What makes a wedding a "top" wedding?

Eboix518

I have had this discussion with a friend before, and we were wondering in your opinion what makes a wedding a "top" wedding? Sure you can have a pretty dress, pick out pretty colors and flowers, and even have great photos but to you what makes it REALLY stand out?I think that if you and DH/FI have a wedding that really defines you as a couple, or you  have things that make it really personal then that makes it a "top" wedding. I think little personal touches makes a wedding that much more unique and fun to attend, and it is not a "check chicken or beef" wedding - pardon the expression...So what do you guys think makes a "top" wedding?

Zurita1123

couples who do not have the typically cookie cutter wedding. whether its expensive or not is not really "top" as you mentioned... a wedding that really defines you as a couple

Eboix518

I don't care if you paid $10,000 or $100,000 for your wedding, there are people who have $100,000 that are still "cookie cutter" and there are couples who spend $10,000 that are better than the $100,000 onesIn my eyes top wedding does not mean top dollar

janie2002

I have to disagree and it might sounds stuck up, but I have seen some weddings where you can tell it defined the couple but it did not make it a "top" wedding.  If you have bad or tacky taste and you model your wedding after what you like then.... well your wedding might be tacky.I don't know what makes a wedding top though.

hoopsgirl

yep, unique touches.  whether it be cultural/religious, personal interests, or family traditions.

STBMrsMartin

I think a top wedding is a couple who didn't forget the details and personalized their wedding.

FutureMrsDang

For me, weddings that are think are "top" would be one that paid attention to detail, personable, and a great party.  I like leaving a wedding thinking "that was so them having _____".  True, just because it is personable doesn't make it a top wedding off that bat, it still needs to look put together.  For me having the "in colors" or "in theme" doesn't make your wedding top bc, really, it just looks like every other wedding I have seen on the knot.

SHUVUU

I am guilty of having a very 'cookie cutter' wedding. Everything was traditional. Air on a G string, Canon in D, Arioso, Wedding  March. 'Check chicken or beef' (lol!) 1 Corinthians 13 and rice was thrown at us. And I'm okay with it. I think it defined us as a couple. Very Traditional.But I get what you are asking Emily. A "top" wedding is one of those that I look at pictures or planning bios of and think, "Wow! That looks like fun. I want to be a guest at that wedding" I can't stop talking about Adorablebridezilla's wedding. Hers stood out to me.

daniel1984

If you liked it, I love it. ;-)

ShannonTX

It sounds lame but a top wedding for me is when you can feel the love in the room. When everyone is glowing and happy... Families, friends, everyone. I think when it's like that, everythig else falls into place.

hoopsgirl

ditto to a great party, and this- When everyone is glowing and happy... Families, friends, everyoneand i like being moved at the ceremony. *tear* i'm a sap though. lol

kcon1225

I think personal touches definatly add something. I hope my personal touches people like and don't find tacky. I also think a top wedding keeps the guest entertain and happy. My MOH and friends are always like make sure your wedding isn't like this ... I'm hoping my DJ can keep the partyin hoping and everyone just has a great time. I think a top wedding is just fun and everyone leaves having a great time.

allinannie

i don't think the amount of money you spend matters. when your friends and family ahve a great time then you had a top wedding also when your entrance is the theme to monday night football.. and your faces look like this... http://tinyurl.com/mhq3wp

rach1082

I agree a wedding that stands out has personal touches and a great feeling of love and everyone is so happy to be there and having a great time. I have been to weddings that where gorgeous and everyone was just sitting around like okaaay. Also having the biggest wedding cake ever helps .

SHUVUU

Top weddings: Janie's, Veronika's, Jo's and I already mentioned Nora'sAnticipating: Happydragon's and Bellydancebride (she disappeared on us)

hoopsgirl

Bellydancebridei emailed her a while back and asked her to come back with reviews and pics.  she said she would.  not sure what happened.

STBMrsMartin

I agree the love of family & friends really brings out a wedding. i love the weddings that the couple isn't afraid to hide their emotions. I cry every time!

Eboix518

Shuvuu - I dunno in my honest opinion I did not see anything that stood out in Janie and Verona's weddings, they were pretty yes, but still standard in my opinion. But we all have our opinions on what we like and don't like, etc...

MommaA117

I really liked J-meandJ-son's wedding...It was original and had pretty detail....I also really liked Guicem's wedding.Mine was cookie cutter because I am in no way a really creative person and and I'm really traditional, even the little DIY stuff I did stressed me out.I think what makes a wedding top is everything added together along with the special touches...whether it be presonal or just elegant. Just put together maybe? It's hard to explain. I agree that sometimes personal touches cane be tacky if not done right.

SHUVUU

I dunno in my honest opinion I did not see anything that stood out in Janie and Verona's weddings, they were pretty yes, but still standard in my opinionI'm still trying to figure out whether this is a diss wrapped in a compliment or a compliment wrapped in a diss. Either way - Classy (؟)  

janie2002

we all have diff tastes...I mean some ppl can have great, expensive venues, but the decor they use can still make it look simple....JMOGood thing it's not a competition lol

veronabrit

I don't really care what anyone thinks of my wedding. I never really claimed that my wedding was unique or "stood out" but I get approximately 10 emails a weeks asking me how I made something or about another detail in our wedding...not to mention all the pages on P&E..so some people out there must have found something unique or interesting or pretty about my wedding. I don't think I had the best wedding ever, but I do think it was pretty and that to me, is verified by all of the emails I get. Not bragging at all, just trying to solidify a point here. Everyone had different tastes.

Eboix518

No, not in any way was it a diss but I guess you can take it as you wish = )and Janie - whos wedding might you be talking about...anyones on here?

FutureMrsDang

I think Sam (coastie) had a top wedding, but that was a long time ago.  I can't think of any other wedding that REALLY stood out to me. Not bragging at all, just trying to solidify a point hereHaha all the details about the 10s of emails and pages is more than plently to solidify a point IMO.

SHUVUU

Veronika, Agreed. I like that you never fish for compliments yet a day does not go by without someone paging you to ask about how you did something. Your wedding was amazing and I will say that again.

veronabrit

I am simply presenting facts and being honest. I never brag about my wedding or anything else. But when someone tells me that they don't really see what is so great about my wedding- that is fine, it is their opinon, but I am trying to point out that a lot of people do see the effort, hard-work and creativity I put into our wedding. I worked hard to make it personalized and beautiful, as so most other brides, and I think the fact that I am contacted a lot about various aspects of my wedding does indeed signify that a lot of people did feel our wedding was done in good taste. Again, I respect anyone who disagrees.

janie2002

 Emily I was talking about yours. I liked your venue but the decor was not my taste, but thats okay because we have different taste! We had standard weddings and you had a theme wedding so we obviously don't have to like the same things < That is also not a diss. I'm sure everyone had a "top" wedding in their minds and that's what counts =-) Those memories of love not if soso thought it was the best wedding ever.

Eboix518

Verona - I do get what you are saying and like I said before I never said the weddings shuvuu mentioned weren't great, yes they were very pretty and they came together very nicely

shelly0921

Clearly it was a lame attempt at a "dis".  The classy thing to do would be keeping your insecurities to yourself.  It's funny how some people tend to pick on the same people over and over again.... same ole' story.  Verona's wedding had some very original decor and I think that she took some not so original details and put her touch on them which made them her own.  Lets face it, we all get ideas from each other.  If you can take those ideas and add your personal touch thats great.  I'm looking forward to the FutureMrsLewis wedding.  I think she has put tremendous thought and creativity into the things she is doing. 

veronabrit

I just think that threads like this are a lame attempt to either solicit attention and compliments or to diss someone in a sublte way. Not my cup of tea. Everyone's wedding was special and beautiful. I just know a lot of the poster's styles here, and I know that a lot of the times threads like this are meant to cause drama, and not to get genuine opinions. I find it especially interesting when people who's weddings have long passed post questions like this. I can understand a bride who is about to have her wedding interested in this type of information though. JMO.

ayersfam20

I think if your wedding is pretty and represents you as a couple then it's a "top" wedding.  You don't have to spend a million dollars, just make it about you!I love adorable's wedding, and Dang's wedding was so pretty and unique while being traditional and about her and her culture.  I love that.  Janie and Verona's wedding were all so pretty.  I'm excited to see Happy's, and I wish Bellydance bride would AW her pics.  My friend Carrie had to have the best wedding I've seen - she's not a knottie though.  ;-)