WTF MOM?! (vent)

Bowlingchick825

My family, INCLUDING my Mom, has been told not once, not twice, but on 3 separate occassions that my son & I moving in with my BF is not because we are engaged or married.  It's because we are taking that "next step" in our relationship.

My mother just called me and was going on and on about what she had found late last night when she should have been sleeping (I'm talking like 3:30AM).  She said that she found the location she'd like us to have for our reception, and the location she thought would be perfect for pictures. 

Seriously? I don't understand what part of "NO we aren't engaged! Please stop forcing the issue" means!!!  Oh em gee.  I just don't get her.  I texted my BF and he responded with WTF MOM?!  Then he also said "When it happens, she'll be the LAST person we tell....like a week before we send out the wedding invitations."  Hahaha.

I just don't understand why it is that she keeps on forcing the issue.  She knows, as I've told her, that it'll happen when it happens.  I'm guessing she thinks that the house is my "engagement" ring.  **Slams head into brick wall**

thejucheidea

My parents are super chill about the whole marriage thing. They lived together pretty much from when they started dating, so it's no big thing that Tyler and I live together and have been living together for the whole time we've been dating. They never ask and I love that!

His parents (and family in general) are very interested in knowing when we'll get engaged and subsequently married, but bless their hearts, they only torture him with the question! It's pretty much the best thing ever.

Sorry you have to deal with that though. Sucks.

wink0erin

I'd just ignore her and say "mmhmm, ok mom, thanks but no thanks"

I've had similar convos with my mom, and she knows we aren't engaged and aren't planning on it just yet.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]My family, INCLUDING my Mom, has been told not once, not twice, but on 3 separate occassions that my son & I moving in with my BF is not because we are engaged or married.  It's because we are taking that "next step" in our relationship. My mother just called me and was going on and on about what she had found late last night when she should have been sleeping (I'm talking like 3:30AM).  She said that<strong> she found the location she'd like us to have for our reception</strong>, and the location she thought would be perfect for pictures.  Seriously? I don't understand what part of "NO we aren't engaged! Please stop forcing the issue" means!!!  Oh em gee.  I just don't get her.  I texted my BF and he responded with WTF MOM?!  Then he also said "When it happens, she'll be the LAST person we tell....like a week before we send out the wedding invitations."  Hahaha. I just don't understand why it is that she keeps on forcing the issue.  She knows, as I've told her, that it'll happen when it happens.  I'm guessing she thinks that the house is my "engagement" ring.  **Slams head into brick wall**
Posted by Bowlingchick825[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>She's just excited for your future; you kind of have to suck it up and deal with it.</div><div>
</div><div>The bolded part kinda bugs me, though.  The place where <em>she'd</em> like you to have your (someday) reception?  Um, no.  Take it from someone who's been a victim to her mother's hijacking of all wedding plans and shut that behavior down right now.  Tell her that, when you get engaged, you'll pick the reception location yourself and will ask her for help or opinions if you want them.

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bethsmiles

I'd just ignore her. My mom is awful about that kind of stuff, I've learned to just smile and nod then change the subject. Obviously it's no use trying to explain it to her anymore (if she hasn't gotten it by now she just doesn't want to) so I would just do my best to stay clear of the subject.

Bowlingchick825

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[QUOTE]In Response to WTF MOM?! (vent) : She's just excited for your future; you kind of have to suck it up and deal with it. The bolded part kinda bugs me, though.  The place where she'd  like you to have your (someday) reception?  Um, no.  Take it from someone who's been a victim to her mother's hijacking of all wedding plans and shut that behavior down right now.  Tell her that, when you get engaged, you'll pick the reception location yourself and will ask her for help or opinions if you want them.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

I couldn't agree more with that.  I looked up the places she mentioned, and although they are pretty, they aren't  what I would consider "US."  I plan to make sure that when we are engaged that she won't be hijacking my wedding....afterall, it would be OUR wedding, not HERS!!!

leia1979

Look at the upside. At least your mom is excited for you.