New Post so soon to wedding delimma

ninjasgirl

Hello All,
My fiance will be arriving to his Permenant Duty Station just one month before our wedding.  The wedding is taking place in our hometown which is 23hours from our new station.  My question is should his new commanding officer get an invite?  On the one hand I want to make sure that I am being polite by asking him/her but on the other hand I dont want it to see like a handout (we just want presents).
What do you think?
Rachel

kyrgyzstan

I'd probably invite his OIC/SNCOIC, but not necessarily the CO. I have a big long book about military customs, but it also advises leaving calling cards as a 2nd Lt. Thanks to that, I ignore it's social customs section now.

meltoine

I vote no. He won't even be there yet when you send out the invites. If anyone gives him the side-eye later, he can just tell them that you had a small, family-only wedding. No one will know the difference. 

squirrly

I vote no.  FI is an officer, and would not find it weird or inappropriate to not be invited to a wedding for somebody in his company.  Especially if they're new.  We have been invited to, and attended, one wedding, but it was for people who had been in the unit for quite a while.