Hello all-
My name is B and I live in Austin, Texas. My wonderful boyfriend John and I have been together for 4 years this past February.
I am 29 years old (30 in September, thank God!) and he is 31. I think that's it's amazing that there is this a board for this because ladies (and gents if there are any reading this) I will totally need some talking down.
I know me and through therapy (yes, I am in therapy and I am NOT ashamed of it.) I know that I can't wait around forever for him to "know" he wants to marry me. We have talked about it, and he says that he really thinks that we are going to get married and that he knows I will be an awesome (his word) mother and wife.
He just doesn't seem to feel any sense of urgency on this. Which I decided that I can give this relationship five years. Not that us getting married 10 years from now wouldn't be amazing, I just know me. After five years I will start to resent him and it's just going to make our relationship unbearable.
So yeah, I'm going to need some strength to get through this next year. I know that sticking for now is the right thing to do. And I have in no way just been sitting around waiting for a ring and not letting my life progress. I am going back to school for another degree, this time to be a nutritionist (R.D.) and I have a nice house fund started.
There will be days I need to vent, but for the most part I need to ask this of y'all...
How do I wait without pressure or hovering? I do talk and think about marriage and children and all that good stuff a lot now, but I am trying not to make him super crazy because if I make him crazy I really won't get a ring...
Help contain my crazy, please?