Anyone had a pregnancy scare?

CCO2012

I was just a few days late this month and wasn't really that nervous. But, when I did get my period I was kind of disappointed. I'm thinking it's a good sign that I want to have children with him, even though I know I'm not really ready. What's up with this? Anyone else have a similar experience?

Elle1036

I have a couple pregnancy scares in my day, but I've never felt disappointed at the end of one.

bourgehm

I don't have any pregnancy scares because it would be a miracle if I was to get pregnant. Like virgin Mary kind of miracle. However, I imagine that if I did have a chance at being pregnant, I'd be freakign out every month. I just dont' want kids just yet.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]I don't have any pregnancy scares because it would be a miracle if I was to get pregnant. Like virgin Mary kind of miracle. However, I imagine that if I did have a chance at being pregnant, I'd be freakign out every month. I just dont' want kids just yet.
Posted by bourgehm[/QUOTE]

This exactly! The last time I went to the student health center they kept asking me if I was pregnant, I finally had to tell them that unless I'm the Virgin Mary there is no chance in hell I'm pregnant. That got them to stop asking.

I really want kids someday, but not in the next couple of years.

leia1979

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[QUOTE]I have a couple pregnancy scares in my day, but I've never felt disappointed at the end of one.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

Eye to eye, Elle.

HeartOverMind

I've had a few and I admit, I was a little disappointed when I finally got my period. We are in no way ready to procreate but I can't wait to have children with him! He thinks I'm acting crazy when I tell him about the disappointment, but whatev!

sparkles88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone had a pregnancy scare? : This exactly! The last time I went to the student health center they kept asking me if I was pregnant, I finally had to tell them that unless I'm the Virgin Mary there is no chance in hell I'm pregnant. That got them to stop asking. I really want kids someday, but not in the next couple of years.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

Student health centers like to think that everyone who walks through the door is pregnant. One time the health center at my school mixed up pregnancy tests and told my friend she was pregnant. She was a virgin, so there was no doubt in her mind about it, but could you imagine all the unnecessary worry if she wasn't a virgin!? That would be the ultimate pregnancy scare.

lunarsongbird

I'm never late...but this month I was. I want to have children so very much! I know that there is probably never the perfect time to have kids....but ideally, I would like to be settled and have a home first. And Andrew most definitely wants to be married first.

So hopefully we'll start trying within the next 5 years. But after there are a few more bucks in the bank- and a ring on my finger- I don't think I would mind having a bun in the oven. LOL!

Oh- and PS...I was just late. It arrived and Andrew and I were both pleased.

misskrysbaby

I've had a few with my fiancé, not real one's like missing a period but just wierd symptoms and being a few days late. There was a tiny bit of disappointment, I think that's mostly just my biological clock really, and after that I come to my senses and realize that we have sooo much we want to accomplish before we start trying to have children.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone had a pregnancy scare? : Student health centers like to think that everyone who walks through the door is pregnant. One time the health center at my school mixed up pregnancy tests and told my friend she was pregnant. She was a virgin, so there was no doubt in her mind about it, but could you imagine all the unnecessary worry if she wasn't a virgin!? That would be the ultimate pregnancy scare.
Posted by sparkles88[/QUOTE]

I really hate going to the student health center. I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I don't have sex. But they never believe me and it is really frustrating. I get that I'm probably not the average college student but come on not every college student is out partying all the time.

stemms8810

I just had one actually.  I was more scared than BF.  We both want to have children together after we are married and if it happened before I would freak out some but BF wasn't worried at all.  He was just like, well it would be sooner than planned but we are getting married anyway.  I already have a daughter from college with an ex that was not planned so I don't want to go down that road again.  I would prefer to be married next time.  I am on birth control and don't plan on going off of it until we are married and discuss it but at this point I would have to say if an unplanned pregnancy happened I would be a little freaked out but happy at the same time if that makes sense.

MLekathLEEN

The only disappointment was knowing that this extra pudge was just me being a chunkster and not preggo. LOL

LizzyTish88

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[QUOTE]The only disappointment was knowing that this extra pudge was just me being a chunkster and not preggo. LOL
Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]

Have I told you lately that I love you?



I have had a few. Mainly being late and other weird symptoms on the side. BF was nervous and I was a little disappointed. I am one to believe that if it is to happen, it is meant to be, so I would be happy no matter what. BF and I have also discussed that if it were to happen now, we would be happy. We want to do things the right was, but won't be too heartbroken if it doesn't work that way. BF has actually said he would rather have kids than get married. (Just in passing, nothing serious, he does want to get married)

DanieKA

I had a few in college that freaked me out! I think I was just stupid and nervous, because there was never really any cause for alarm, I didn't keep track of my cycle back then like I do now and who knows if I was ever really late, but I was young and dumb, and I didn't want to be young and dumb and with a baby. I had so much more drinking and partying to do!!!! Ha!

Now, being 29, I'm much more zen about it. I am definitely up on taking the pill, and Im not lazy about protection, but at this age, if it happens I'm much more equipped to deal with the consequences. I've always wanted a family and I love and trust my guy. Now of course, I've never had a scare in this relationship. But if it were to happen, it would be much less scary. It wouldn't be ideal, but I wouldn't be a scared 21 or 22 year old, still living in college apartments, with 3 roommates, and living completely off my parent's dime. 

My folks might even be elated were I to get knocked up as I'd have the first (if not only) grandkids. They are desperate for grandchildren! I have to keep telling them, "A few more years! GAH!"

ADTonk

I was late this month (like 2 weeks late!) and I was sorta freaking out a little bit.  I forgot to pick up BC in time so I wasn't on it this month - something that always makes me late.  Without giving TMI, we were careful, but not as careful as we could have been. 

I was super nervous because the timing wouldn't be ideal, but excited all at the same time.   At this point in our relationship, all he has to do is say the word and I'd marry him and get preggo today.  Needless to say, I was a little bit dissappointed when I got AF, but glad all at the same time because I would rather be able to say that our children were planned

Blue & White

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone had a pregnancy scare? : Student health centers like to think that everyone who walks through the door is pregnant. One time the health center at my school mixed up pregnancy tests and told my friend she was pregnant. She was a virgin, so there was no doubt in her mind about it, but could you imagine all the unnecessary worry if she wasn't a virgin!? That would be the ultimate pregnancy scare.
Posted by sparkles88[/QUOTE]

I had a roommate who was in the Virgin Mary club (i.e. obviously not pregnant without divine intervention) and the student health center refused to give her the HPV vaccine because they said "it doesn't work as well when you're sexually active".  Not only is that wrong, but she had never even seen a peen in her life, ya know?  That means she's not sexually active.

That being said, I actually had a REALLY good doctor at the same student health center (but I shop around for docs, cause I need good ones)

KatyRoseM

Our student health center would ask everyone if they were pregnant.  They did believe the men when they said no though. 

csousa1

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[QUOTE]The only disappointment was knowing that this extra pudge was just me being a chunkster and not preggo. LOL
Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]

HAHAHAH I totally get this. I had a preggo scare in the first year that BF and I were together. I was late, emotional, and pudgier than usual. When my period finally came I was like, "Yes! Dammit, that means the rest of it is just me....crap." Lol

bourgehm

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone had a pregnancy scare? : I really hate going to the student health center. I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I don't have sex. But they never believe me and it is really frustrating. I get that I'm probably not the average college student but come on not every college student is out partying all the time.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

Beth, we're so alike!

CCO2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone had a pregnancy scare? : HAHAHAH I totally get this. I had a preggo scare in the first year that BF and I were together. I was late, emotional, and pudgier than usual. When my period finally came I was like, "Yes! Dammit, that means the rest of it is just me....crap." Lol
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

Haha yeah I was only late by like 3 days this month and I am on Nuvaring so very unlikely I could have been pregnant. But my boobies were bigger and I was pudgier so I thought maybe lol... But no, just AF and her glorious fun messing with me again! lol

I had a few scares with my ex fiance and I was always so relieved that I wasn't pregnant. But, with my current bf I don't think I would be upset if I were to get pregnant. He is definitely THE ONE and I'm older and more financially stable then I was back then. I would still like to buy our house, get married, go to grad school, etc... before I get a bun in my oven though! ;)

PS: I'm really starting to love this board!  It is a really nice place to share my "crazy" with a lot of women in my same position... Thanks guys!

cu97tiger

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[QUOTE]I was just a few days late this month and wasn't really that nervous. But, when I did get my period I was kind of disappointed. I'm thinking it's a good sign that I want to have children with him, even though I know I'm not really ready. What's up with this? Anyone else have a similar experience?
Posted by CCO2012[/QUOTE]

<div>About four years ago, before I met BF, I was in an on-again off-again relationship. (Warning, this might be TMI). One night, after 'doing the deed,' we couldn't find the condom. We thought maybe we'd imagined he'd put one on, and didn't think much else about it. Grossly, a day later when I was peeing, it came out. I was convinced I was going to be pregnant. I mean, essentially we didn't use any BC.</div><div>
</div><div>A week later I got my period and I was actually disappointed. That's when I knew that I really wanted to have children someday. It was ok that I wasn't pregnant then, because the situation would have been difficult, but it changed my outlook on whether kids were in my future.</div><div>
</div><div>On a super cute/happy note, this morning on the radio they were talking about women with cravings while they are pregnant, and BF turned to me and said 'What crazy cravings are you going to have when you're pregnant?' I almost melted. I love when we talk about these awesome life events in the 'when' category instead of 'if' :) :) :)</div>

leia1979

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone had a pregnancy scare? : I really hate going to the student health center. I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I don't have sex. But they never believe me and it is really frustrating. I get that I'm probably not the average college student but come on not every college student is out partying all the time.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

I hear you, Beth. That was me in college. I still don't smoke and only have one alcoholic beverage every 2-3 months.

achiduck

I've had two scares in my life, and I was SOOOO glad both times that I was not pregnant. It was the worst 5 minutes of my life (times two) waiting for the stick to say not pregnant!

Wrkn925

I haven't had any scares.

When I wasn't sexually active and still getting the Depo shot, I would sometimes wait past the appropriate window just to fit an appointment in my schedule.  The dr would require me to take a pregnancy test, which pissed me off because I knew I couldn't be pregnant and they charge $30 for a freakin Dollar Store test.

I'm more prepared now to deal with an unplanned pregnancy than I've ever been, but I'm more scared because I know the chances of a fetus surviving IUD removal is slim. (Even though I did.)

ravenray

I had one when I was 14.  I never really had much sex ed so I had no Idea.  I wasn't sexual active but I had been hanging out with this boy alone all day and my parents were really mad at me.  I skipped a month.  I spent the entire month stressing out because I was like how could I be prego?  But I missed my period!  My poor 14 year old self was so confused and worried.  And I couldn't share my fears with anyone.  It was awful, lol.  Now I know better.

bourgehm

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[QUOTE]I had one when I was 14.   I never really had much sex ed so I had no Idea.   I wasn't sexual active but I had been hanging out with this boy alone all day and my parents were really mad at me.   I skipped a month.   I spent the entire month stressing out because I was like how could I be prego?   But I missed my period!   My poor 14 year old self was so confused and worried.   And I couldn't share my fears with anyone.   It was awful, lol.   Now I know better.
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

It's called pregnancy by association!

ravenray

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone had a pregnancy scare? : It's called pregnancy by association!
Posted by bourgehm[/QUOTE]
<span style="font-size:11pt;line-height:115%;font-family:'Calibri','sans-serif';">Ya it was most likely because he stood so close to me and because I liked him.<span>  </span>lol.<span>  </span>I was so silly.</span>

AudgiePodge

On more than a few occasions.

If it were to happen now, I'd be super excited.

ravenray

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[QUOTE]On more than a few occasions. If it were to happen now, I'd be super excited.
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]
<3 Me too!!  For you that is not for me.  Seeing as you are trying for kids isn't that no longer a scare?  OMG 1 day!!

lunarsongbird

One day! Holy cow! That's so exciting!!

RavenRay- That must have been so scary as a 14 year old!!

ravenray

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[QUOTE]RavenRay- That must have been so scary as a 14 year old!!
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
Terrifying considering I wasn't sure how it happened.  It is okay.  I'll just make sure my daughter has better sexual ed.. lol