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Etiquette for escorting Groom's Mom if she is engaged

My son is getting married in a few months and wants me to walk down the aisle at his wedding with his dad (my ex-husband) who I am on reasonably good terms with.  However, I've recently gotten engaged and feel it would be super awkward to be escorted by my ex-husband and not my fiance.  Would it be acceptable to have both my ex-husband and fiance walk me into the ceremony if everyone is comfortable with this?  The ex and the fiance have met at family events and seem to have respect for (and genuinely like) each other so I can't see any problems with this.  Of other note, the bride's parents are also divorced and the bride's mom will be introduced at the start of the reception as being escorted by her long-term partner.  I assume her dad will follow, and be introduced alone.  It makes sense to me that we would follow the same pattern where I'd enter with my fiance, followed by my ex who would also be introduced alone.  Thank you for your thoughts!
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Re: Etiquette for escorting Groom's Mom if she is engaged

  • My son is getting married in a few months and wants me to walk down the aisle at his wedding with his dad (my ex-husband) who I am on reasonably good terms with.  However, I've recently gotten engaged and feel it would be super awkward to be escorted by my ex-husband and not my fiance.  Would it be acceptable to have both my ex-husband and fiance walk me into the ceremony if everyone is comfortable with this?  The ex and the fiance have met at family events and seem to have respect for (and genuinely like) each other so I can't see any problems with this.  Of other note, the bride's parents are also divorced and the bride's mom will be introduced at the start of the reception as being escorted by her long-term partner.  I assume her dad will follow, and be introduced alone.  It makes sense to me that we would follow the same pattern where I'd enter with my fiance, followed by my ex who would also be introduced alone.  Thank you for your thoughts!
    I think it would make sense for you to work in with your partner, not your ex, just as the bride’s parents. If you’re comfortable walking in with both your ex and your FI I think that’s fine too- what’s important is what you’re comfortable with here. I don’t think either request (walk with FI, or walk with both) is at all unreasonable and should be something your son and FDIL should accommodate. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    I agree that it makes sense for actual parental couples to escort each other if everyone is comfortable with it.
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  • I agree that parents should be escorted by their actual partners.
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  • I also agree that being escorted by the current significant other is the way to go.  OP, if you/FI/EXH are all comfy walking together then that's fine too. 
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  • flantasticflantastic The Midwest member
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    I first read this as the groom was asking to walk in with both his parents, which seemed totally normal - but it's just you being escorted to your seat. That should be done by your actual current SOs.
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  • You're the one being escorted in, so you're the one who decides who you walk in with.  Even if it is your son's wedding.

    Absolutely walk in with your FI.  That sounds the most normal to me.  However, if you don't mind both men walking you in, that does seem like a nice compromise to your son's preference.
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