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report him, your family sucks

My sister’s son is a couple of months older than my daughter. He’s always been slightly off.

But over the past year or so he has become overtly threatening toward her, with crude comments that make her very uncomfortable and sexualized social media posts about her. I’ve had very strong words with my sister about this behavior and have made it clear that I will not have my child in the same room as hers, which, quite naturally, has caused a massive feud that is spilling over into our entire family. My parents are up in arms, everyone is taking sides, and I am looking for a strategy for navigating all of this.

For now, when somebody raises the issue, I just share a screenshot of some of my nephew’s more troubling comments and say this is not something I am prepared to discuss. I’ve also advised my daughter to block her cousin on all social media and have built a large folder of his posts, which I am seriously considering passing on to the police. I just don’t see an option that isn’t nuclear.

Re: report him, your family sucks

  • banana468banana468 member
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    If this is as pervasive as the LW says then the LW needs to be clear and stop just gathering the data.

    At minimum, she should talk to an attorney and get a legal review of what she sees as the issue and what is a possible outcome.

    From there, I would likely tell family that where the nephew is she won't be.  
  • levioosalevioosa member
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    This poor girl. How awful for her. 


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  • Yikes!  What an awful and disturbing situation.  I wouldn't let my daughter be in the same place as this cousin OR any family member that took sides with...the cousin?  Really?

    I'd also look into what legal means are available that will require him to stop posting about and contacting her.  Perhaps a restraining order.  The LW shouldn't worry about whatever fall out there is with the family.  The daughter needs to be protected from her cousin's harassment and disgusting things being posted publicly about her.
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    Absolutely report him and I would not care about the fallout with any family members who are on his side in this.
  • Wow your family is terrible. Report him and don’t feel bad about it at all. 
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