The Abused girl DD'd!!

magsugar13

I hope she gets help and soon.

dreamingblue

I missed something...Who was it?! What happened?! What'd I miss?!

magsugar13

The girl who said she wanted her bf to get along with her mother. Her mother who accidentally insults everyone. She said her mother doesnt realize she does it, it just slips out. then asked why she didnt stand up to her mother she said the last time she did her mother beat her and the police had to remove her from her home! BUT she just wants everyone to get along happily.

dreamingblue

I clearly missed that one...I hope everything works out OK for her and she does get help.

notquiteblushing

Man...and I felt bad for her.  Her mother is crazy but she got some good advice.

Acrosthec

I saw that thread, and when I clicked on it it was gone. That situation sounds horrible. I hope she gets some help and everything works out. My parents can be crazy, and often say things that are insulting to me and others without thinking about it, but they usually figure it out and apologize, not beat me up for telling them they're being inappropriate. Wow, that's over the line, obviously.

jeanacorina

Wow, I didn't see that part of it. Must have been after I left work.Did someone say something that made her DD? I hope nobody was too harsh on her... that's an awful thing to happen. I really hope that her mom gets some serious help. I'm sure that after something like that the OP would need some counseling too. Poor thing.

magsugar13

No I wasn't harsh on her...she thanksed us all for the advice and told us we were right, but then came back and her last post was about her mother beating her.I responded that she need to get into counseling ASAP and learn how to give up her unrealistic picture in her mind of everyone getting along great with eah other.Would she want to be all nicey nice with someone who beat her BF?I came back 5 min. later and she was gone.

jeanacorina

Poor thing was probably sorry she even posted about it.

alianne87

I was embarassed that I brought it up at all, like you said. It happened 4 years ago, and since then I've tried to keep my distance and my sanity. I went to see a counselor every day after it happened for several months, and eventually my mom and I talked about it after the court date when the restraining order was lifted. I didn't want this to turn into a big mess, but it was starting to look like that, so I pulled the post. I know you all are very concerned, but things are far better now than they were at that point in my life. It was because of that situation that I became self-reliant and that has made me a stronger person. Thank you for your concern, now can we please drop it?

magsugar13

You can drop it if you'd like, but i still rec. that you return to counseling to learn how to deal with your mother and her "accidental" insults and how to be realistic regarding her relationships. You have not learned to deal with it fullt and still need a lot of help. What you would learn in counseling now and what you learned 4 years ago would be totally different. Your issues are different now than they were then.

alianne87

That may be true, but I'm short on time as it is. It's not going to be changed overnight, and when I do have more time I plan on looking into that and a few other things. I know you are trying to help, and I appreciate it. Now is just not the best time to be spending money I don't have on something I can't fix by myself. Someday it will be the right time, and at that point I will.