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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    I thought about hyphenating, but it's a total mouthful and I'd hate to have to fill out legal forms with my name.  I travel a lot, and I'm just dreading trying to fit it into the little boxes on immigration & customs forms.  Bah!

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  • edited December 2011
    I will take his last name. I don't have any strong desire to keep my own, and I don't like hyphenated ones - too long!
  • msjenna519msjenna519 member
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    edited September 2013
    In Response to <a rel="nofollow" href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hyphenated-married-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:090aaafc-ea8d-4f30-99d8-907b61d9c65aPost:a94896f2-0c50-4189-a31c-3d94ae581ced">Re: Hyphenated married name?</a>:
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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    Didn't we just have a thread like this 2 days ago?

    I am taking FI's name.
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  • msjenna519msjenna519 member
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    edited September 2013
    In Response to <a rel="nofollow" href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hyphenated-married-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:090aaafc-ea8d-4f30-99d8-907b61d9c65aPost:3cc3f43d-37cf-4ff4-9102-3ce2e0e46296">Re: Hyphenated married name?</a>:
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  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm taking FI's name. I thought about hyphenating but it would make my name EXTREMELY long and I'm too lazy to sign my entire last name as it is.
  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think him being disappointed is a good reason to change your name, especially if you feel strongly about keeping your own.  He should be able to respect that it's your own identity and name.  I can totally understand why he'd be disappointed, but he should be able to get over it.

    I'm changing my name, but it's because I want to, not because he wants me to.

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  • marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd never hyphenate. Pain in the butt if you ask me. Laughing Besides, my last name is a color, so it would sound like I was describing his last name every time I introduced myself (so does a hislastname come in any other colors?!). I'm not sure what I'll do when the time comes, though.

    We kind of talked about this recently. For more thoughts...

    http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_last-names
  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm dropping my middle name.

    I will be Firstname Maidenname marriedlastname.

    I love my maiden name, and it sucks that my Dad didn't have boys to carry it on, but I refuse to have a mile-long last name or a name different then my kids.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hyphenated-married-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:090aaafc-ea8d-4f30-99d8-907b61d9c65aPost:3cc3f43d-37cf-4ff4-9102-3ce2e0e46296">Re: Hyphenated married name?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Didn't we just have a thread like this 2 days ago? I am taking FI's name.
    Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]


    Yes, we did. OP there are a lot more answers on the other thread if you wanna check it out. The title of the post is last name, it should be at the bottom of this page or the top of page 2.
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  • msjenna519msjenna519 member
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  • DanieKADanieKA member
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    edited December 2011
    I'll be hyphenating my name. It's not because I don't like tradition or for a feminist reason, or because I don't want to be treated as property. It's simply because I've grown into my name. It's no longer my father's name, it's my name. I've accomplished some amazing things with this name. I've also gone through some devastating times and grown as a person. It's a part of me. I've thought (and still think) long and hard about it. 

    For a while I didn't think I would change my name at all. And honestly, I'm okay with my future kids taking their father's name and not mine. I'm okay with having a different last name than them. But I do love SO, and with him it's different than anything I ever experienced. I do want to take his last name, but I don't want to discard the name I have now. Hence, the hyphenation. I will have 4 names. First Middle Maiden-Married. I'm okay with it.  

    I don't know if anyone reads dooce.com, but she had an interesting video about this years ago with several different panelist.  http://www.momversation.com/momversation/did-you-take-your-husbands-name
  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hyphenated-married-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:090aaafc-ea8d-4f30-99d8-907b61d9c65aPost:98ddb1a5-43fe-473e-be27-5741c82e9b22">Re: Hyphenated married name?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't think him being disappointed is a good reason to change your name, especially if you feel strongly about keeping your own.  He should be able to respect that it's your own identity and name.  I can totally understand why he'd be disappointed, but he should be able to get over it.<strong> I'm changing my name, but it's because I want to, not because he wants me to.</strong>
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

     I totally would have guessed you'd choose to keep your own.

    I'm going to keep mine. If I were going to change anything, it would be my first name, which people can never spell and surprisingly have a hard time pronouncing, too.

    Hyphenating would start to get long, and we're not having kids, so I don't see a reason to change it.
  • KatyRoseMKatyRoseM member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm changing it, and really it's mostly about him and his family.  We want to have the same last name, and think his family would be really upset if he changed it.  Part of that is that he is adopted, so without the last name he might be rejecting the family (the name is what made him family, not blood).  I'm keeping mine as a middle name (I'll have 2) and we will use it as a kid's middle name too. 
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  • sparkles88sparkles88 member
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    edited December 2011
    I want to hyphenate my name. It's super long already. I think it would be cool to make it even longer Tongue out

    And BF and I don't want kids, so it's not like I would be burdening anyone else with my choice.
  • Blue & WhiteBlue & White member
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    edited December 2011
    Let's just say that hyphenating isn't an option.

    It's not like my last name would be "butt-whistle" or something.

    But it's about that bad.  And "whistle-butt" is equally lame sounding.

    I'll likely take his last name.  It's a much better teacher name, and my parents know I respect our family to the utmost degree.  It's not going to cause a rift there.

    I will probably keep my given middle name as opposed to taking my "maiden" name as my middle name - primarily because of the "butt-whistle" still sounding like "butt whistle" 
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hyphenated-married-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:090aaafc-ea8d-4f30-99d8-907b61d9c65aPost:8bb4d2d2-65f5-4b8c-a9af-72163f8cfcac">Re: Hyphenated married name?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm dropping my middle name. I will be Firstname Maidenname marriedlastname. I love my maiden name, and it sucks that my Dad didn't have boys to carry it on, but I refuse to have a mile-long last name or a name different then my kids.
    Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

    This. Except I will probably keep my middle name too and just use middle initials.

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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Or maybe First I. Maiden Last. But legal last name would be his last name. Frankly the only reason I've even thought about it is because I need it to look right on a business card and I'm known now by my maiden name.
  • edited December 2011
    Keeping my maiden name is important to me as my father passed away and I want to keep his last name as part of my name for sentimental reasons. However, I also want to take FIs last name. So I will make my maiden name my middle name and take FIs last name.
  • edited December 2011
    I will be taking his last name. I was named after my mother so I have a pretty unique first and last name. Since my first and last name are not very common me and my mom are often confused for one another and some times not in a good way. I am looking forward to having my own name that I do not have to share with anyone I know.
  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    edited December 2011
    I will keep my last name and he will keep his. Our children will have mylastname-hislastname hyphenated.

    I thought about hyphenating but I really like my last name alone. 
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hyphenated-married-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:090aaafc-ea8d-4f30-99d8-907b61d9c65aPost:3ef7a98a-319b-44d2-b3d9-1f24849469b8">Re: Hyphenated married name?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just saw this article on yahoo. <a href="http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/hyphenated-married-name-fight-heats-up-on-facebook-2457045/" rel="nofollow">http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/hyphenated-married-name-fight-heats-up-on-facebook-2457045/</a>
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    Thanks for sharing.  I liked that.

    I don't want to hyphenate just because I don't like the sound of it with our names.  I'm just going to keep my name instead.
  • edited December 2011
    I'm not attached to either my maiden name or my current last name (1st DH). Actually can't wait to get rid of 1st DH's name! And I'm really looking forward to taking FI's name, because it's a normal, nice name, and he has 2 kids that also have it and will live with us half the time, so I like that I'll share that with them.
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  • deburnindeburnin member
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    edited December 2011
    I won't hyphenate because it would just sound silly. (FB friends you'll probably get a giggle if you check out BF's last name and then add mine. :P)

    As I said in the other thread, I'm still on the fence. I know BF wants me to take his last name, but he'd be ok with me keeping my own. I just have to decide what I actually want and I have a few years to figure it out.
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  • kayely88kayely88 member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't hyphenate my last name after I got married. Mostly because I've always wanted to take on my husband's name. That and my last name is so common. I really always liked the idea of taking my husband's name because to me it symbolizes us as a family and the start of a new family.
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hyphenated-married-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:090aaafc-ea8d-4f30-99d8-907b61d9c65aPost:f0c7ead0-7b79-4e1e-9ae0-d6b8bdf78c7d">Re: Hyphenated married name?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I won't hyphenate because it would just sound silly. (FB friends you'll probably get a giggle if you check out BF's last name and then add mine. :P)</strong> As I said in the other thread, I'm still on the fence. I know BF wants me to take his last name, but he'd be ok with me keeping my own. I just have to decide what I actually want and I have a few years to figure it out.
    Posted by deburnin[/QUOTE]

    I thought about that the other day when you posted in the other last name thread.  If I were you, I would totally hyphenate just for the awesomeness of it.
  • deburnindeburnin member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hyphenated-married-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:090aaafc-ea8d-4f30-99d8-907b61d9c65aPost:77da53eb-0d5f-4186-9d91-ec19c2c3c0ed">Re: Hyphenated married name?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hyphenated married name? : I thought about that the other day when you posted in the other last name thread.  If I were you, I would totally hyphenate just for the awesomeness of it.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    <div>lol Awesome to us adults, but I think that elementary school kids would be rather cruel about it. They were dumb enough about my last name on its own.</div>
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm taking his name because I don't have a reason not to. The only way I'd consider keeping mine is if I was really well established career-wise with my maiden name (i.e. tons of journal articles published under it). But since that's not gonna happen in a year, I'll take his.
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  • caitlin.cavecaitlin.cave member
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    edited December 2011
    My mother kept her maiden name, mostly because she was a hippie, but also because she felt like she'd established herself under that name.  When I was born, they gave me my father's last name.

    We actually had a lot of trouble with it when I was younger.  My teachers would get really confused, and in elementary school they sometimes didn't believe that she was actually my mother and not some random person I'd gotten to sign my permission slip.

    I don't know why that's relevant, I guess just keep it in mind if you plan on having kids. :)
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