ovens are cheaper than fridges and I already knew this was a possibility.
    FWIW, fewer states than you would think have outright smoking bans. For example, here we don't allow smoking in establishments that allow children. But bars and clubs can choose to allow smoking. Actually, even restaurants can choose to be 18+ and allow smoking. 

    There are a bunch of other states that have limited bans and loopholes, mostly in the name of "muh freedumbs".
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    Good news about the fridge!  

    I HATE our fridge but we're hoping to expand the kitchen in about 6 months and that'll be the time to buy new appliances.    I hope this one continues to hang on because it's over 10 years old (it came with the house which we closed on about 10 years ago to the day).  


    Thanks!

    Just keep your eye out 1-2 months ahead of your kitchen expansion for what is happening with appliances.  I know we've mentioned it on this board already, but there is a shortage and it might be awhile from when the pandemic ends before things get caught back up.  Which is not to say that you couldn't just walk into a store and get a fridge, but if there is a specific few you have narrowed it down to, they could be backordered and take time to get in.

    And after 10 years, you deserve to get EXACTLY the fridge you want!
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    banana468 said:
    Good news about the fridge!  

    I HATE our fridge but we're hoping to expand the kitchen in about 6 months and that'll be the time to buy new appliances.    I hope this one continues to hang on because it's over 10 years old (it came with the house which we closed on about 10 years ago to the day).  


    Thanks!

    Just keep your eye out 1-2 months ahead of your kitchen expansion for what is happening with appliances.  I know we've mentioned it on this board already, but there is a shortage and it might be awhile from when the pandemic ends before things get caught back up.  Which is not to say that you couldn't just walk into a store and get a fridge, but if there is a specific few you have narrowed it down to, they could be backordered and take time to get in.

    And after 10 years, you deserve to get EXACTLY the fridge you want!
    YES YES YES!   We are planning what is probably going to be an expensive addition.  Our kitchen is small and if we can expand that area to a larger kitchen/entertaining area it will be fantastic.  We know that when people can get together again our house is goin to be the place to host family events so this is what we'll want.  But having a funky split level house means it's going to require a quality contractor.   

    The fridge now is a freezer on top model and I LOATHE the placement of the fridge shelves.  I cannot wait to have one that is laid out better.
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    Varuna - I checked through yesterday's posts and can't believe all the things I read.  Go easy on yourself and get rid of that stuff and enjoy all of your space!  Prayers for your BFFs father.  Sorry your Gov is an ass.

    MrsConn - Prayers that the kiddo's covid is quick for him and that DH is negative and continues to have no symptoms.

    Add me to the covid and political fatigue experiencing.  Our numbers have gone way up and our Gov is trying to clamp down without closing everything again.  But people still complain and say I will do what I want.  Its not that hard to wear a mask and social distance or just stay home!  Our country will never get out of this, with your selfishness!  I do think much of the lack of believing science has to do with the belief that creationism should be taught in schools.  And science has never been, take this small excerpt of data as fact, it's looks at the data as a whole.  Too many people don't seem to understand that.

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    short+sassy said:
    @VarunaTT, I hope your friend's dad is okay.  I'm sorry your governor is awful, smh.  I don't even get the basic premise.  Most states mandate that people can't smoke inside public places, right?  And most businesses require we have to wear shoes to enter their establishment, right?  All of this is in the spirit of public health.  Soooo, why are masks different and an impingement of our "freedom"?

    That's okay, Mississippi, I'm not talking about you.  That's why I phrased it "most states".  The ashtrays in your casino bathroom stalls are charming//s.

    Now I'm remembering a long ago Brittany Spears "scandal", where she was filmed walking into a gas station bathroom barefoot, lol.

    @mrsconn23, That's scary news about your son!  I'm so glad to hear it seems like a mild case and hope it stays that way.
    FWIW, fewer states than you would think have outright smoking bans. For example, here we don't allow smoking in establishments that allow children. But bars and clubs can choose to allow smoking. Actually, even restaurants can choose to be 18+ and allow smoking. 

    There are a bunch of other states that have limited bans and loopholes, mostly in the name of "muh freedumbs".
    You are so right!  After I posted, I was thinking, "Waaiitt, not so fast there making fun of MS."  Orleans parish JUST banned smoking in bars and casinos about two years ago.  But in the parish next to us, you can still smoke in both of those places.  TBH, I was thinking more about most public places.  Not so much the bars and clubs niche, which is a common exception when there is one.

    When I first moved to NOLA from CA about 20 years ago, you could still smoke in restaurants here.  Which was so crazy for me because I hadn't seen smoking/non-smoking sections in CA since I was a child.

    Mind Blown!  I always assumed CA had made smoking in restaurants illegal in the early '80s, because that was when I stopped seeing it.  But I Googled it.  Not true at all.  It wasn't until 1998.  I even looked up Orange County, CA specifically because...GD it...I know I never saw it by the time I was in later elementary school and was positive it was because it had been made illegal.  Wrong again, the same 1998.  But it is true it basically didn't exist.  I guess restaurants just chose to stop allowing smoking, except in their bars.  I do remember the 1998 CA no smoking law.  But thought that was when it was outlawed in bars also.

    Though my main point still stands.  Any law "impinges one's freedom" and we have millions of them across the country. But that is how we function for the good of society.  And we only directly vote for a miniscule portion of laws.  That is literally why we elect government officials.  To trust them to enact laws that are hopefully for the good of society.

    I know I'm preaching to the choir and you all don't need my two-second Civics lesson, lol.  But sometimes I get tired of screaming it in my head when I hear other people or see it on their posts.

    Edited to add fun fact about Louisiana and underage drinking:  This isn't true anymore, but when I had a p/t job as a server in a restaurant about 15 years ago, it was legal to serve children alcohol if they were with their parents, though the parents had to pay for the alcohol.  Now!  The company I was working for didn't allow anyone under 21 to be served alcohol.  And I assume that was the stance the vast majority of restaurants took.  But, technically, children could be served liquor under Louisiana laws at that point in time under those specific conditions.
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    Our Democratic Governor is expected to announce new restrictions tonight - Shutting down indoor dining at bars and restaurants, close gyms and fitness centers and put organized indoor youth sports on hold.  People are up in arms that he is abusing his power.  Earlier this week he said, "Wear your mask and stay healthy if for no other reason that'll keep you health to vote against me in two years."   I think he's doing all he can.
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    @levioosa Hooray for negative tests, boo for tripping and hurting yourself!  I'm glad you weren't pushed off a cliff.

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    levioosa said:

    @CharmedPam it’s Botox day today, buy one $50 gift card, get $50 free. Lol. 
    That’s a great deal!  I probably wont get mine till early 2021, depending on openings.  I’m sure I’m at 3 months now

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    levioosa said:

    @CharmedPam it’s Botox day today, buy one $50 gift card, get $50 free. Lol. 
    That’s a great deal!  I probably wont get mine till early 2021, depending on openings.  I’m sure I’m at 3 months now
    You don’t have to use it today. The money gets loaded onto your Alle account so you can use it whenever you want. 


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