Hello, I appreciate any advice anybody could offer. One of my closest friends has decided to get married out of country and most of the people they are inviting to the wedding live in the same state in the midwest. People have already started to call and raise concern about being able to afford it and they seem unwilling to listen. I have tried to talk about it with her as nicely as I can, but quite frankly it's not my wedding and not about me. It's looking like to be able to comfortably attend I would need to save about $2000. They have been more than kind and offered to pay for a room for some of us to bunk in who are worried about not being able to afford it, and keep referring to it as our "vacation". My issue is that at this point in my life, $2000 is A LOT of money and could be the difference between having a functioning car or making rent or paying student loans, and I just can't justify spending that money to attend a wedding, even if she is one of my best friends. I don't know how to tell her no. She keeps trying to convince me that I could probably get through it spending around $1000, but experience tells me that whatever it's supposed to cost, double it. On top of all of this, she is having a bachelorette party 1,000 miles from home state that will probably run each person around $500 and a separate reception in home state after returning from the wedding. I feel bad for saying this, but the whole thing seems a little selfish. Especially because on several occasions she has talked about how much cheaper it's going to be for her and her fiance to do it this way; it's because the guests would be absorbing the cost. I don't know what I'm supposed to say, but I know I feel a little taken advantage of and I'm trying really hard not to allow myself to get upset because again, I don't want to make their day about me. Please help.