I told you I hate Thanksgiving...

ravenray

So I am venting a little because I don't think FI wants to hear me complaining about the same things over again.  And truly it wasn't so so so terrible, yet I am unhappy.

 

The morning started off great, FI and I went for a 3 mile walk and I made those yummy pie cookies but used a Berry filling and they were a huge success!  Then we had dinner with his parents, it was fine and not very exciting but fine.  I was looking forward to having dessert with my family and family friends because we always play games.  Well that is where it all went downhill.  We get there and the air is thick with tension.  My dad and the other dad were watching the 49ers game and it was clear that the moms were pissed about it.  Well my mom’s friend decides to get all bitchy with me because I don't want to play a game, and she wouldn't let it go.   She kept making comments about the game we were currently playing.  I was so pissed at her.  Then there were my brothers, who were just as loud as they could be and were giving me a headache.  Best part is I get to spend 10 hours in the car ride with them tomorrow.  Someone shoot me now.  Speaking of trips does anyone live in Oregon?  I am going to be there for the weekend and would love to see someone if anyone lives there.  Do we have anyone in Oregon?

 

So tell me about your Thanksgiving/normal Thursdays to make me feel better.  Also any thoughts and prayers for me this weekend.  I just found out that my grandfather has stage 4 lung cancer and we are going to see him.  I have been a mess all week.

bethsmiles

I'm sorry you didn't enjoy your Thanksgiving. I was having an okay day until BF decided to be a jerk. Now I'm watching friends and wishing I would have a glass of wine but we drank all the wine earlier today

ETA: I will pray for you and your family *hugs*

peekaboo2011

Aw, Ray, I'm sorry.  I hate when family holidays go to crap like that.  If it's any consolation, I woke up once to my parents fighting on Christmas.  Yippee.

I just finished the Hunger Games...the first one.  One of the attorneys from work lent me the series, and I wasn't able to put the first one down.  I can't fall asleep now, so I'm just sitting here on the internetz.  I did just come up with a ballin pattern for a quilt I'm going to do for a Christmas present.  Joann's is having an AWESOME sale tomorrow, so I've got about 8000 yards of fabric to buy for various projects.  I'm just really excited about everything I'm making.  I seriously cannot wait to get back to SC and get everything set up and start cutting into my fabric.  And I haven't even bought it yet.  :-D

kaitlynmichelle

Many hugs for you.  

My normal Thursday was blah.  Had to work most of my shift with my boss, which I hate doing lately since he's such a jerk.  I also forgot my umbrella at work so I'm praying it doesn't rain tomorrow, but that's asking a lot in Vancouver.

Peaseblossom55

So sorry to hear Ray hugs to you

alanna91

Ugh, what a horrible chain of events for you
I wish I could say something to make you feel better. My grandfather has had lung cancer for about four years now. Having family around and knowing your loved makes the fight easier, so it's good you're all going to see him

This Thanksgiving was pretty bad. It was just my mother and I for most of it because if you remember what was going on with my family a week ago...yeah...my father and brother weren't able to make it.

I was supposed to go over BF's grandmother's house but it took my own grandmother hours to get ready to come over our house. She didn't eat when she got here, and my mother didn't eat until about twenty minutes after I did. I wasn't going to wait to eat when there were only two other people and my delicious Tofurky was sitting right there on the counter. We're all pretty upset with the recent happenings so there wasn't much talking or anything until BF came over.

ETA: I want to say I'm so impressed with you and BF going for a long walk before Thanksgiving. Well, impressed and jealous! All I did was sleep, eat, and cook. Good on you and your FI

dwest2201

I am sorry to hear that your Thanksgiving wasn't great...that stinks.  Mine kind of went down hill too..not as severely though.  After a few hours my son was being a bit of a grump, I got a headache and BF was just off enjoying playing cards and BS-ing.  When we left he just gave me a peck and said bye, love you...I would have really like for him to help carry my son out to the car (he weighs about 45lbs. and it was a long walkwith his heavy butt! 

Also, hugs for you and prayers for your family.  My Mother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer at 42, its was devastating.  Do you know yet if it is small cell or non-small cell?  Is it in the lungs, bronchi, breast bone?  Is it operable (usually depends on the type, location, and patients overall health)?   If you ever want to talk more about lung cancer I'm here, honey.

ravenray

<p class="MsoNormal">Thanks you all.<span>  </span>Today was good overall.<span>  </span>We got to see him a bunch and he told us about his life which I enjoyed.<span>  </span>Saying goodbye was so hard.<span>  </span>I have been kind of a mess since then.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> </p> <p class="MsoNormal"> </p> <p class="MsoNormal">In Response to Re: I told you I hate Thanksgiving...:</p> <p class="MsoNormal">[QUOTE]I am sorry to hear that your Thanksgiving wasn't great...that stinks.<span>  </span>Mine kind of went down hill too..not as severely though.<span>  </span>After a few hours my son was being a bit of a grump, I got a headache and BF was just off enjoying playing cards and BS-ing.<span>  </span>When we left he just gave me a peck and said bye, love you...I would have really like for him to help carry my son out to the car (he weighs about 45lbs. and it was a long walkwith his heavy butt!<span>  </span>Also, hugs for you and prayers for your family.<span>  </span>My Mother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer at 42, its was devastating.<span>  </span>Do you know yet if it is small cell or non-small cell?<span>  </span><strong>Is it in the lungs, bronchi, breast bone?<span>  </span>Is it operable (usually depends on the type, location, and patients overall health)?<span>   </span>If you ever want to talk more about lung cancer I'm here, honey.</strong></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]</p> <p class="MsoNormal">All I know is that one of his lungs has shut down (the one that has it ) and he needs constant oxygen.<span>  </span>It isn't operable.<span>  </span>He is back at home with my grandma and he is 85.<span>  </span>My grandma thinks it won't be long.<span>  </span>He had a stroke or a heart attack three weeks ago and had to have surgery.<span>  </span>He still wasn't feeling well so they went back and found that it was cancer. That was on Tuesday.<span>  </span>He hasn't been eating much and is running a fever.<span>    </span>Thank you so much.<span>  </span>I really appreciate it.</p>

dwest2201

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_told-hate-thanksgiving?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1eb201b0-58d7-4e87-9783-4683698d66eaPost:e3cda85e-2c17-4271-b2fb-de4b47fe51b0">Re: I told you I hate Thanksgiving...</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks you all.   Today was good overall.   We got to see him a bunch and he told us about his life which I enjoyed.   Saying goodbye was so hard.   I have been kind of a mess since then.     In Response to Re: I told you I hate Thanksgiving...: All I know is that one of his lungs has shut down (the one that has it ) and he needs constant oxygen.   It isn't operable.   He is back at home with my grandma and he is 85.   My grandma thinks it won't be long.   He had a stroke or a heart attack three weeks ago and had to have surgery.   He still wasn't feeling well so they went back and found that it was cancer. That was on Tuesday.   He hasn't been eating much and is running a fever.     Thank you so much.   I really appreciate it.
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

Well I can say that if his health isn't very good, which it sounds like it isn't and it's inoperable then it's probably best for him to just be as comfortable as possible.  The treatments used against cancer are really harsh and would probably do more harm than good to him considering his health, age, etc.  I'm glad to hear that you and your family are going to see him, I hope that he isn't in a lot of pain and that you can enjoy some time together.

My Mom's was in the bronchi and inoperable, she was in (good health, ate well, worked out, hadn't smoked for many years).  She went through chemo and radiation, but it spread to her brain, she had that (operable) tumor removed and did more chemo and radiation, the treatments really sucked the life out of her (an otherwise mostly healthy woman in her early 40's).  She was on oxygen after the first few months as well, the rapid decline from healthy to very obviously sick shocking.  By the end she was taking Oxycodone multiple times a day, so I know that it can be very painful.  Her last days were spent at an in-patient Hospice center, I don't know if you have those nearby, but they were amazing and I cannot say enough good things about her being there.  Family can come and go all day/night, they even have showers for family, but we lived so close we just took turns going home for a bit. 

Oh, I wanted to tell you that my mom's oncologist was Chinese and did a lot of natural treatments in conjunction with the traditional western chemo/radiation.  She did acupuncture for pain, and hyperbaric treatments at times as well and drank a "tea" of ground herbs that was supposed to help the immune system...perhaps some of these things could help keep him from getting worse too rapidly and/or provide added comfort. 

ETA: HUGS!!

ravenray

Thanks so much for the kind words Jessica. 

dwest2201

You're welcome. 

Here's another big HUG for you!  I'll be thinking/praying for your grandpa and you/your family.