My husband and I are really struggling with our invitation list. Our wedding was postponed from October 2020 to October of this year because of COVID. We sent our save the dates in early 2020 pre-COVID, and then change the dates last August, and now because everything is different, we're anticipating a lot more people actually attending the wedding because they now have partners (so, definite plus 1s) or moved closer. Our families have also made us add ~8-10 people to our list. Our projections are going to be way off. That means some folks who we were pretty certain wouldn't come, will now come.
We hate the idea of not sending an invitation to some people who we don't talk to as often as we did (because it's been almost 2 years since they got STDs), but it honestly feels like it's gonna be necessary with the numbers going up in different ways. We had a mini-ceremony that we invited everyone to stream on our original date, so folks were part of the real thing in some way, just not the traditional in-person wedding, itself.
I guess my question is-- do we have reasoning to not send some people an actual invitation? If you've done that during COVID, how have you gone about it? I realize we're probably damned if we do and damned if we don't, and everyone's got an opinion, but everything is different now, and we just can't treat it the same way as before. I don't wanna say we'd uninvite them because the official invite hasn't gone out yet, but the people we'd "uninvite" are people who we haven't talked to in a long time because of COVID. We would NOT uninvite anyone who's given us money, didn't partake in the shower, etc, even if they're one of those folks.