Don't date someone you aren't interested in. Pretty simple.

short+sassy

I’m more comfortable with meeting people online first. I’m an anxious introvert and pursue connections with people who make me feel something. I recently connected with a guy who shares some of my values, and we had a date planned for tomorrow. The problem? He’s too nice. I know most people would do anything for that, but some of it rubs me the wrong way. Plus, I’m not super attracted to his photos, and I’m repulsed by the sound of his voice. I gave him an out with a vague explanation to be as kind as possible. Was I wrong to make that choice before meeting in person, in case that would sway my opinion? Am I not “broadening my horizons,” as he suggested? Or is it the kinder choice to let someone go when they have a lot to give but some things turn you off?

Casadena

What does LW mean by "too nice"?  That is weird to me.  But if you're not attracted to him and hate the sound of his voice then it won't work and that's ok.  You dont' owe anyone your time if you'd rather not. 

CharmedPam

I’m torn on this.  Basically because I’m bad in email and the phone and way more relaxed in person. So I’d rather someone MEET me first before making decisions on my personality.
however, if you have that instinct about them already, then why waste time?

charlotte989875

You’re not interested in him, why are you letting him live rent free in your mind? Who cares what he think, find someone you do like. 

short+sassy

The LW went really wrong in making a date with him to being with.  Then, when they decided "wait, they really don't want to go out with him", it made it harder and more awkward.  Still the right choice, though.

They also need to raise the bar higher than "someone who is nice".  Lots of people are nice and good catches.  But that doesn't mean they are the right person for the LW.  When I was online dating, I met lots of nice guys.  Who I think would be great partners for someone else.  Just not me.  And I'm sure some of those guys would say the same thing about me!  Nothing wrong with that.  Some people you click with and some people you don't.  That's what dating is for.

Right before online, I also did this other dating thing that was over the phone.  People would leave an outgoing message and you could leave them a voice mail back if you were interested.  I sometimes deleted people before their message was over if I didn't like their voice.  Voice is important!  When you think about how much you talk to your SO, if you find their voice grating, I'm not even sure how a relationship could develop.  The LW even uses the strong word "repulsed" when talking about his voice.  That's not petty at all.  I think that would be impossible to overcome.

MyNameIsNot

I'm torn on this one. Sure, if you're turned off don't go. But also, it's one date, not committing to a six month relationship. Maybe your impression will change once you've met in person. Maybe it won't, but you'll have a nice time anyway. Maybe you'll meet a new friend or learn something. 

I had a pretty good guy friend in my 20s from just that. A mutual friend (who was clueless) set us up on a blind date. It was a terrible match, but he was a nice guy and a ton of fun. We were pretty clear within 5 minutes that we weren't ever going to be a couple, but we were great bar trivia teammates. 

STARMOON44

Don’t make a date then cancel it like this. It’s rude. 

MesmrEwe

LW should go on the date...  Then make the assessment..

mrsconn23

I get the 'too nice' thing.  I definitely ran into that issue in my dating life (a frillion years ago, lol).  

However, I think LW should keep the date.  It's one night out of their life and maybe they'll have better rapport in person.  Or they'll learn something about themselves and dating.