I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!

prymar08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:626522f8-28b8-43b5-99cd-2c708200eb43">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding! : Yeah, um, we had mixed gender sides, women in pants, no spotlight dances, no tosses, and a slew of other things that were incredibly non-traditional, especially in my small-town community.  So, no, that's not even remotely the issue. See, the difference between "tradition" and "etiquette" is that breaking one doesn't hurt anyone.  It's there for superstition or cultural ritual, entertainment, etc.  The other is there to make sure you don't piss people off, offend anyone, or comeoff looking like an ungracious spoiled brat.  That's why I break tradition all over the place in my life, but I always think long and hard before even bending the rules of etiquette. 
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I see the difference between them, but you're missing my point. What exactly is bad "etiquette" about having a second ceremony?</div>

Cortney1982

This is what happens when you don't plan ahead and think about the consequences. 

When my FI and I got engaged we discussed our options:

1. Go to the courthouse to get married and spend all the money we would have saved on a fabulous honeymoon. 

2. Have a wedding with our close friends and family with a nice reception but honeymoon would be very limited.

We can always go on a vacation another time but the fancy wedding dress, ceremony, and reception to celebrate with our friends and family is a one time offering so we went with option 2.

Annas2013

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[QUOTE]This is what happens when you don't plan ahead and think about the consequences.  When my FI and I got engaged we discussed our options: 1. Go to the courthouse to get married and spend all the money we would have saved on a fabulous honeymoon.  2. Have a wedding with our close friends and family with a nice reception but honeymoon would be very limited. We can always go on a vacation another time but the fancy wedding dress, ceremony, and reception to celebrate with our friends and family is a one time offering so we went with option 2.
Posted by Cortney1982[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>You make a really good point.  I wish I could like this, but TK hasn't come up with that option yet.

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prymar08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:ef62a3a0-c3f1-4fc2-9210-607bc01325d1">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]Prymar, I don't need to question why it's unacceptable.  I really don't.  Watching a married woman walk down the aisle as a "bride" just is not right IMO.
Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]

Why is it not right or acceptable? Why do any of you guys care what other people want anyway?
If you never question your beliefs, how can you be sure of anything?

Summer2011Bride

I'll repeat what I posted as a reply on the C&T board for you, OP:

A celebration is very different from a wedding. I would have no issue with a friend who eloped throwing a big party (without the WP, big pouffy dress, pre-wedding parties, etc. Just a plain old PARTY with good food and maybe some tunes)

I WOULD have an issue with someone saying "My first wedding wasn't good enough so I want another" which is what the OP is saying. Eloping and having a private ceremony is a CHOICE. A valid way that many couples CHOOSE to celebrate their marriage. Just like some people CHOOSE to throw a huge, over the top extravaganza. Since both are choices, to me this would be no different than someone saying, "Well I had this huge wedding, but now I regret that and want a small wedding with only 30 guests, so I'm redoing my wedding in a smaller way." That would sound ridiculous, but is really no different than what OP wants to do: she was unhappy with her first wedding and now wants a second.

GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:0e54b700-4c00-4bbd-b792-2853a984ca3a">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding! : I see the difference between them, but you're missing my point. What exactly is bad "etiquette" about having a second ceremony?
Posted by prymar08[/QUOTE]

It's not a belief.  A second wedding ceremony is a legal impossibility.

[Deleted User]

Honey, you DID have a wedding.  You got married.
You didn't have hullaballoo.....
We're going to have a small ceremony here (where his parents live and where we do now), but when we go down to where most of my mom's family is - we'll have a huge party - a reception.
When we go up to New England to visit my dad's side - we'll have a huge party.

you had your wedding.
Now have the party.

prymar08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:3a063fd1-5e13-4a41-a3b3-c4fe7ba5905b">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding! : It's not a belief.  A second wedding ceremony is a legal impossibility.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, a second wedding ceremony is legally impossible if you're talking about signing the legal documents twice. But this is a celebration of two people being united, regardless of when and where they signed the papers before.</div><div>A paper signing in a courthouse is not the same as a wedding and ceremony. </div><div>I haven't heard one good reason for all of the thickheaded-ness on this forum. It's not pretentious or selfish if no one attended the original "ceremony" at the court house. </div>

prymar08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:b4d597fa-2956-427b-8a92-56eb70907c2d">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding! : It's pretentious.  It's saying "I'm already married, but I'm soooooooooooo special that everyone has to gather together while I pretend I'm not".  You have to throw me parties and give me gifts.  Also?  You have to pretend I'm not married too. I question my beliefs all the time.  i don't have to question this.  It's not a "belief" that OP is married.  It's a fact. Look, truth be told, I don't care what OP wants to do.  Fine, do it.  Thing is, we're pointing out that people may not look upon this plan in the same way that this "bride" is intending.  I'm trying to prevent her from embarassing herself in front of her family and friends.
Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]

<div>How is it pretentious if no one attended the first "ceremony?"</div><div>Obviously OP is married. I wasn't debating that. I was debating whether there is any good reason why someone shouldn't be able to throw a ceremony and reception with her loved ones because she wasn't able to have them around when she signed the papers. </div><div>
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AdeleDazeem

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:33d68d9c-1f76-4222-992c-a8f7e5cc1c5d">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]A paper signing in a courthouse is not the same as a wedding and ceremony.
Posted by prymar08[/QUOTE]

It sure as hell is.  What do you think a wedding is?  It is when two people who aren't married become legally married.  Signing that piece of paper in the ceremony at the courthouse is the very essence of the wedding.  The rest of the stuff said and done - in a civil ceremony - is mumbo jumbo and doesn't amount to a hill of beans as far as the married-ness of the couple is concerned.

People can' do whatever they want - sure.  But I think it's completely ridiculous for two people who are married to dress up, dance up and down the aisle, and basically re-enact a fancy wedding ceremony when the business end is already finished.  Have a party.  Celebrate your new status instead of trying so desperately to get something you thought you lost. 

Think of it this way: You are pregnant and have this perfect idea in your mind about how the birth and first few days are going to go.  You're are so enthralled with the idea of quiet time with family followed by all your friends and family coming to the hospital.  In the end, the birth is traumatic and you spend several days in the hospital but can't see your child.  Everything is thrown off.  But, you are still a mother - the act of birthing the child made you a mother - however it happened.  So now... would you 1. Re-enact the birth so that you got exactly what you wanted or 2. Take your child home, love your new little family, and invite your friends/family over to your home and adjust plans because life didn't go exactly as you wanted?

GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:33d68d9c-1f76-4222-992c-a8f7e5cc1c5d">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding! : Yes, a second wedding ceremony is legally impossible if you're talking about signing the legal documents twice. But this is a celebration of two people being united, regardless of when and where they signed the papers before. A paper signing in a courthouse is not the same as a wedding and ceremony.  I haven't heard one good reason for all of the thickheaded-ness on this forum. It's not pretentious or selfish if no one attended the original "ceremony" at the court house. 
Posted by prymar08[/QUOTE]

::headesk::

A wedding is a ceremony legally joining two people in marriage (In the US this can be done in a civil or religious ceremony) .  THAT IS IT.  The type of ceremony you have is your choice.  OP and her FI made their choice and now she wants a pretend ceremony where she pretends to be a bride, he pretends to be a groom and someone pretends to be an officiant (because someone who is licensed to marry people will not take part in this charade.)  98% of the people who have posted on this thread understand this incredibly simple concept.  We are not the ones with thick heads here.

Lisa50

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:c4b85da0-494d-4e57-a411-8529ff2f81e6">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding! : If someone is already married , pray tell, how can they get marred ?  <strong><font color="#0000ff">If I just went through labor and childbirth, the baby is born. Done. I can't have that baby again.</font></strong>  Aye, aye, aye!
Posted by Lisa50[/QUOTE]

Thanks, StageManager, for putting more umph behind my one liner.  I remain <u>amazed</u> that some folks just_don't_get_it.  *sigh*

RamonaFlowers

Here's my opinion: if you have the money to and want to put on a white dress and throw a kick-ass anniversary party, go for it. But it's not your wedding, it never was your wedding, and no amount of denial and lying will ever make it your wedding. I'd be pretty understanding if somebody owned their decision like an adult and said "Look, we went to the courthouse for whatever reason, and we just want to have a party now" and did just that: had the party. It's not my money, I can't tell you how to spend it, and damn if I don't love a good party.

That being said, if you go to the courthouse and then a few months later go through the rigamarole of staging a fake ceremony with bridesmaids and whatnot, acting like the courthouse ceremony wasn't "good enough", or even worse-acting like the courthouse ceremony never happened (i.e. "lying")-yeah, I'm not going to ever be "understanding" about such a thing-I might go and enjoy the party (The part that makes sense to me), but I'm going to side-eye the hell out of everything leading up to it.

Further more, if one of my closest friends or family members straight up lied to me about being married? Yeah. You could throw a million do-over parties, and I'm never going to get over the fact that somebody that I love lied to me about something so huge.

prymar08

You are completely missing the point of this whole discussion. She is not actually getting married twice. She is not ATTEMPTING to get married twice. End of story. If she wants to throw a mock wedding and reception, she can, and I'm sure most people would not see the problem and will be more than happy to celebrate with her and her husband.

serenity5689

Wow, I see alot of negatives in here and alot of nastiness. I eloped, 7 months pregnant and was in a rush, we already had our papers done with Courthouse but we had to have the actual vow exchange before the papers expire and thanks to my Mother in law, she ruined our wedding plans and we were forced to elope. I dont call running into the courthouse between getting a G-diabetes test done and a dr appointment to exchange vows while my husband was in his nasty work uniforms a wedding. We got married but we didnt have a wedding. My family are BEGGING for us to have a real WEDDING. Yea We are already married, we agree with that and we do call it a vow renewal but we call it a Vow Renewal WEDDING. My grandmother would love to see me walk down the isle in a real dress and all like it's our first wedding even though she knows it's just our renewal. Our family dont care, i dont care. i want the wedding I was planning on having before that witch ruined it all. I want my family and friends to be there and see how much me and my husband love each other and plan to remain together. We have 4, 5th one coming in November. We plan to have our children as our Maid of honor, brides maid and flower girls and ringbearers, but hell, nothing is wrong with that. So, Im going to walk down the isle in the dress that I choose with my 3 beautiful little girls and watch my husband and handsome little boys waiting for me down there. We will renew our vows the way WE want to, not how everyone else thinks is right or wrong.

Really none of ANYONE's business to judge rather someone had a courthouse wedding and wants a "REAL" wedding or not. If that's what they want, then so be it. They come here to ask for advice not to be smashed around. It's their day, not yours. It's their decision, not yours. 

GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:ca18ec42-5735-4ff9-8cc5-3e2a092e02a6">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]You are completely missing the point of this whole discussion. She is not actually getting married twice. She is not ATTEMPTING to get married twice. End of story. If <strong>she wants to throw a mock wedding and reception</strong>, she can, and I'm sure most people would not see the problem and will be more than happy to celebrate with her and her husband.
Posted by prymar08[/QUOTE]

No kidding!!!!!!!

Did you miss the part where they haven't told anyone that they are married????  She posted this on C&T also and that was one of her follow up posts that I copied to this thread.  They want to have a mock wedding and pass it off as the real thing.  Even if they weren't lying about this, it is still wrong to have a "mock" wedding.  If people want to see a play about two people getting married, they will go to a theater.  People go to a wedding to see two people joined in marriage.

For the last freaking time - SHE CANNOT HAVE ANOTHER CEREMONY AND CALL IT A WEDDING!!!!!!!!  She can have a vow renewal down the line OR she can throw one hell of a reception.  She cannot have another wedding.

serenity5689

CMGr,

YOu can advice that its not a good idea but you cant tell someone they cant have it. That's not your job to do nor is it any of your business. That is for her and her family to decide. However they want their renewal "wedding" to be is their decision. Criticising someone because of something you dont believe in is just wrong cuz not everyone is going to believe the same thing as you. Who CARES what she is trying to do, that is her business only. You arent invited to her wedding, your not her family, you dont even know her so therefore your sayings is pretty much dirt.

serenity5689

Giving options and telling What she can or cannot do are 2 different things, 1covejack. 

serenity5689

Cant get married twice but nothing wrong with having the wedding she wants. Some people have a great eloped courthouse wedding, others did not. That's their own decision. Im having the same thing as her but we been married for 7 years, almost 8. yes, I am not going to hide that it is a renewal but I will have the wedding I really want and my WITCH of a step-mother in law can kiss my white *** and go to ****.      

hopkinsah

In Response to I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!:
  I say do what you want and who cares what anyone else says... and for the Officiant that would be something to talk to your pastor/preacher about doing.  

AdeleDazeem

It's like talking to a wall in here.  Some people are so dumb.

serenity5689

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:5f8f3933-10dc-4272-8270-cf3f899de59a">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]It's like talking to a wall in here.  Some people are so dumb.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is not a case of who is dumb and who is not. U cant just turn around and say YOU ARE DUMB just cuz you disagree with someone else. Not everyone has the same ideas, same agreement, same likes, dislikes or belief. Trying to FORCE someone to believe or like or whatever that u do is DUMB. 

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serenity5689

I believe the most proper way of even commenting this post to all that disagrees with the idea of a renewal to be a wedding is to say "Well this is what I believe but here are some ideas."
Dont put someone down because they dont believe the same thing you do. Dont smash them into the floor and put them down and treat them like dirt. They are human beings and they deserve to have their own set of plans rather it's to be called a wedding or not. That's not your job to do. People come here for help with ideas, not to be smashed around. For those of you that just say "We arent being mean, we are being honest." Well, excuse my french but B.S.! Didnt any of your mom's teach you "If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all?" 

serenity5689

Ashm, you can private message me anytime and discuss what you want and help you out. Just hit me up anytime.

AdeleDazeem

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:ffb4184a-3898-4f2e-86ef-fcafcd98bad2">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding! : This is not a case of who is dumb and who is not. U cant just turn around and say YOU ARE DUMB just cuz you disagree with someone else. Not everyone has the same ideas, same agreement, same likes, dislikes or belief. Trying to FORCE someone to believe or like or whatever that u do is DUMB. 
Posted by serenity5689[/QUOTE]

Thanks for schooling me.  It's also spelled "you" and "because."  It's hard to take someone seriously who uses text speak.

Look, as I've said several times in this thread, people can do whatever they want.  But, they should not expect everyone to support their silly ideas.  Sometimes they need to hear "Well, that's quite idiotic" and listen to WHY others feel that way.  Otherwise you're just an ostrich with your head in the sand.  Please, go ahead and support fake weddings, but don't argue over whether the re-enactment is a wedding.  It's not.  That's a fact and because of that, some people are going to think it's a completely dumb idea.  Just go in with your eyes open.

serenity5689

I dont care about my spelling, this is not high school nor is it college so dont get your panties in a waddle. It's okay to give options but bashing someone around because you have different ideas on how things go then they do is 2 totally different things. Before I have ever been in this forum, I have been told BILLIONS of times that me and my husband should have a Renewal Wedding, and yes Im going to keep calling it that because that is what I believe and u cant change that, with family and friends all there. Heck, my husband's grandparents had a BEAUTIFUL full blown Renewal wedding, with everything. She even got a REAL wedding gown, not a traditional over flown dress but it was a wedding dress baught from a real bridal store all laced and beautiful (like a beach dress) and they also had the bridal party and both the celemony and the reception and they even had a bit of fun in it, tossing the banquet and the garter. they been married for over 30 years but it was FUN. Are they wrong for having all that? No, they are not. Anyone can have their Renewal the way they want it. They can call it anything they want. It's not your way or the high way, it is THEIR day so therefore it's THEIR way. Cut off all the critizing on rather they are wrong on what and just respect what they want and give ur adive on things like adults. If they say they want it to be like this and so would this look good for this. Lets say oh Im having my renewal wedding at the beach, should I have this kind of shoes or that. That is what we are here for, we dont want to hear a whole mess full of dirt, that makes things even more stressed out that the "BRIDE" doesnt need. Yes I said bride, if she wants to be called a bride then that's her choice, you dont have to like it. You are not here to CONTROL people you are here to HELP so stop trying to be the Queens of the Universe. 

RamonaFlowers

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:6af48522-5e88-4b25-adfe-d06da4979da8">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, I see alot of negatives in here and alot of nastiness. I eloped, 7 months pregnant and was in a rush, we already had our papers done with Courthouse but we had to have the actual vow exchange before the papers expire and thanks to my Mother in law, she ruined our wedding plans and <strong>we were forced to elope.</strong> I dont call running into the courthouse between getting a G-diabetes test done and a dr appointment to exchange vows while my husband was in his nasty work uniforms a wedding. We got married but we didnt have a wedding.
Posted by serenity5689[/QUOTE]

Sweetie, nobody held a gun to your head and <strong>forced</strong> you to do <strong>anything</strong>. You, being a legally recognized adult of sound mind, of your own free will <strong>made a choice</strong>. It may not have been the wedding you planned when you were 7-years-old playing with Barbie, but it <strong>was</strong> a wedding, and <strong>you chose</strong> to get married that way.

Saying it wasn't a "real" wedding is down right insulting to every single bride out there that "just signed papers at the courthouse" and never felt the need to have a "do-over".

Like I said in my PP, I don't  necessarily give a flying fluck what somebody else chooses to do with their own money as long as they're owning their decisions like adults. Saying "it wasn't a real wedding" and stamping your foot claiming you get to call this one the "real wedding" thing is not only ridiculous, it is just plain <strong>wrong</strong>. It's not your wedding, and no amount of denial will ever make it your wedding.

Have your vow renewal/party, have a great time. Not a single person here ever said you couldn't do that.  They just told you to quit calling it a "real wedding" because <strong>it's not your real wedding</strong>. Your "real" wedding was the day you legally got married. That's not a matter of our "opinion" being different than yours, that is an actual <span style="font-weight:bold;">fact</span>. There is nothing you can do to change that at this point. I'm not sure why this is so freaking hard for you to comprehend.

serenity5689

I grew up calling a Renewal "Party" (as u call it) a wedding. 2 different versions of weddings are "Bridal Wedding" which is when the 2 are not married and a Renewal of Vow Wedding, those who are married and want to have their vows renewed, which is what Im going to be having. that's how I grew up and no Im not wrong that's just what I believe. If you dont believe that then that is your options but you cannot go around making it law when it's not. I respect that those of you opposing the term but what Im saying is you shouldnt force everyone to be YOU. YOU are YOU, BE YOU, not Me, or person who created the post or those who have commented on this post. BE YOU. Im not going to change my mind on calling a Renewal a Wedding based on what you say and Im not going to tell you to do the same. Me and husband had a HORRIBLE Few years that got us to a point where we almost signed the final papers of divorce but decided to do counseling and make things better and we have had a HUGE turning point, so this is basically a "New Beginning" for us so calling it a actual wedding rather it is a vow renewal or not, seems CLEARLY fit for us and our families. 

serenity5689

ROFLMAO!

My husband read all these forum posts and he said, "well, if it makes everyone happy, Im more than willing to sign over that last divorce papers and have an official divorce just to have the WEDDING we want." 

I gotta love my man to death!

prymar08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_i-eloped-but-i-still-want-to-have-a-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:8136f908-050e-4841-82f3-fa2a8502b174Post:ea9bf296-083f-43c6-b04f-a9366045918d">Re: I eloped, but i still want to have a wedding!</a>:
[QUOTE]I think maybe Prymar has a vested interest in convincing *all of us* that she's right.  That's not going to happen.  Serenity, there have been blunt, honest opinions.  You say it's none of our business, but when OP posted this on an international message board, she got opinions.
Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]

Not at all. You have your opinion and I have mine, that's fine. But for people who so strongly believe something, you sure don't have many good logical reasons behind that belief whatsoever. I just wanted to know why it was bad etiquette.