The reason I go crazy

mana8503

So last night, BF got home from class.  I'm already half asleep in bed... we do a quick catch up on our days, then we say goodnight.  He rolls over and before going to sleep he says something about how I'm amazing etc etc.  Then he goes, "When can I start calling you my FI?"  UHHHH WHEN YOU PROPOSE!

Sometimes I feel like the BF is causing my craziness.  It's up to him, he's got the ring, but he keeps saying March is when he'll propose.  Well then, THAT'S when we'll be engaged, and you can call me your FI!  He drives me crazy!  So now, today that's all I've been thinking about.  I've been pretty good since finding this board (I did have a BSC moments prior to lurking).  I keep thinking about all the times BEFORE March that would be a great proposal... but I need to stop... I need the Harry Potter Question of the day!

Sorry for the rant, anyone else's BF pushing you to the edge of insanity?  Sometimes I wish we didn't look at rings over the summer... or already talked about our 5 year plan!  I'm enjoying the living together and our relationship... but the seeds have been sowed!  OK... thanks for letting me get that off my chest.

HeartOverMind

Yeah my BF drives me crazy too...so we aren't talking about marriage because we probably won't be engaged for a couple of years (we talked about this).
 
When we are out and about we'll see things like tvs and he'll say "What do you think about that size?" and I usually say "That's a little too big and a waste of money." then he says "Well it would probably be a gift for, you know..." I get annoyed because he said he didn't want to talk about it (marriage and stuff) right now, but he will always bring it up in little ways like that.

Whatever.

calindi

Everytime I say we need something for the kitchen, BF says something like, "No point in buying it; soon enough we'll have one of those registry-thingies."

Really?  Soon enough?  Like next summer, huh?  What the heck am I supposed to use for a spatula before then?!  No, I'm going to buy the damn spatula.

mana8503

@ HeartOverMind - well we already talked about getting engaged soon, I picked out a ring and I know he has it.  He thinks because I know he has it, we can just start planning etc.  But it's driving my crazy moments. 

@Calindi - yep he does that too, along with calling me Amanda Lynn mylastname hislastname.  I'm like OMG can you stop?  I've already said no talking about the ring, but he still does...  But I agree, if you need a spatula now, GET IT NOW!  ESP the small stuff.  I keep telling him the registry stuff will probably be "upgrades" to what we have now.

calindi

He doesn't have my ring yet, but we talked about it yesterday and he said with his next stipend check from the USMC (they give him $5,000 for every year of law school he completes) he plans to buy the ring, so next summer sometime.  At least I KNOW it won't be before then - he just doesn't have the money, plain and simple.  So I guess that makes waiting a bit easier.

He does say adorable things, though, that make my heart go pitter-patter and crave the next few steps in our relationship.  Namely, anytime we talk about children.  We were at a birthday party for my cousin who just turned 1 years old, and I was playing with all the kids.  BF came and sat next to me and leaned over and said, "You're going to be a fantastic mother for our children someday."

heyimbren

BF has been driving me crazy lately. I choose to do my best to ignore him.

It's kinda cute when we're just chatting and he goes "you know, I'm going to marry you someday." That's sweet, really.

What's not so sweet? All this talk about kids. He's got baby fever. "I took my little cousin to his hockey game today. I can't wait until I have my own kids to do this with!!!" Ugh.

I'll be honest- all this really drives me crazy because he'll talk about this, but he won't get around to figure out his firefighting program application. And once (if) he gets in, he'll have a year and a half of that from when he starts (which won't be until 2011/2012). He hasn't done the math to figure it out, but I have. I know he won't propose until he's out of school. So in the mean time, can we just stick to talking about school instead of rings?

mana8503

Well I know the BF had the ring on a 6 month payment plan so January he'll OFFICALLY have the ring.  So unless he pays it off before then, I know it'll be after January.  But he keeps saying March.  I think if I didn't know all that (really I know too much about the stupid thing haha) I'd be better.

He made cute comments too, esp being a mom.  He already has 2 kids from his previous marriage, and he tells me how much they love me, that I'm going to be a great stepmom and mom.  His mom called when she had them this weekend, and he was getting them to say my name, they are 6 and 4.  His daughter calls me Manta it's too cute.  Or he'll ask what I think our kids will look like, if they will be as stuborn as we are, etc. 

becunning2

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[QUOTE]What the heck am I supposed to use for a spatula before then?!  No, I'm going to buy the damn spatula.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Never come between a woman and her spatula!  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

Elle1036

BF is driving me crazy just by letting the ring sit and collect dust on his dresser.  I honestly don't know what the boy is waiting on, unless he's just so determined to surprise me that he's going to wait until I give up altogether. 

If that kind of stuff is legitimately bothering you, Mana, and not just "driving you crazy" in a silly, cute, way, then you should say something about it.  Otherwise, just find ways to one-up him.  Like when he asks what you think your kids will look like, say "well you only have to wait about 8 more months to find out" and watch his face change color.

desertsun

Okay, I've got a totally wackadoo idea.

Tell HIM what he's doing is making you crazy and ask him to stop teasing you.

You're allowed to do that, you know.

coastiegrl25

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[QUOTE]BF is driving me crazy just by letting the ring sit and collect dust on his dresser.  I honestly don't know what the boy is waiting on, unless he's just so determined to surprise me that he's going to wait until I give up altogether.  If that kind of stuff is legitimately bothering you, Mana, and not just "driving you crazy" in a silly, cute, way, then you should say something about it.  Otherwise, just find ways to one-up him.  Like when he asks what you think your kids will look like, say <strong>"well you only have to wait about 8 more months to find out" and watch his face change color.</strong>
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]


Haha. This is something  I would totally do. 

purplepeopleeater11

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[QUOTE]Okay, I've got a totally wackadoo idea. Tell HIM what he's doing is making you crazy and ask him to stop teasing you. You're allowed to do that, you know.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

100% agree.  BF said he will propose after New Years and before April.  However he wanted to keep looking at rings!  It was driving me nuts.  We'd been to every jeweler in town and he just wanted to keep going.  While it was cute and I was happy he was that excited it was killing me.  So...I told him.

Now, there's no more ring shopping, no more me feeling like he's driving me crazy.

I love how that works.

mana8503

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_reason-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:019d3ffa-6399-423d-8ce6-1689315b3f04Post:0f27b0f9-1cf2-4c24-b962-30fa0fbeea5f">Re: The reason I go crazy</a>:
[QUOTE]Okay, I've got a totally wackadoo idea. Tell HIM what he's doing is making you crazy and ask him to stop teasing you. You're allowed to do that, you know.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

I have, and he's gotten better about it.  Last night's lapse was probably due to exhuastion.  He was up at 430am for PT/work and didn't get home from class until after 10pm.  He thinks some things made me go AWE, which it does until the next day I can't get rings, weddings, etc off the brain.  All of which I've discussed with him. 

I meant for this post to see if other gals were having issues too.  Guys trying to be cute but only driving us crazy.  And looks like i'm not alone

mana8503

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[QUOTE]Like when he asks what you think your kids will look like, say "well you only have to wait about 8 more months to find out" and watch his face change color.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

AH HAHAHA!  YES I hope I remember this when it comes up again.  I'm sure it will if he comes to Thanksgiving with me and I'm holding my cousin's baby.  But he's got more baby fever than me. 

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]Okay, I've got a totally wackadoo idea. Tell HIM what he's doing is making you crazy and ask him to stop teasing you. You're allowed to do that, you know.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

Oops, I guess I forgot to throw this out there too. That's exactly what I did about two weeks ago and he cut it out completely. Not the school stuff, just the other stuff.

desertsun

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The reason I go crazy : <strong> I have, and he's gotten better about it. </strong> Last night's lapse was probably due to exhuastion.  He was up at 430am for PT/work and didn't get home from class until after 10pm.  He thinks some things made me go AWE, which it does until the next day I can't get rings, weddings, etc off the brain.  All of which I've discussed with him.  <strong>I meant for this post to see if other gals were having issues too.</strong>  Guys trying to be cute but only driving us crazy.  And looks like i'm not alone
Posted by mana8503[/QUOTE]

A, you didn't mention that in your OP. I can only respond to the information you provide.

B, you don't get to dictate how others respond to your posts.

mana8503

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The reason I go crazy : A, you didn't mention that in your OP. I can only respond to the information you provide. B, you don't get to dictate how others respond to your posts.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

Sorry, I honestly thought I did.  I went back to find it, but I gues not.  I wasn't trying to dictate anything, just found your post a little rude.  I'm not trying to cause drama, but maybe asking if I talked to him and if not, start there - might have been a bit nicer. 

CASK85

I don't think that Desert was being rude in her first post. . . it sounded to me like she was trying to be helpful with a funny tone. Big girl panties please!

fraycou

my BF keeps telling me it's "soon" ...well Thanksgiving is soon, Christmas could be considered soon, I finish school in May (which seems soon to me)...I should point out that I DO NOT ask about the proposal/ring. He has told me he has bought the ring, had it appraised, and is just waiting for the right day which he has planned. I just don't expect anything that way i don't have my hopes up, so i won't get let down if it's not the "soon" i'm thinking.

meamolly

I cant remember what it was in relation to but last night my BF says "what kind of wife are you?" jokingly. I just stared at him for a few seconds then said "The ringless kind" and he go on about how i need more pratice at being a wife before i cant get a ring! BRAT! it was all in jest but he just needs to stop sayign stuff like that

desertsun

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The reason I go crazy : Sorry, I honestly thought I did.  I went back to find it, but I gues not.  I wasn't trying to dictate anything, just found your post a little rude.  I'm not trying to cause drama, but maybe asking if I talked to him and if not, start there - might have been a bit nicer. 
Posted by mana8503[/QUOTE]

Oh, thanks ever so much for that tip!

I'll certainly try much harder to meet your "nice" standards in future.

/sarcasm

JMM4208

I know what your going through! My BF and I went and looked at rings and I found one that I loved. Every since then he will randomly say in conversation "OMG Did you see that ring". I guess its just to see my face "light-up" like he says it does. I am going crazy too you aren't alone.