Classic: You laugh *all* the time?

mrsconn23

I am a thirtysomething female engineer who cannot stop laughing. Whenever I have a work conversation or an interview I chuckle throughout the conversation no matter the topic. This is harming my work relationships because people feel I am not taking them seriously. My dad is the same way. I would say it is partially nervousness except that I also do it with close loved ones. I have had a work discussion go like this: “Are you laughing because you think it’s funny that my land rights are being litigated?” And I reply: “No, I am laughing because it is so terrible.” Is there a short-term behavioral therapy that might help or something easy that could help in work situations? I don’t want to erase this feature; I like laughing and I think my friends understand.

charlotte989875

I’d almost be worried this is an ability to control your laughing/ impulses. You know it’s inappropriate and knowing that you haven’t been able to stop. Do you have other impulse/ control issues? Sure talk to a counselor but I’d get screened for other issues. 

Or you’re a sociopath and are actually laughing at someone who has had something horrible happen to them. 

mrsconn23

I'm a nervous laugher, so I can understand that impulse. 

But it sounds like LW literally laughs her way through all interactions?  It's affecting their ability to look professional.  Also, I bet your friends find it annoying AF.  

STARMOON44

Absolutely seek therapy for this. 

short+sassy

STARMOON44 said:

Absolutely seek therapy for this. 

Speaking to a medical doctor might also be helpful.  Just to rule out it isn't something physical/neurological going on that is causing this.  Like an involuntary tic, except it's laughter.

I'm also a little bothered that the LW doesn't seem to understand how serious this is.  They don't even want to "erase" this feature.  Yes, laughter is great.  But laughter a person can't control is not.

In the example they gave, it sounds like they offended a client.  I suspect they've offended a lot of people in their life by laughing inappropriately.    

downtondiva

Laughter is great, but it isn't always appropriate. You already admit that you have offended people with uncontrolled laughing. You need to talk to a doctor and/or a therapist about this, because you need to learn to control it in both professional and personal interactions. This isn't just something you should be concerned about in regards to work.