My fiancé and I are both single parents. Our wedding is set for this August, venue is booked. I’m starting to have severe anxiety because my kids and I have to move. (New job, new school district, new house.) My fiancé was completely opposed to moving but one of us has to make that sacrifice. His kids would be staying in their current schools. I was fine with it but now that things are feeling very real, I’m looking at everything through a magnifying glass and starting to panic. My daughter has special needs and her current school is phenomenal. Transferring her IEP is a risk. But lately I’ve noticed some behavior from my fiancé that concerns me. I’ve caught him in several white lies. (Money, prior relationships, lying about where he is, and ex wife stuff.) On top of that, he cusses in front of the kids. He teased my daughter and made her cry. He also makes rude comments...like there was a nasty smell and he told the kids I farted. He also drinks on occasion. My ex had problems with addiction so I have a hard time deciding what’s normal and not. Last time he got drunk and the kids saw him stumble down the stairs. He also drives after drinking sometimes. He’s driven his son to sports practices after having several beers. I have lots of examples of stuff but I keep telling myself everyone is flawed. He’s a great provider and makes me laugh like no one else. And he has showed up for my kids in ways their dad never does. When things are good, they’re SO good. But am I being blind to the red flags? My kids and I built an amazing life after my divorce. I have sole custody and have worked crazy hard to get them to where they are. Stable, emotionally healthy, rave reviews at their parent-teacher conferences last week. We’re happy. Why risk it all for a man that is acting like that? Am I being dramatic or are these reasons to call off the wedding? I think I feel guilty for bringing a man into their life and then breaking up with him.